Your Extraordinary Life & Dating After Divorce

“I just chose to see things through a different lens and ignore a sense of knowing within me.” “Often what I was doing in relationships was over functioning, which for me is like, I'm heaving them over the wall, whether they've said they want to go over or not…And I think that's part of why my current relationship is so successful is because I don't do that.” “Part of what&apos...

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“Your emotional state, your confidence, these have a lot more to do with your ability to succeed when dating, than which app that you're on, or the texts that you send, or…whatever strategy or where you go.”  “Your energy actually dictates your ability to be creative.” “If you shift into the energy of being your own matchmaker, that can help you get out of the venting, whining, crying, lament...

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“It was almost like I gave my power away. I assumed that if I liked him, he should like me back. And if he didn't like me back, I was the one who was doing something wrong.” “I learned to become a really, really authentic version of myself. Now, the way you do that isn't by looking outside of yourself. It's by looking inward.” “If your profile can be superimposed with another woman,...

“Because I kept trying to switch circumstances…like moving states, changing jobs…And I kept revisiting the same feelings of…I'm not satisfied…I'm not happy…there has to be more to life than this.” “I won't take the credit of being courageous and leaving the marriage. My subconscious self decided to burn my life down to get me out of it.” “If we don't have compassion for ourselv...

“I had a few underlying feelings, but I didn't have a vision, so to speak, until you took me through the Irresistible You Worksheets. That was the point that I got a clear vision of what my relationship could look like.” “I'm feeling really good about the place that we got to…I'm 43 and I've met the man of my dreams, so possible.” “So I was in a place where I was very clear abo...

“And our brains always feel like things that are out of reach are valuable or more valuable." “Attraction is not a one and done. It’s a journey. It's a learning process.” “The elements of attraction work both to create attraction with the right person. And they can also create attraction with the wrong person. And so when you are thinking that you don't feel the spark, that's n...

“When a woman over functions in relationships, typically it looks like doing everything for the guy…you set up all the dates, you move the relationship forward, you have all the conversations, you text him in, you give him money, he's always needing something, and you're always there to give it to him.” “Most men are just normal humans like you. And they're not going to look like a...

“When you think it's not going to work, you feel sad, you feel bad…that creates apathy, and a loss of motivation.” “You can learn how to shift your thinking because your brain is just a self fulfilling prophecy machine.” “You could choose to believe that you deserve an amazing love.” “Discouragement is just a lie that your brain is telling you to trick you into staying in the comfort zone to...

“You can read all the books and you can have the step by step and you can know exactly what to do, but if your mindset is working against you like there's really nothing that's going to happen, the journey will be painful and you'll probably give up along the way.” “ And if you let the things that happen along the way determine what you believe is possible for you, you're going...

“Fear is a normal part of the human experience, you're not going to get away from fear and you don't want to get away from fear. You don't want to not feel fear, fear actually keeps you safe.” “Dating and anxiety and the fear response does not have to stop you.” “Often we are jumping out into experiences outside of ourselves, into other people's experiences, into things people...

“What many don't realize is that…our brains are designed for a completely different purpose. Your brain is not designed to help you find love. Your brain is not designed to help you find that higher level partner. Your brain is designed to keep you safe.” “When you slow down and work through this process, you will realize just how frequently your brain tells you a story about what you were lo...

“Romantic love is still tainted by internalized sexist narratives and biases, and they continue to be expressed in society and continue to be reinforced.” “I think it's almost safe to say that all of us in some way, have internalized these sexist biases, because they're just in the air that we breathe.” “The historical narrative is that a woman's value lies in her usefulness to othe...

“What I really discovered was there’s just so much joy when you can own who you are, and move forward.” “ So I think the first part of it is to again, hire a coach, do your own work, grow yourself, this always comes. Learn how to respect yourself, treat yourself like you want to be treated, in your date and in your partnership show up for you.” “The more you show up for yourself, the more your int...

“I think the crux of the story is believing in yourself.” “It was like I got pushed out of the nest… the cliche is true, because that's when I learned I can fly on my own.” “I was very motivated to be independent, to stay in the house…not only to provide for my daughter, but to be an example of what was possible to her, that we didn't need…anybody else to take care of us, that we could d...

“And I realized that I had this ability to love more than one person.” “Our society has a tendency to say that it could only be one partner, this partner has to meet all your needs, and this … causes more harm and sadness in the world that needs to.” “(Being Polyamorous) is just another way of being, in terms of having more than one relationship, more than one loving relationship with people. “ Ou...

“I knew that my thoughts were creating my reality, I knew that my thoughts were creating my feelings.”   “When somebody withdraws and you have a lack of regulation or oxytocin, then they give it back to you and you feel a flooding…The big feelings you have after they took it from you. That's not love. That's not attraction. And that's not passion. That's addiction.”  “The thing...

“I was a huge people pleaser. I was very codependent. I didn't know that. At the time, I didn't know what that was.” “The funny thing is, when you let go of all that control, then sometimes you're pleasantly surprised about getting the exact thing you would have wanted.” “So I was having all these experiences with other people. And I was being treated in a much different way, like I...

“I became such a full time mom and homemaker that I had forgotten my favorite food or color."  "When women don't realize how much they lose themselves, when they start putting their marriage, their kids, their home first…they really let go of their identity.” “I think the biggest mistake that I made and that I see a lot of women that come to me make, is they think that once we clear...

“I had also experienced all of that guilt along the way…it was seven years of me parenting hard as a single mother…Going through a divorce, everything, parenting hard, trying to make sure everything was okay, knowing it wasn't okay. Feeling that guilt the whole time.” “Not only did you come with your list, but you listened to their lists, like a champion. And you took those punches, like a ch...

“You're not going to find anybody better than me, says the Narcissist.” “And just 2020 I was like, yeah, I can't do it anymore. Like I can't continue to get hurt. I can't continue to sit in something where my needs aren't getting met” “You're not a loser for wanting to get help. I mean, look at me, I got a coach, I got a therapist, I got friends, like I have a whole v...

“And so it took a couple years to work up the courage. And I think the turning point for me was, when somebody said to me, staying in this marriage is lying, because you're basically lying to that person, pretending that everything is fine when it's not, and you're lying to yourself.” “I think the reason it was so easy is because I had decided I don't need a partner to feel goo...

“I think a woman who has found love within herself, she has a certain knowing and beingness. And we all know that lady, she walks in a room and everybody is gravitating to her and she's doing nothing except being herself. And you're wondering, why can't people keep their eyes off her? It has nothing to fully do with her external looks. It has to do with this energy, this inner glow...

My guest on the podcast this week is Susie Castellanos Hansley.   In this episode, Susie shares the story of how childhood trauma led her to desperately wanting to be loved and how this led her to chasing the wrong person. Finally meeting a man who loved her for who she was, Susie shares the story of how she met her husband after going through a devastating breakup. This episode will thoroughly in...