Wife On The Rocks I Gaslighting, Addiction, Codependency, Al Anon, Alcoholism, Recovery

In this special two-part episode, I sit down with my husband—who is in long-term recovery from alcoholism—to answer a heartfelt and all-too-relatable question from a listener: "My husband admits his drinking is a problem, but he's not doing anything about it. If I ask him if he’s looked into AA, Celebrate Recovery, or Regeneration, he says he hasn’t had time and will look into it later. He’s gone...

Summer is supposed to be a time of fun, family, and freedom — but for Christian wives of alcoholics, events like the 4th of July, barbecues, and neighborhood gatherings can catch you off guard with behavior not anticipated. Expecting Family Time but your husband self sabotages in order to drink and you end up alone or with all the kids without him? In this heartfelt episode of Wife on the Rocks, w...

In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re talking about what it feels like to live in a world full of uncertainty—when bombs are being dropped overseas and emotional bombs are going off in your own home. With growing tensions between Israel and Iran and news of U.S. involvement, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the global instability. But for Christian wives married to alcoholics, the chaos isn’...

How do you know if someone is safe to talk to about your marriage, your alcoholic husband, or the chaos addiction is causing in your home? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we explore a powerful litmus test to help Christian wives of alcoholics discern who they can trust with their story—and who might cause more harm than help. If you’ve ever wondered whether you should open up to a friend, fa...

Are you the only one paying attention to the warning signs? What even are the warning signs for Liver Disease and Liver Cirhossis and when to expect them. There may be NO symptoms or concerns at this time, but looking in the future has you concerned? Maybe you are seeing his yellowing eyes, his constant fatigue, his mood swings? Let's unpack this together.  The only one praying for his health — wh...

As a Christian wife living with an alcoholic husband, you’ve probably wrestled with a deep emotional conflict: “I know I’m supposed to forgive, but I’m furious.” In this episode, we’re opening up the conversation about anger—what Scripture really says, why it’s not a sin to feel it, and how to move through it without shame. We’ll unpack the emotional toll of carrying an unfair burden, the conflict...

Still unsure if your husband is “just” a heavy drinker or a true alcoholic? The truth is: chasing a diagnosis often becomes a distraction that delays the healing process. In this episode, we talk about why trying to “figure him out” won’t fix anything—and what you can do instead. Whether your husband meets a textbook definition or not, the chaos still hurts, and you deserve peace. You'll hear: Why...

Are you constantly wondering whether your husband is an alcoholic or “just” a heavy drinker? Maybe you've searched for clarity in books, blogs, or online quizzes—hoping that labeling his behavior will give you peace. In this episode, we break down what the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous says about the three types of drinkers, including what defines a “real alcoholic”—and why understanding this f...

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re helping your husband or enabling his addiction, this episode is for you. As Christian wives, we’re called to love and support—but when codependency creeps in, it can be hard to tell if our actions are helping or hurting. In today’s episode, I share two simple but powerful questions—your litmus test—to help you decide where a boundary might be needed. These qu...

In this episode on boundaries, we return to the basics—what they are, why they matter, and how they serve as a powerful shield for your peace. Think of boundaries not as walls to keep your husband out, but as a protective dome that creates space between you and the chaos of addiction. This distance isn’t about punishment—it’s about preserving your well-being and protecting your children. If you're...

Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking!? Active Addiction comes with all kinds of twisted thinking in the mind to justify otherwise unhealthy behavior. In this powerful episode, we delve into the intricate journey from a husband's perspective as alcohol steadily takes command over life. I'm joined by my husband, who courageously opens up about the deep, internal conflict he faced dur...

In this powerful episode, Recovery of Your Family Begins With YOU!, I share a story I heard in Al-Anon that stopped me in my tracks—a story that helped me see how my efforts to “smooth things over” in a home affected by alcoholism were actually hurting more than helping. Children don’t need everything to look okay. They need someone who is okay—someone stable, trustworthy, and emotionally safe. As...

