Why Are People Into That?!

“I'm a very successful hu-cow!” At six months pregnant, sex work activist Maxine Holloway has never felt hotter. She opened up to Tina about the connection between her bovine breeding fetish and the realities of her growing body, everything her escort clients love about her transformation, and dating while being a queer poly slut who just happens to be knocked up. Discussed: a very literal Madonna...

Carly from the NYC Pleasure Chest joins us again to discuss why it can be worth investing in luxury sex toys. Think about it in terms of form, function, aesthetics, price per orgasm, or the heirlooms you want to pass on to the next generation! Carly's blog is Dildo or Dil-don't ! She's @Makeupandsin Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit . Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/y...

“You can desire me as C'etait all you want, but sex for me does not include C'etait. That is fully Mathieu." / In Part 2 of Why Are People Into Drag?! Anteus Mathieu, aka drag and burlesque performer C'etait Bontemps, describes some of their drag routines in graphic detail, digs into the complications of folks who are turned on by cross dressing, and concludes we should kill our idols. / Anteus Ma...

“Drag is how you perform gender for people to see and understand. If you’ve confused them, that’s even better!” / In Part 1 of this episode on gender bending performance art, Anteus Mathieu, aka C'etait Bontemps, discusses growing up in Florida watching RuPaul's Drag Race and going to gay clubs, and how burlesque helped him get in touch with his transmasculine identity. He opens up about how his c...

So this episode is a little unusual for a few reasons. First, it was recorded over a year ago and somehow just kept getting pushed back. Second, it's definitely a first for YAPIT: an interview with a mother-son comedy duo who have their own sex podcast on my network, Acast. We discussed sex parties, virginity, cartoon porn, and much more. And KarenLee came to regret asking me to recount the most e...

"The more you clean leather, the more it smells like itself." For YAPIT Live at the 2nd Ave NYC Pleasure Chest in July '18 with my guests Erykah Ohms and Santos, we discussed leather as a sensual material, a fetish, a symbol, an aspiration, a fashion statement, a cultural beacon, and an ice cream sundae. // Also: the erotics of bootblacking care, chest harnesses, strap-on harnesses, leather approp...

“Any pain can be transformative” / July '18. Euridice Gallery in Brooklyn. At a live kink event curated by Amy Boyajian of Wildflower, Tina hosted a panel featuring Amy as well as kink pros Jin and Alice. "Allijin" had just done a piercing demo, so the panel focused mostly on body mod play, touching on the concepts of harm, aftercare, LARP therapy, suspension, and period sex. / During the Q&A,...

In March 2017, Tina gave a lecture at Skidmore College in update New York, based on an article she wrote for Refinery 29. The lecture and the article were called “Why Sex Work Decriminalization Matters to Feminism.” In light of the national conversation about SESTA/FOSTA, Tina decided to release the audio she recorded of this lecture (not the best sound quality, but solid content, promise!). Touch...

“I can make anybody into a clown!” Dear listeners, you may know by now that Tina is and always has been unnerved by clowns, and has even avoided requests for a YAPIT episode on that topic. Until now!  The calming, elegant darkness of Domina Dia Dynasty, co-creator of NYC’s La Maison du Rouge, inspired Tina to face her fears. Tina crawled into Dia’s homemade yurt to discuss humiliation, exagge...

“As someone who has done sex work activism full time for years, I’ve found that in order to not burn out in this fight, I have to be having gross pervy sex, just living the ho life. Otherwise WTF are we fighting for?” // Recorded live at the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood Los Angeles May 2018, this panel features Siouxsie Q and Carly D. Three drama queen sex educators in WeHo discuss the politic...

“The second you make someone laugh, it’s so much easier to get money out of 'em!” / Live from McNally Jackson NYC in January 2018!We discussed colorism at strip clubs, #MeToo issues, Spread Magazine, how being a stripper prepares you to write single panel comics, and a certain portrait of Aya's mom wearing a leopard print fur bikini holding a snake! / From I Was A Teenage Dominatrix  to The H...

“If the thing you love to do is only seen in 'shame' porn, you may think that’s the only slot you fit into as a desirable person. That’s not cool, and that’s what I’m trying to fix.” / From ASMR to GIFS, comics to fan fiction, public screenings to photo sets of dudes who can suck their own dicks, this YAPIT Live from April 2018 at the Pleasure Chest in NYC explores all personal and political facet...

