Wholehearted Loving

Life inventories can be overwhelming and tend to focus on the negatives: things that aren’t feeling good, with the pressure of needing to change them. Instead of asking what’s going wrong, we explore what is and isn’t working for us, and where we’re seeing positive change already — this compassionate reframe moves us away from the shame of shoulds, and toward loving inspiration. In today's epi...

Coming off of autopilot and stepping into deeper agency in your life & relationships presents many amazing opportunities. Among our favs is the opportunity to enjoy pleasant sensations you might have whizzed by in the past. Taking the time to be with the sensations of what you already know feels good to you, and discovering new and different things that also feel good, is a sure and easy way t...

There are so many baby steps on a healing journey — and so many lessons we have to learn over and over again. It’s worth looking back and appreciating what we couldn’t appreciate then, and the impact each step has had on our lives. May this also help you look forward, to the unknown value your current steps are manifesting for your future self. Today's episode is full of tidbits we've pick...

Today's episode is in conversation with Jordan Gray, a relationship coach who's helped us and millions of others step up in our lives and shine for all the world to see. We talk about the body nudges that led us to connect with each other, and Jordan shares his journey from head-based shoulds kind of thinking, to feeling his way into a life more fulfilling than all his shoulds could ever h...

In the first chunk of life, we learn how to get by based on worldviews and patterns of people around us — and we come to assume their ways are our ways too. But often, they aren’t, and we need to find our own path. By now, you might know what you truly value, and still find that old conditioning is manifesting different values in your patterns of feeling, connection, and behaviour. This is where b...

We’re here to grow self-connection and -compassion — deconditioning painful old patterns, overdubbing our inner critics with loving, supportive dialogue. Byproducts include clearer boundaries, easier communication, and so much more. Can you explore where you are now with compassion? In today's episode we talk about how simple, body-based practices are a gateway for establishing and sharing healthy...

Trying to force a fit is a natural response to our human need for love and connection — it’s also an integral part of learning what fits. As we hone our self-awareness over time and discover our preferences, it’s worthwhile to feel into what’s fitting well in our lives and relationships, and what could fit better. In today's episode we use Georgianna's experience with a broken snowboarding boot an...

The new year is a common time to resolve to be different, or do different things — hoping it will stick, with much room for disappointment. This year we invite you to ditch the shoulds and the fear-based promises, and instead explore how you can create more of the feelings you want in your life and relationships. In today's episode we go over some compassionate methods for making (or not making) c...

The holidays (and any special occasions dedicated to loved ones) are prime times to gather data — about ourselves, our needs, and our preferences — through sensory experience. Today we talk about exploring your body’s responses before, during, and after the holidays — and how this gives you all the info you need to get closer to how you want to feel in life and love. "Like finding gold." - Alma W....

It’s easy to get overwhelmed with shoulds, needs, wants and want-to-wants. It’s easy too, to respond with action overdrive, or total shutdown. Learning to be with your body in these times is invaluable — body reminds you how you want to feel in life and love, and provides direction on the next doable step to get there. In today's episode we offer some perspective about busyness, and moving toward...

Longing can be a source of depression or excitement — it can inspire or debilitate, depending on your story (i.e. your past, your present, and how you experience sensations in your body). With practice, you can find tremendous energy your longings, and harness it in helpful ways. In today's episode, we talk about our old feelings about longing — informed heavily by unrequited love and not being ch...

At some point in our lives, most of us learn to say yes when we mean no, and vice versa. In learning not to over- or under-give, we discover how to honour our needs, and how to show up for what moves us even when it seems like a good day to stay in bed. Clarity comes from being with the sensations in your body. In today's episode we talk about our experience finding this out for ourselves, and how...

Growing up, we learn “how things are”; getting older, we learn there a million ways other than the ones we know. This holds true for most of our unexamined beliefs about the world — and when we feel overwhelmed, lost, or restricted in our lives and relationships, that can be a sign it’s time to turn on the curiosity and open up to new possibilities. In today's episode, we walk through reframing a...

These days we all know about limiting beliefs: those stories we carry that hold us back, keep us from speaking or acting our purpose, and block our potential and our deepest desires. But which are true, and which are just stories or old family lore? Exploring this is key when it comes to unlimiting yourself in life and love. In today's episode, we celebrate 100 episodes and talk about all the stor...

As with most of life, that which we believe to be a waste of time is learned and conditioned in us from a young age. What feels good or bad when it comes to being productive, to resting, to maximizing efficiency (or not) is totally subjective, with endless options. Examining your current beliefs in these areas is useful if you want to feel more ease and spaciousness in your life and relationships....

We all have pre-conditioned — and optional — reactions when things go wrong, or when plans get changed. The reactions we’ve grown into, either learned from our families of origin or our past experiences, can easily be shifted when we learn to listen to our bodies and make slight, simple adjustments. Discovering and embracing our current reactions is key in learning to respond instead, with self-lo...

It might feel normal, or like second nature, to shut down, dissociate, and otherwise leave the building when circumstances find us in a place of sensory overload. Those tools can certainly be of service, but when we want to be more present and embodied in our lives and relationships, we must call ourselves into the service of our bodies and grow our innate capacity to be with overwhelm. In today's...

An integrated, whole-self approach to decision-making requires us to notice how our bodies respond to (or generate) a false sense of pressure or urgency — and to grow our capacity to be with those feelings instead of acting on them. We clear a path forward by acknowledging all the what-ifs and validating all the fears, thereby creating space for excitement, truth and possibility. In today's episod...

There are times in life where we must bear burdens that feel heavy — even too heavy — to hold. In the meantime, let us not take on extra pressure that’s optional and unnecessary! This is your invitation to notice where you’re feeling weighed down or put upon, and to make some gentle shifts to help you drop the shoulds and the pressure, or carry any added weight with the help of others. In today's...

We all project our past experiences onto the present, and into the future. If no one seemed to listen to you when you were growing up, why would they listen now? So we prepare ourselves to have the same experiences, and we defend against the pain that causes us. BUT — we are not our past, and every moment is new. Taking stock of our starting assumptions, and the ways our minds & bodies process...

The feeling of being burdened or weighed down is a very subjective thing. What feels like a gift to you might be a burden to someone else, and vice versa. In life and love, we bestow gifts/burdens on each other all the time — learning how to express it when you’re feeling weighed down or put out is a liberating part of bringing your whole self to relationships. In today's episode, we talk about ac...

Most of us are prone to bypassing big feelings, including relishing gifts and facing burdens. Sometimes, what’s intended as a gift can be received as a burden — and vice versa. To be fully with ourselves, and to be represented fully in relationships, it’s important to appreciate what we’ve been given, and acknowledge what’s been heavy or challenging to hold. In today's episode we talk about ou...

It can be hard to grow and change when people around us want things to stay the same. Personal growth challenges us to hold space for grief and possibility — releasing who and what no longer serves us, and trusting a more aligned future to unfold, with relationships that nourish us at a soul level. This is a call to celebrate those who are ready and willing to join us, to honour those who aren’t,...

We’ve all been conditioned to express ourselves in ways that protect us from the fear of losing love and connection — this can disconnect us from our own feelings and needs, and makes it hard to know or share our boundaries. It today's episode, we practice discovering boundaries by playing with concepts that have no emotional charge, helping you find the extremes and subtleties of your yes and...

It can be so easy to bypass the joy of relief — we’re all busy, with a lot to do and think about. We seek the feeling of relief, and yet, when it comes, we tend to miss it — in favour of whatever comes next, or some other thing we have to worry over. But with a bit of practice, you can catch that feeling of relief as it happens, and savour the moment — and bring more peace into your life and relat...