Whispers to a Bride: Emotional Insight for your Wedding Drama

In today’s episode, we are talking about the holidays - so many images of family togetherness, elaborate meals, festive decorations, favorite movies, gorgeous gifts, and lots of laughter (or this is what Hallmark movies make us believe it should be). But the holidays can be a source of anxiety, overwhelm, frustration, and sadness for a lot of people. This makes the holidays a lot like weddings, in...

One thing we know about marriage is that there will be conflict. It’s inevitable. So many people try to avoid it, thinking if they can just not fight that they will be better off. Of course, avoiding conflict isn’t a healthy move- issues will linger, resentments will build. The most interesting thing about marital conflict is that it’s mostly unresolvable. Yikes! So all the energy and passion that...

Wedding planning can be tough- the opinions, the pressure, the money. But we do it because it’s also magical- the ritual, the dancing, the dress. In many ways, the journey from engagement to the wedding day is rocky for good reason. You are going to have to decide how you are going to manage yourself within this new ecosystem of married life. It can be stressful and draining while also exciting an...

One of the most intense things about planning a wedding is that after all the time and effort and money, how do you even make sure you are happy on the actual day? So many things could potentially happen. There is so much riding on this day- can those 8 hours live up to the hype of your own expectations, your childhood fantasies, months of planning, so many conversations. It certainly is a lot of...

Today I want to talk a little bit about a big topic. Trust. For couples getting married those same trust issues are still there, just slightly different. So often we want a road map or a checklist or a diagnostic test to determine whether the person we love can be trusted. That question “how do I truly trust someone?”  is a tough one. But it’s also the wrong one. A lot of what’s underneath th...

Today I want to talk about a little mantra- Nothing has gone wrong here. It’s a sentence or a thought that you can choose when shit hits the fan. When you are planning a wedding, I promise you that will happen. There is just something so magical about wedding planning but it brings up so much for so many people. Weddings make people super reflective about their pasts, their futures, their hopes, t...

Today I want to talk about rest. I am a huge fan of rest and our culture often vilifies rest and we end up feeling guilty for resting thinking we should be working. When we should be resting, it’s so easy to press play on another episode on Netflix or scroll Instagram. But today I want to talk about a type of resting called Intentional Resting. It’s a concept developed by Dan Howard and I have fou...

Getting engaged is that short window in life where everything is magical and full of hope and possibility. So why would anyone need a life coach during this time? Most people who have been through this season of life will tell you that it is far more of an emotional rollercoaster than most people anticipate. Listen in as I discuss, how maybe more time is needed, looking at the way you talk about y...

In today’s episode let’s talk about marriage prep. So little focus is placed on marriage prep. It’s so important to take the time to reflect on what our marriage is going to be about and the principles and pillars that make up the years ahead of us. Listen in as I discuss, laying out a road map that works for both of you, why you should start practicing your love map, and how love maps can help co...

More and more people are marrying people of different faiths, cultures, and traditions. This means that the default church wedding that we always see in movies doesn’t play out that naturally for so many of us. How much of what we believe in is just because it’s what we were taught growing up? Listen in as I discuss, why you don’t have to have a religious ceremony, keeping your identity in your we...

I want to give you a really simple reminder that is key for your wedding but also for your life and it’s a phrase I come back to time and time again and it’s, hold two things. It’s about the duality of life. There are always opposing things happening at the same time. Listen in as I discuss, the importance of holding two things, how holding two things can make your wedding day better, and the feel...

I want to talk today on the podcast about a fun little exercise that helps brides with energy management and preventing those bridal blues. Once it’s all said and done, all we have left of our wedding is the memories. But you don’t have to wait until it’s over to start remembering. Listen in as I discuss, the visualization that you can use to premember your wedding, how to stay in control of your...

In addition to being a life coach and helping brides with their wedding drama, I am also a wedding officiant. I love helping couples create their own ceremony that is true to them and the history of their families. In this episode, I’m giving you the 6 part structure to writing your vows that is easy, fun, and keeps your vows balanced. What you’ll learn from this episode: How to avoid the awkward...

The name change. It’s a big part of getting married. Most of us assumed we would change our names when we got married. Until the time comes to change your name. It’s weirdly unnerving. Suddenly you are supposed to just have a different name. Talk about an identity crisis. Even though you expected it, it feels weird. Expect it to be uncomfortable. Decide for yourself what you want to do. Think abou...

As I am recording this, it’s the summer of 2021- we are crawling out of a pandemic after nearly a year and a half. A pandemic that locked down most of the country, and the world, and obviously also shut the wedding industry down in its tracks. The rescheduling began. Things got complicated but also, people got really creative. People started to have these insanely intimate and beautiful ceremonies...

Our culture is so singularly focused on the romantic love narrative that I think it really misses out on the love story that’s also wrapped into the wedding day- specifically with our parents. Parents think about the day- who they will be on that day, how they will feel, it’s a completion of their job in many ways. They think about how they pay for it. The bottom line is your parents are going thr...

Sometimes our friendships can suffer when we get engaged and start planning a wedding. Yes, change changes things. Nothing has gone wrong, avoid the instinct to cut people off and try to make them understand. Allow your friends to have that processing time. In this episode, I am going over the five different themes as ways our friendships can suffer when we get engaged. What you’ll learn from this...

In today’s episode, we are going to take a look at what the term, bridezilla, does for women, brides, and the wedding industry. The bridezilla myth adds this extra layer of stress for brides. They are so worried about becoming a bridezilla that they are not processing their emotions of what is actually underneath that. Listen in as I discuss, what the term bridezilla means, how society puts pressu...

In today’s episode, we are talking about all the negative emotions that brides feel that we don’t really make space for in our culture. We expect brides to be all smiles and pretend that nothing is wrong. We don’t give brides the opportunity to have the full range of emotions that a change like this requires. Listen in as I discuss the 4 squares of the change cycle you go through as you prepare fo...

In today’s episode we are diving into wedding drama and why is it never about what it’s about. Wedding drama is real but it has the potential to be magic. So much of wedding drama is letting go of your old life and stepping into a new one. Brides feel so much pressure leading up to their weddings and that’s when the drama can set in. Listen in as I discuss, the pressures of social media, listening...

Welcome to the Whispers to a Bride Podcast. In this first episode, I am explaining the fundamentals about what is bridal coaching and how it can help you. There is so much focus on wedding preparation and looking good for your wedding but we don’t focus on how to have more peace in your own mind, your own heart, and your relationships. Listen in as I discuss, how bridal coaching can help your enti...