Send your questions to the show! hello@wifeontherocks.com Our kids are looking to us for guidance on how to navigate all of this. They can get caught up in the confusion and the family disease of alcoholism. As the wife of an alcoholic and the momma to these souls, and future ACOA members what can you be doing to help them to get through this too!? Our role is so important mommas!!   What legacy a...

The impact of alcoholism on me was IMMENSE! However, my kids were experiencing all of this too through the littlest eyes and innoent hearts! I did not used to know how to lead them through all of this! Addiction really impacted our family! I have learned SO many tools and nuggets of wisdom over the years that helped me to navigate what our family was experiencing! If you are a mamma bear, you don'...

Tune in to hear ONE thing that God taught me during this painful lonely season. Being married to an alcoholic who thinks that everything is FINE is SO frustrating! Active addiction is exhausting. AA says that Alcohol is "Cunning, Baffling and Powerful" and it is SO True. The one person that I wanted to talk to was the one person who was also hurting our family, so who else could I talk to? I didn'...

Today hear the ONE thing I did that helped me to start leaning on those that God had placed in my life. To bear someone else’s burden is a powerful expression of love and compassion, reminding us that we are not meant to walk through life alone. I needed friends and family to support myself and my children and ultimately my husband through this mess. Don't miss this episode! We all need each other...

Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com When the confusion and gaslighting are a normal way of life in your alchoholic marriage, and life is flying at you so fast, it is so hard to even recognize where to begin setting BOUNDARIES. Today I share my top foundational boundaries to begin with. Setting boundaries is never an easy task when addiction is present. Listen in to find out why I believe t...

Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com Lying about drinking is SO COMMON in alcoholic marriages! Christians are not immune to the lying and gaslighting! Have you experienced this? I never want to accuse someone of doing something, but if the proof is there it is SO CONFUSING for us as wives!  Send me your QUESTIONS! hello@wifeontherocks.com Want 1 on 1 support with your new bff and host of th...

Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com   It is the ultimate question! Join me as I pour out my heart on this topic that often took me captive and ran through my head on repeat! I didn't want to have to make an impossible choice! Do you find yourself thinking about these two options and trying to decide what to do? This is VERY common!! If I stay how do I shelter them from the impact of what t...

“ I feel like his mother!” Did you get married expecting a spouse and a life partner? Do you need someone to lean on and instead end up picking up all of the slack PLUS handling his stuff too? Are you struggling with conflicting thoughts on how to navigate these feelings? We will dive into the reasons that I believe contribute to this dynamic especially for Christian wives! As alcohol takes over,...

Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com   QUESTIONS? Submit your question to the email above and listen for a response on the show. Do you attend meetings already? If not, why? What options are even out there? What are the barriers you face? There are so many resources for us wives and I want to share a few with you today! Do not walk this journey alone! Alcoholism in the home is defeating and...

How to support ideas of Recovery in the New Year! Did your husband mention a New Years Resolution to cut back drinking? Are you praying he will walk into REVOVERY this Year? Do you wish he would make some kind of a commitment for change? Anything would give you hope at this point!! Tune in to hear how you can support recovery and future conversations. It isn't easy to offer support to him when thi...

Are you exhausted? The fallout can be immense after holidays or special occasions.  I believe we experience this at a higher and deeper level in marriages struggling with addiction and its impact on our families! Join me for some tips to get the rest and renewal you need in impossible situations. What can Biblical rest and renewal look like in a family wrestling through alcoholism? God has not hid...

What do we do with all of these emotions that hit us and create a storm of heaviness? The Bible gives us some direction on this topic and as a gift from me to you, tune in to hear my heart for you my sweet friend. The creator of the universe LOVES you!   Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com Send your questions to the show! Holiday Survival Guide for Wives: 6 Episodes  PART 1 HOLIDAY SURVIVA...

What will you do if your husband drives intoxicated? How can you protect your kids from the impacts of alcoholism if things get out of hand? Do you have a plan of how to walk through this valley and make it through these next few weeks?   Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com I would LOVE to hear from you. Send a question to the show and you may just get a response on an upcoming episode!  ...