Why Are People Into That?!

“It’s a strengthening of the will. It’s letting them surrender into their purpose of service." Yin Q is a BDSM ritualist/educator, mother to two fierce children and two calm animals, and writer of Mercy Mistress, a web series based on Q’s memoirs of coming-into- kink and sex work (Exec Prod. Margaret Cho). Yin founded Kink Out to bring together intersectional peoples of the leather/kink communitie...

 In Part 2, Christine graces us with some explicit Catholic play stories. We discuss cilices, bloody bibles, corruption, possession, places to store a rosary, lesbian nuns, demon dildos, and mortification of the motherfuckin flesh! She offers a quick take on blood play, the inherent camp of vestments, and the inherent cannibalism of transubstantiation. // Daemonum X is a femme leatherdyke and...

DaemonumX aka Christine talks about her leather dyke zine FIST, her polyamory zine LINKED, and what it even means to be a zine maker in 2019. We also chat about her notorious rope suspension performances and why they’re more about sadism than beauty. Then we settle into a discussion of Catholicism: how Christine went from an inquisitive young Catholic to a blaspheming dyke confessing about impure...

In Part 2 of my conversation with Gothic Queer Culture writer Laura Westengard, we get into BDSM as both haunting and time travel, and take a close look at the contemporary queer performance artists M Lamar, Zackary Drucker and Cassils. Laura also gives us a tease of her upcoming book on historical medical horrors, and how that might connect to SfSx the comic book. // Laura Westengard (she/her/her...

Just in time for the nights to get longer, CUNY professor and author of the new book Gothic Queer Culture Laura Westengard discusses insidious trauma: from Castle of Otranto to True Blood, how vampires create their own erotic holes, and why monster desire is always queer desire. // Laura Westengard (she/her/hers) is an Associate Professor of English at the City University of New York where she ser...

Molecular biophysicist and queer lit slut Joe Osmundson gets into it with Tina on the great debate of our time: saline vs water enemas. You'll be surprised by their, um, artisanal isotonic douche solutions! Discussed: the inner and outer world of the epithelium, why queer sexual health is under-studied, why you should listen to Frank Ocean while giving yourself an enema, why the douche and cuddle...

“I birth what I destroy.” / In Part 2 of our talk about sploshing, crushing, sugar, and fetish labor, Lindsay discusses her very first on cam sit, the many meanings of consumption, and the transformative narrative arc of cake sitting. / Lindsay Dye is a 31 year old artist and sex worker of Puerto Rican descent from Miami, Florida. She holds an MFA in Photography and Sculpture from the Pratt I...

"The fetish itself is anti-consumption.” Lindsay Dye is a cam model, performance artist, and sculptor who specializes in the fetish known as cake sitting. In this episode, she explains the intersection of WAM (Wet & Messy Play) with crushing fetishism, as well as how Miami, empathy, clowning, power, laughter, tears, and more inform her public sittings. / Lindsay Dye is a 31 year old artis...

Decriminalized & destigmatized cannabis use is entering a new American era, and that means there's more ways than ever to incorporate this classic aphrodisiac into our love lives. For another live episode at the Pleasure Chest in NYC, Tina sat down with sex and weed journalist Sophie Saint Thomas and pleasure educator Carly to break down the science of the endocannabinoid system, weed lube, st...

Whether it’s been a few years since you heard it or you’re getting slobbered on by it for the first time, please enjoy this rerun of Why Are People Into Puppy Play! with Rocket/Yandy. Fetch! Speak! Roll over! This episode is all about people who love to role play as dogs. Sometimes their puppy persona becomes a part of their sexual identity, a way to access innocence, playfulness, and carnal passi...

In Part Two, Stoya and I discuss: The Reunion by Laura Antoniou (and psychological erotica), Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (and arousal non-concordance), The Guide to Getting It On (how Stoya masturbated to it and why Tina hates it), Mercedes Lachey's book that has a scene where people fuck on some rocks (that Stoya can't remember the name of), Sam Delaney (and a story you've probably heard Tin...

Porn legend, writer, and avowed sapiosexual Stoya joins me for a talk about musty-smelling paperbacks, big fat library shelves, and randomly also necrophilia?! We ask: Is it classist to only want to date someone who knows what "Wherefore" means in "Wherefore art thou Romeo?"?! Would John Waters want to top Stoya? Who is going to make a venn diagram of people who prominently display but have not re...

