With Love, Lotoya

Life is fleeting, and yet we spend so much of it sitting in spaces that drain us, proving ourselves to people who refuse to see us, or waiting at doors that have long been closed. In this episode, Shanice reflects on the tension between what we crave and what we actually deserve. On being a slow learner in love and in life. On mistaking intensity for alignment. And on the realization that while we...

Solitude can be healing, but staying there too long can eventually turn into isolation. In this episode, Shanice reflects on the tension between retreating inward and returning to connection. She explores how self-isolation often disguises itself as self-preservation, and why communion with the people we love can be just as vital as time alone. A gentle reminder that while solitude has its place,...

There are moments when silence is self-protection. In this episode, Shanice reflects on disappearing, imposter syndrome, and the fear of showing up imperfectly. She explores the tension between authenticity and timing, and the grace required to let our work represent who we’ve been, not just who we are today. This is gentle reminder that pauses don’t erase purpose, and that returning doesn’t requi...

True connection is rare, and vulnerability is what makes it sacred. In this episode, Shanice reflects on the courage it takes to be seen, the beauty of being known without performance, and the importance of cherishing the people and spaces that make such honesty possible.

Healing is often portrayed as calm and beautiful, but sometimes, it’s exhausting. In this episode, Shanice opens up about the messy, nonlinear parts of growth: the burnout that comes with trying to “do the work,” and the quiet grace it takes to simply keep going. A reminder that rest, softness, and even stillness are part of the healing too.

Outgrowing isn’t failure, it’s progress. In this episode, Shanice reflects on the quiet, often uncomfortable signs that it’s time to move on. From subtle whispers to life’s louder nudges, she explores how change, though unsettling, is often a sign of alignment. A gentle reminder to listen when the world, and your spirit, says it’s time to go.

What if we’re running out of time? What would you stop postponing, love, truth, healing? In this episode, Shanice Lotoya reflects on mortality, urgency, and the quiet courage it takes to live honestly in the present. A gentle reminder that the perfect time may never come, and maybe that’s the point.

As children, many of us reached for love with open arms. But somewhere along the way, tenderness learned how to disappear. In this first episode, Shanice reflects on the distance between who she was and who she’s become, and how self-preservation reshaped her body, her touch, and her trust. This episode is a gentle reminder: protecting yourself is not failure. And even now, the soft child inside y...