Whispers to a Bride: Emotional Insight for your Wedding Drama

So much of wedding talk is about wanting to create a vibe. So many brides think a lot about how to create the vibe they going for on their wedding day. And while the atmosphere (venue, decor, etc) communicates certain energy or vibe, the strongest factor in creating the wedding vibe you want is to learn how to communicate it with your own energy. In this episode, we are discussing how you can crea...

Is it bad to be knee deep in planning and just ask yourself and your fiancé “wouldn’t it make more sense to just elope?” Whether it's the complicated logistics of hotel blocks and transportation, the unhappy family members who aren’t getting their way, the ballooning expenses, or just the overwhelm of the sheer amount of decisions. Maybe it’s just that the wedding has become a bit of a monster tha...

How can you manage your feelings on the big day? How can you make sure you feel the way you want to feel? You want to feel good. You want to enjoy it. You want to be happy. You want to be present and soak it all in. But how? It can feel like it’s the thing you have the least control over. You think that you have to wait to see what happens in order to know how you are going to feel. In this episod...

I want to remind you today that your wedding is a changing thing. At one point, it was a dream, a vision, or a fantasy. Then at some point, your wedding becomes a possibility. You are dating someone you can envision marrying, suddenly the possibility of your own wedding is within your reachable reality. Then if you are engaged and planning a wedding, your wedding becomes a choice, a reality, and a...

When we think about weddings, we think about what we want them to be. Where we want them, what it will look like, the flowers, the music, the dress, the food, the dance floor, the guest list, and all the details. We think about Pinterest, Instagram, and Tik Tok. We think about the movies we have seen, we think about the weddings we’ve been to, and the images that have been in our minds. I love tha...

Weddings seem to come with demand. It requires something of you and you usually aren’t prepared to think about it or tackle it. It can seem really unrelated to your actual wedding, yet it becomes an obstacle that stands right between you and your happy day. Shouldn’t it be as simple as just making decisions and choosing things that work for our budgets and preferences and cultures and families? In...

There is a quote by the Persian poet Rumi, “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there.”   I mean, can you even take it. This idea is just so fabulous. Just think of all the ways you can apply this to the drama happening in your world right now. So much of the conflict I see with brides is around wanting to do things right or litigating who did somethi...

Bridal beauty is a huge industry. Many brides will whiten their teeth, start botox, start working out, diet, get facials, get manicures, go tanning, or get eyelash extensions. So many things go on in the glam world when a woman is planning a wedding. There is so much pressure to look the best you’ve ever looked. In this episode, we are going to pause and acknowledge the weirdness of the bridal bea...

So many brides have strong visions of their weddings. Often based on old visions, movies, Instagram, or Pinterest. We get so so bombarded by trends and images it can be really difficult to know whether what we want is authentically true to our deepest desire or whether we have been specialized to want it. In talking to brides throughout the pandemic who have had to shift and postpone and replan an...

Have you ever heard the phrase Le Pause? Le Pause is a french baby sleep training technique where when you hear your baby cry in the middle of the night, you don’t rush straight away to get them, you give it a pause, and see if they resettle. I love this idea and I am advocating that we bring Le Pause to the bridal journey. Most brides jump right to wedding planning as soon as they are engaged but...

Today I just want to give you a little lesson on friendship from my own wedding. When it comes to choosing a bridal party, it can be hard to choose between family and friends. For my wedding, I decided I wanted a small bridal party so my friends wouldn’t feel burdened because being a bridesmaid can be draining. But there’s a lot that happens on your wedding day and I learned that I should have tru...

Today I want to answer a question I get a lot - why brides? People want to know why I don’t focus on couples. The answer is simple: the male experience of getting married is very different from a woman’s. Wedding culture shows this focus on the bride and what her wedding means about her. It all comes back to the history of weddings and the different viewpoints we have had on weddings. Listen in as...