“I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it!” / In this hilarious and boundary-pushing live episode, recorded in March 2019 at the 2nd Ave Pleasure Chest in NYC, I'm joined by two other queer sex workers, Ashley Paige and Corey More, to discuss the persistently taboo yet insurgently popular concept of incest fantasies! We deepen our ongoing discussion of leather families, while al...

“We are made to feel powerless non-consensually all the time. This is an opportunity to take the power back.” / Content warning: This is conversation between two queer women about erotic fantasies that involve themes of force and violation.  Rape scenes are the most fundamental yet thorniest of sexual fantasies. Whether it's force and resistance, psychological control, or emotional humiliatio...

“Every time she’s stimulated it’s utter chaos!” / In Part2 of my conversation with Katie Skelly we discuss whether erotic comics benefit from stories, Italian class dynamics in Milo Manara’s Click , grotesquery in Lisa Hanawalt, Go Nagai, Gina Wynbrandt's Someone Please Have Sex with Me , Dave Cooper's Ripple , the un-dying allure of the comic book store backroom, and Skelly's newest project inclu...

“I get away with a lot!” / Katie Skelly and I discuss puffy bulging vulvas, the “dark whimsy” of her psychedelic erotic comic books, why people think her phantasmagoria is a personal ad, how she got away with showing a certain superhero eating ass on a spaceship, and how she was influenced by looking at Vogue in her parents’ newsstand. / Katie Skelly is an award-winning cartoonist who lives in Bro...

"Trauma and shame show up in the body in the same ways.” / In this Interrobang, Andrea Glik, LMSW discusses her therapy practice, how BDSM can help us to heal from trauma, what depression looks like in your nervous system, and which Cate Blanchett character she would want a sex robot to impersonate for her. / Andrea Glik, LMSW is a psychotherapist, somatic healer, sex educator, and witch. Andrea s...

"I was called a ho long before I became an actual sex worker.” / The brilliant and deviant Ashley Paige joins me again to discuss the Marriott hotel’s classist sex worker profiling, the racial difference between a slut and a ho, and Ashley’s personal history in the sex industry. / Content warning: at about 40 minutes this episode gets extra real: w/r/t abuse and violence. / Ashley P...

"He called me Daddy and I've never felt my lips quiver so hard in my life." / I figured since we started the year off talking about Leather Mommies, it would only be fair to give some space to masculine nurturing dominants. And who better to embody that queer Daddy vibe than professional dominatrix Ashley Paige? / We discussed what it means for women to claim the title Daddy, whether this is or is...

A storytelling heavy flow celebrating some under-appreciated things many people find mystifying and/or disgusting: menstruation, the full internal structure of the clitoris, body scents, and hair! / Recorded November 2018 at Pleasure Chest on 2nd Ave in NYC. Live engineered by Ben Weber, co-sponsored by Acast. Music by TreZure Empire! / Arielle Egozi is a writer and social influencer who uses her...

“Kinky people have the upper hand!" Queer icon Margaret Cho is now executive producing Yin Q’s webseries Mercy Mistress , so I got the honor of interviewing her when I was in Los Angeles. We chatted about the importance of seeing yourself represented in pop culture, how hard it is to be a good dominatrix, and what BDSM can teach us about consent. / An accomplished performer in all formats, Margare...

"Why be ashamed of my fetishes when I can fetishize my shame?" / My conversation w Chingy continues with this deeply personal dive into kinky Mommy lust. Leather Mommies are the new Leather Daddies in this funny and taboo episode. / Chingy is a writer, actress, humorist and all-around funny pervert based out of Los Angeles and Oakland, CA. Her work focuses on kink lifestyles, queer media, and lesb...

Chingy is one of my favorite queer meme makers, so when I was out in LA I got together with her to discuss comic book fetish art, what makes her the bottom supreme, and why she wants to devote herself utterly to an artificially intelligent house. Tune in next week for our deep dive into Why Are People Into Mommies?! . // Chingy is a writer, actress, humorist and all-around funny pervert based out...

"People who share their fantasies are the happiest and most sexually satisfied in their relationships." // What’s the different between a fetish and a fantasy? What are the benefits of communicating our deepest desires? What are the most common fantasies among Republicans versus Democrats? These and many more questions are address by social psychologist Dr Justin Lehmiller's new book Tell Me What...

Miki is an entrepreneur whose work focuses on the taboo bodily fluids we’re usually too ashamed to even discuss. In this Interrobang, Miki discusses the personal and environmental effect of toilet habits, the civic horror of fatbergs, the relationship between anal health and anal pleasure, and why porn star Asa Akira was the perfect spokesperson for her new line of bidets.  Miki Agrawal is a...