“When I’m editing my porn I love admiring the way my nails look wrapped around a dick.” / CONTENT WARNING: This episode includes frank, informed discussions of consensual non-consent fantasies, as well as two Jewish women unpacking what it means for trolls to invoke the Holocaust. / Artist, indie porn producer, and sex work organizer Arabelle Raphael is femme for a living. So what does it mean to...

“I didn’t how to kiss gently. It was always about grabbing the person, putting my hand around their throat, biting. Leaving as many bruises on a body as possible. I confused a lot of people!” How is being an actress like being a dominatrix? Tina spoke with the creators of the groundbreaking new webseries "Mercy Mistress" about BDSM as healing, sex work as a consent ritual, and the perks of crop to...

“The ultimate fantasy is love.” Live from Camp Ravish, a sexy outdoor event in rural Texas, comes this atmospheric YAPIT Live! My special guest was world renowned rope bondage expert JD from 2 Knotty Boys. We discussed bondage, exhibitionism and voyeurism, spanking, age play, and more! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit . Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit . Hosted...

“Chivalry is the kind of ritualized flirting that goes on and on and on." In this episode, iconic writer S. Bear Bergman makes a case for chivalry; a modern, bespoke, very queer kind. He compares it to high protocol BDSM, cruising, and good ole fashioned courtesy. Very much the kind of convo you’ll only find on YAPIT. S. Bear Bergman  is a writer, storyteller, educator, activist and the found...

“Back in the 90s, I touched so many pussies and so many penises while doing erotic awakening massage that eventually I noticed there was no fucking difference: People were responding as erotic beings!” Part 2 of YaPi Tantra begins with Barbara Carrellas guiding us through the first steps to full body blissgasms. She also explains how the 10th anniversary edition of Urban Tantra came to include tra...

“The AIDS crisis was taking away our sexual freedom as well as our lives. I wanted to have sex in a way that was safe from HIV, but ecstatic as gay men in the all night disco palaces of your dreams.” Barbara Carrellas is a queer kinky sex educator whose work has been very influential on Tina’s personal and professional life. To celebrate the tenth anniversary edition of Barbara’s seminal book Urba...

“The part of sex that most people love is the letting go, the freedom of connection with themselves or another person, the expansion, literally the OMG of it. Most people feel that want more of that and they want it to go on longer. Tantra offers practical ways to get you there." Recorded in front of a particularly enthusiastic audience at the Pleasure Chest in NYC, December 2017, this is the Tant...

Part Two of my conversation with Melissa Dessereau, MFT, in which we discuss attachment theory, and why queers are especially well equipped for non-monogamy. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit . Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This February, let's rethink our idea about romance by focusing on self love and solo sex! Tania has been with the Pleasure Chest for 2 years managing the Lincoln Avenue location in Chicago. She loves poetry, cooking and crystals. She finds a lot of joy in helping folks find a way to love themselves and others. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit . Support this show http://supporter...

“You can’t really control whether you’re having an emotional connection with someone." By popular demand, here is an entire episode on the topic of open relationships, with a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who also happens to be an out queer polyamorous badass. Is having a customized relationship really worth all that processing? Listen and decide for yourself! Melissa Dessereau is a perce...

“In summary, life is pain; submit to me!” Mistress Blunt’s professional practice incorporates devotional principles of yoga with classic BDSM training. In this highly intellectual and erotic episode, she talks with Tina about altered states of consciousness, the relationship between chronic pain and S&M, and her specialized femme induction sessions.  Danielle Blunt is a New York City...

A freezer filled with vacuum-sealed dirty panties. Breeder gloves for fisting. How to turn a vibrator into a bondage toy. Putting feet in assholes. A mutual love of ruined orgasms.  The dominatrix edition of YAPIT Live at the Pleasure Chest in NYC has all this and a whole lot more kinky shit.  “I want you to feel like you can’t get away at all. I want a hundred locks. I want to chain you...

Cleaning things up so you can get extra dirty. That’s the philosophy of Ask A Clean Person columnist and podcaster Jolie Kerr. Tina had the misconception that a cleaning expert probably wouldn’t share some of her disgusting interests, but Jolie defies expectations with her dirty mouth and filthy mind. In this episode, Jolie gives tips for using ketchup to clean leather strap-on harnesses, and usin...