If you are like me, you want people to understand you, to get you. I have learned that there isn’t always room for it, in the place, time, or setting that you want. So let them be wrong. I am obsessed with this mantra right now. There is something so freeing about it and it comes up so much in wedding planning. In this episode, we are going to dive into relieving your anxiety with this one simple...

Where do my friendships fit in once you get married? We know weddings cause the relationship group to shift beneath us but  friendship really is connected to our survival In this episode, I am going to be talking about a trend I’ve noticed around bridesmaid ghosting. When your nearest and dearest just sorta going silent and it’s obviously really stressful on a bride. What you’ll learn from th...

What is the first thing you should do when planning a wedding? In this episode, we are talking about the essential ingredient you need before you even start planning your wedding - your intention. Listen in as I discuss the importance of getting quiet and really deciding what you want out of your wedding. What you’ll learn from this episode: How to determine as a couple what you want your wedding...

One of the biggest issues coming up lately is the guest list drama. We start feeling badly about not inviting people, like friends that we have lost touch with or certain family members.   Plus there’s the issue with people who don’t RSVP or decline the invitation. There is no rule that you have to invite someone because they expect to be invited. What you’ll learn from this episode: How...

As you have noticed weddings bring up a lot of things for a lot of people. You are probably going to find yourself having to have a lot of tricky conversations that you never saw coming. The most important thing you can do is have them. Giving people you care about the dignity of a face-to-face conversation is a beautiful gesture that can change the tone and trajectory of a relationship. What you’...

As a bride, you're going to be making a lot of decisions and it can easily lead to overwhelm. This is one of the biggest causes of bridal blues and overwhelm: just too many decisions. One of the biggest blocks to knowing what we want is that we don’t let ourselves just simply want what we want. We are afraid of our own desires. So let’s talk about a few ways to make decision-making easier and less...

The sibling experience is probably one of the most under-discussed aspects of the family drama unfolding during engagements. I think so many times people underestimate the siblings’ thoughts and feelings and what they go through when their sister gets married. It's so important to remember that you getting married is completely reshaping your family. Listen is as I discuss, how to help prepare you...

Happy Holidays! I am rebroadcasting my episode all about writing your vows. In addition to being a life coach and helping brides with their wedding drama, I am also a wedding officiant. I love helping couples create their own ceremony that is true to them and the history of their families. In this episode, I’m giving you the 6 part structure to writing your vows that is easy, fun, and keeps your v...

Happy Holidays! I am bringing back an old episode today all about bridezilla myths. We are going to take a look at what the term, bridezilla, does for women, brides, and the wedding industry. The bridezilla myth adds this extra layer of stress for brides. They are so worried about becoming a bridezilla that they are not processing their emotions of what is actually underneath that. Listen in as I...

One of the things I hate the most about the dominant narrative around weddings is the image of the constantly stressed-out bride. Stress isn’t meant to be a prolonged state. Stress is fine and to be expected when tackling big, new, or complex challenges but it should subside. Wedding stress can be very tricky but listen in as I discuss, identifying your stress, tools to use to ease your stress, an...

One of the reasons making all the wedding decisions can be so stressful is that you don’t want to have any regrets. You are spending a lot of money and the photos will last forever and you don’t want to look back and regret your color scheme or your dress or even your bridal party choices. What if I told you there were no wrong choices. There were the choices that you made for the reasons and circ...

If there is one thing I could tell every couple getting married, it’s that the biggest risk to your engagement journey, from wedding planning to the big day to the newlywed year- is expectations. Expectations are those notions that live inside our heads that we are mostly unaware of. We kinda think it’s just normal, or we mistakenly think that everyone shares the same expectations. We tend to live...

Happy Thanksgiving! This week I am enjoying the holidays with my family so I decided to rebroadcast my very first episode! In this first episode, I am explaining the fundamentals about what is bridal coaching and how it can help you. There is so much focus on wedding preparation and looking good for your wedding but we don’t focus on how to have more peace in your own mind, your own heart, and you...