YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship

Everyone, whether neurodiverse or neurotypical, uses some form of masking or filter as a part of their social interactions. In this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton shares a personal story about her autistic daughter's masking strategy, called 'inside face and outside face', which her daughter uses to manage her social interactions.  00:00 Introduction to Masking in Neurodiverse Relationships 00:45 Und...

In this episode from her YouTube channel , Jodi Carlton addresses common challenges that both partners in neurodiverse relationships often face.   00:00 Introduction to Intimacy Conversations 00:34 Understanding Personal Perspectives on Sexuality 01:33 Cultural and Social Influences on Sexuality 02:29 Challenges of Modern Sexuality and Media Influence 04:02 Navigating Expectations and Roles in Int...

This bonus clip highlights a personal story of someone struggling in their relationship with a boyfriend who has Asperger's. Despite receiving counseling, the relationship faces recurring issues such as explosive behavior and silent treatments from the autistic partner.  00:00 Introduction: Meet Jodi Carlton, Neuro Diverse Relationship Expert 00:08 A Viewer's Struggle: Reconnecting with an Asperge...

This is the final episode in a five-part series, Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships, where my co-host, Mona Kay, talks with me about steps for addressing relationship challenges to find a path forward. We share personal stories and insights into the challenges we faced in our own marriages.  In this episode, we specifically discuss how inappropriate hope is such a common problem for  partners a...

In this episode of a 5-part series, Jodi Carlton and her co-host, Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, delve into the personal experiences and critical insights into Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships. They provide a retrospective look at their marriages, both of which ended after two decades, and clarify that their mission is not to advocate for divorce but to assist individuals in und...

Relationship challenges are like icebergs; what you see on the surface is just a fraction of what lies beneath. If you don’t look underneath the surface to uncover all of what is contributing to the problems, your chances aren’t good for navigating your way to a fulfilling relationship. In this episode of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship,” Mona and I share our own mistakes that ultimatel...

Mona and I delve into the necessity of 'stopping the bleed' when your relationship is stuck and has become hopeless. We address the most damaging issues in relationships by sharing our own personal stories and insights from being in neurodiverse marriages for over two decades. Mona and I discuss the importance of recognizing and stopping toxic cycles, the benefits of both individual and couple's t...

In this 5-episode podcast series, I (Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert), and Mona Kay of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, share very personal experiences from our own marriages to neurodiverse partners. We share a five-step approach for assessing relationship challenges and navigating a path forward. The podcast covers toxic dynamics, the importance of understanding neurodiversity in...

In season four of 'YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship' podcast, Jodi Carlton teams up with Mona Kay from the “Neurodiverse Love” podcast to dive deep into personal experiences and professional insights on managing neurodiverse relationships. They discuss five key steps for assessing relationship challenges, whether it involves working together with a partner for a better connection or realizing it's t...

In this episode, Jodi Carlton, a neurodiversity expert and relationship coach who also specializes in personality disorders, addresses a dangerous myth that everyone has narcissistic traits. She emphasizes the distinction between common human behaviors and the destructive characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. Jodi highlights specific traits exclusive to narcissism, such as enjoying...

In this bonus episode, neurodiversity expert and relationship coach Jodi Carlton explains the differences between autism and narcissistic personality disorder. She emphasizes that while both conditions can exist in the same individual, they are fundamentally unrelated, with autism being neurodevelopmental and genetic, and narcissism being potentially linked to genetics and social learning. Jodi di...

Neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses the issue of lying within autism relationships in this bonus episode. 00:00 Neurodiverse Relationships and Lying 00:50 Understanding White Lies in Relationships 01:32 When Couples Have a Parental-Child Dynamic 01:46 An Example of Lying to Avoid Conflict 02:17 Differentiating Between Types of Lies 02:46 Recognizing and Addressing Lying in Rela...

In this bonus episode, Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares explains why autistic individuals struggle to stay focused in a conversation and shares some strategies for both partners to help with this challenge. 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ year...

Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares a tip about improving communication with your autistic partner in this bonus episode.  👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD,...

In this bonus episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares advice on handling emotional responses in neurodiverse relationships. Jodi emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the validity of emotions from both partners, and discusses the problems that arise when fight or flight responses overwhelm the conversation and issues are not resolved. 00:00 A YouTube Comment 00:52 Vali...

In the bonus episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, explores the crucial aspects of setting boundaries and recognizing deal-breakers in neurodiverse relationships.    00:00 Introduction 00:17 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships 01:12 The Difference Between Boundaries and Control 01:46 Setting Boundaries in Response to Negative Behavior 02:00 Teaching Boundaries to Children...

Neurodiverse relationship expert responds to a question about autism in gay men in this bonus episode.  She emphasizes that regardless of whether someone is gay, heterosexual, or identifies with any other sexual orientation, their autistic traits remain the same. Autism is a part of who they are, and it doesn't change based on their sexual orientation. For more resources like articles, podcasts, a...

In this bonus episode, #neurodiverserelationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses a YouTube viewer's comment that details severe abuse in a past relationship with an 'undiagnosed autistic man'. Jodi empathizes with the viewer but stresses the importance of distinguishing between autism and narcissistic, abusive behavior. She explains that individuals with autism are not inherently abusive, whereas th...

BONUS Episode: Neurodiversity Nugget What happens in some relationships is in the beginning, there was this chemistry, there was this connection,  and it was great. There is often a lot happening there physically. Some of that greatness, though, was your own perception of greatness that was influenced by what you hoped for and wanted. When you are looking for confirmation that the relationship is...

This clip is from a Q & A where a neurotypical partner asked how to handle social outings with friends when you each have different preferences about socializing.  I share a tip for how to manage this so both of you are satisfied.   👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own...

Men and women often have very different #neurodivergent traits and the criteria for #autism was originally developed based on men. In this video, I discuss some of the unique differences in men and women. #autism #neurodivergent #autisticwomen #autisticmen #neurodiverserelationships ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamic...

In this video, originally recorded for an audience of women in relationships with #autistic men on the spectrum, I discuss SOME of the main characteristics of being in a #NeurodiverseRelationship. Women on the spectrum may also have some of these characteristics, but this video is specifically for neurotypical partners in relationships with men. Take my autism assessment at jodicarlton.com #autism...

Getting blindsided in any kind of relationship is horrible, whether it's a dating relationship, well into a marriage, a friendship, or A working relationship. It never feels good to feel blindsided. In actuality, we oftentimes get in our own way in being able to see who people really are. Sometimes it's hard to know how to make decisions about the people we meet - friendships, dating relationships...

When neurodiverse partners have different thresholds for household tasks and even relationship involvement, it is common for a "parent-child" dynamic to emerge. One partner takes on an authoritative role that issues directives, and the other becomes more child-like waiting on tasks to be assigned (and sometimes resisting to follow through).   This type of dynamic does NOT work in any relationship....

A #traumatic accident turned this #neurodiverse relationship completely around. Tune in to this final episode of Season 3 to hear how Kristen's marriage has changed thanks to hard work and a complete mindset shift. #autistic #neurodivergent #trauma #therapy #jodicarlton #podcast YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast; Season 3 - Episode 13 ___________________ 👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading...