Your Extraordinary Life & Dating After Divorce

Every time Dr. Jennie Young used Bumble or Hinge, the same thing happened: high hopes on day one, horror by day two. Then she remembered what she does for a living. Dr. Jennie is a rhetoric professor. She spent years doing critical discourse analysis on high school disciplinary handbooks — coding for toxic, gendered language patterns hidden inside official policies. One day, she turned that same a...

In this episode, I break down exactly how the halo effect shows up in dating, in difficult marriages, and in divorce — and why smart, high-achieving women fall for it just as hard as anyone else. (Maybe harder. Because we're good at building convincing stories.) A man can pay for every dinner from the first date to the wedding — and still refuse to share anything that matters once you're...

In this episode of Your Extraordinary Life and Dating After Divorce Podcast , I pull back the curtain on one of the most destructive patterns I see in women who are smart, capable, and completely worn out. I share stories from my own first marriage — including the season I drove to sales calls while six months pregnant so my ex-husband could build a business he never built. I was functioning as hi...

This episode is for the woman who has ever looked back and said, "I knew it. Why didn't I trust myself?" Sade unpacks why so many women dismiss their own instincts and how that dismissal — not the red flags themselves — leaves them most exposed. Memorizing red flags doesn't protect you. Situational awareness does. When you build that skill, no disguise fools you. Your nervous s...

You pride yourself on reading people. You pick up on moods, scan facial expressions, and adjust to keep the peace. But then your partner files for divorce, and you never saw it coming. A close friend betrays you, and it hits you like a truck. A man you're dating turns out to be nothing like you imagined. Sound familiar? In this episode, Sade breaks down why smart, capable women keep getting b...

What if the reason you keep ending up in draining relationships has nothing to do with what's wrong with you — and everything to do with how your brain operates? In this episode, I break down discernment — the skill that transforms every relationship in your life, from your marriage to your friendships to how you co-parent with your ex. Here's the truth: your brain runs on autopilot. It...

You tell yourself it won't happen. You avoid the word "divorce" like saying it out loud will make it real. You wait. You hope. You pray things shift. Meanwhile, assets move. Attorneys get hired — just not by you. And when it hits, you're blindsided. That was my story. I lost assets, lost leverage, and watched my divorce drag on because I refused to face what was happening. I th...

Divorce doesn't just break your heart — it can shatter your mental health in ways you never saw coming. You tell yourself you'll feel better once the papers are filed, once he moves out, once the court date passes. But the truth is, healing doesn't work on a timeline. Grief hits you in the strangest moments — standing in an unfamiliar grocery store, driving 40 minutes to your kids&a...

In this podcast episode, I discuss mistakes and mindset strategies for divorcing a person with narcissistic tendencies. Some people say the word narcissist is overused. I disagree. And I love that those people have the privilege of never having experienced a narcissist in an intimate setting. When women use this word, we know what we mean. We're describing an experience that can't be cap...

In this episode, I break down something I've coached women through but hesitated to share—quiet quitting your marriage. Quiet quitting works by releasing the fairy tale "Plan A" marriage that was never going to exist and designing a Plan B life that brings you peace. Your partner may have never had the capacity for the dream marriage you thought you were going to have. Until you gri...

Thinking about divorce? The way you approach telling your spouse can determine your safety, your financial future, and your children's wellbeing. This isn't about whether you should leave—it's about understanding what happens when you do. Most women walk into this conversation with the same mindset that kept them stuck in the relationship. You've minimized problems for years. Y...

You know that feeling when you say "I can't believe this is happening"? That phrase reveals something important: you might be stuck in denial. Divorce shatters your reality. It forces you to question your past, present, and future all at once. Your brain protects you by avoiding these overwhelming truths. But denial keeps you vulnerable. While you refuse to engage, reality moves for...

You might have noticed something different—we changed our name. Welcome to Your Extraordinary Life and Dating After Divorce . Same host, expanded mission. Here's what happened: I spent years focused on dating after divorce. But the truth? Half my clients work with me on other parts of the divorce journey—thinking about divorce, surviving the process, healing afterward. And I realized I was hi...

You think getting divorced at 23 is too young to learn anything valuable? Think again. Sade Mickelson, life coach and Chinese medicine expert, shares her story of marrying an Iranian restaurant owner who was arrested for federal drug charges while she was still in college. Instead of walking away, she doubled down—visiting him in prison, planning to move to Iran, and proving her capability at ever...

You know all about red flags and what men want. That information fills every dating coach's feed. But here's what nobody talks about: where your attention goes during your dating journey. Your attention determines everything. When you focus on the 99% of guys who aren't right for you, your mental energy flows there instead of toward your vision. When you obsess over your ex's n...

Rebuilding your life after divorce means rebuilding your career too. In this episode, I share how I escaped two layoffs in four years at my corporate job—and the four principles that saved me. These same principles apply whether you're navigating the job market or the dating scene. The Four Moves That Changed Everything: 1. Set Your Intention I put "full-time employee" on my vision...

You did the therapy. You read the books. You know your childhood patterns. So why do you keep running into the same toxic situations? Here's what I've discovered after six years of coaching divorced women: the awareness you need goes deeper than you think. Yes, you know your family-of-origin patterns. But there's a second layer most women miss—the conditioning around how women &quot...

You are strong. You are capable. You can handle anything life throws at you. But here's the truth: those exact traits might trap you in relationships that drain your soul. In this episode, I break down why high-achieving women—CEOs, attorneys, physicians, mothers who run the world—end up walking on eggshells with men who don't deserve them. Your resilience becomes your cage. Your strengt...

You've heard people talk about decentering men. But here's the problem: even that conversation still centers men. In this episode, I share a different approach. Instead of asking "Does he like me?" or "Will he treat me right?"—I teach you to ask better questions: "What do I want? What serves me? Do I feel safe and valued right now?" This is hard work. We spe...

Episode Summary: In this episode, Sade Curry kicks off a new series on what it means to live a relationship-centered life—and why that might be the thing keeping you stuck. You’ll hear Sade unpack the social conditioning that trains women to prioritize everyone else first: partners, kids, bosses, siblings, even exes. Sade breaks down why simply saying “decenter men” isn’t enough—because the issue...

Welcome back! Sade returns after settling into Miami city life to share a powerful observation from her coaching practice: mental clutter drains your energy and blocks your goals—especially your dating life. You might think romantic relationships cause most of your mental overwhelm. But Sade reveals the truth: women carry exhausting thought loops about everyone —parents, bosses, children, friends,...

Discovering the Best Version of Yourself After Divorce with Bee Quammie Ready to meet the woman you become after divorce? This episode will change how you see yourself and your future. Bee Quammie, multimedia storyteller and author of The Book of Possibilities , joins host Sade Curry to share raw truths about rebuilding after divorce.  Bee is a Jamaican-Canadian multimedia storyteller: a writer, p...

234.  Unshaming Divorce and Honoring Life with Kendell Lenice About This Episode What if divorce isn't a mark of failure, but a brave act of self-advocacy? This week, I sit down with Kendell Lenice, certified life coach and author known as "The Remix Coach." Kendell shares her powerful story of being divorced twice, her healing journey, and how she found love again when she wasn&apo...

In this heart-to-heart conversation, I sat down with Heidi Freeman, successful attorney and author of "Love Lessons: 104 Dates and the Stories That Led Me to True Love." Heidi shares how turning 40 sparked her quest to understand what true love looks like by interviewing couples in strong relationships. What began as research turned into 11 core themes about authentic connection. With re...