Whispers to a Bride: Emotional Insight for your Wedding Drama

Are you in the middle of planning your wedding but you can't experience the joy in the way that you thought you would? With getting engaged and planning a wedding, there's just so much love. It's such a joyful time and yet so many women are having a tough time with how to handle that joy or how to not rob themselves of experiencing that joy that is right at their fingertips. In this episode, I wan...

You want to have the perfect wedding right? You want to have control over your wedding and be in charge of everything. But you also don’t want to burden people and feel like you should just handle it all yourself. In today’s episode, I’m discussing building up your muscle of asking for help. You can’t do it all (and you shouldn’t either). People want to help so let them in. What you’ll learn from...

Are you worried about how you are going to handle your mom’s energy on the day of your wedding? Your relationship with your mom is getting harder and more annoying as your wedding day approaches and you really want the dynamic to change before then. We need to remember that our mothers are going through a lot too. Your wedding day is a very emotional day for her too and it can make her act, well,...

Shopping for your wedding dress is one of the major moments where all of the pressures that are unique to a bride come together. It's one of those moments that you think about as a child. But it’s not just about the pretty dress,  it's all of these undercurrents that are happening too. It can be heartbreaking, stressful, and overwhelming but also poignant and memorable. In this episode, we di...

Your whole life you have been told to not sweat the small stuff. Well, today I am telling you that you should be sweating the small things especially when it comes to your wedding. Sweating the small stuff is a way to wake up a little more to the present moment. That is one of the things that culturally is always such a struggle in this sort of go, go, go atmosphere that we're all striving and try...

There is a poem I put at the beginning of my book, Whispers to a Bride, called When Death Comes. The concept of both poetry and weddings is so compelling to me.  Weddings and poetry sort of get shunned and discarded a bit culturally because they do seem frivolous and extra and not useful. I decided to include this poem that has been special to me. I think it encapsulates why this work matters...

I have so many women who come to me with this feeling of unsettledness and feeling a little bit of grief and anxiety about just saying goodbye to their old lives. Especially if they've really grown to love the little routines that they've created for themselves, the friendships, the patterns, and the habits and their living space. In this episode, I want to normalize these feelings. Every transiti...

The book, Whispers to a Bride, is finally here!!! If you didn’t know I have been writing a book. Whispers to a Bride is about the emotional experience that a bride goes through. It also has tips and tricks and solutions for how to handle all of that emotional upheaval. In this episode, I explain why I wrote this book, who it is for, and how it will benefit you. What you’ll learn from this episode:...

I want to introduce you to the museum metaphor. Think of a museum in terms of your post-wedding, what do we do with all the feelings that come after the wedding? There's always gonna be sort of a low after a big high of your wedding and it’s hard to let go. In this episode, I help you understand why you need to put your wedding in a museum and give it time before you revisit it again. What you’ll...

There is always this question of enoughness in the back of our minds. Am I doing enough? Is this too much? It simultaneously feels like way too much and yet completely not enough. That feeling is just so frustrating. In this episode, we are diving into what to do when this feeling of enoughness creeps in and how you can apply it to other areas of your life too. What you’ll learn from this episode:...

In all the past episodes of this podcast, we have been focused on positivity so you can explore this time in your life (your engagement and wedding) with more happiness and ease. But it is also important that we carve out time for a pity party. We need to have light and dark. We can’t have one without the other. In this episode, I want to dive into why we need to experience hard emotions and embra...

One of the best ways to address so much of the wedding drama you experience is a really simple, beautifully elegant practice of asking WHY. So much of what happens with weddings is based on all the assumptions and expectations and cultural norms. We lose track of what’s actually inside. What we really want. What really matters to us. In this episode, I discuss why it’s so important to apply the qu...

When you really think about weddings, the thing most people remember isn’t any specific detail, it’s how it felt. It’s the energy, the mood, the vibe. We try to achieve this with all of the elements like decor, food, lighting, and music, but the strongest factor in creating the wedding vibe you want is your own energetic presence. In this episode, we discuss how you set the tone for your wedding d...

Becoming engaged changes how a woman sees herself. For some, it’s the completion of an aspect of their identity. For others, it is more of a threat to the identity they have created for themselves so far in life. Whether you waited for the ring or it happened faster than you anticipated, you need an adjustment period to integrate this new identity, this new framework for your life into your unders...

I am so excited to give you probably the quickest but most important, profound little thought as you are heading into your marriage. I call it the golden relationship ratio. The golden relationship ratio is five positive interactions for every negative one. For every eye roll, criticism, freak out or fight, you need five positive interactions with your partner. Research shows that couples who have...

A really fun way to get back to peace is by connecting to your bridal bigness . Bridal Bigness is the idea that you, as a bride, are part of a much bigger energy, and that energy has the peace, power, and emotional capacity that you need. Your bridal bigness is the antidote to fear, anxiety, stress, overwhelm, people pleasing, and insecurity. It is your creativity, your calm, your grace. It’s the...

Let’s talk about the touchy situation of prenups. This can be an uncomfortable conversation to have. The automatic response can be to be offended. We don’t want to ever think that our marriage could end. I want you to think about prenups the same way you do a fire escape plan. You never want to think that your house will catch on fire but you want to be prepared. In this episode, I am going to hel...

I can remember hearing stories of a wedding being called off and thinking it was the most intense, heartbreaking yet fascinating thing. I mean, isn’t being engaged the most exciting perfect time of your life? How did you say yes and then only a few short months later, you are saying no? In this episode, we are exploring how one’s mind can change about something so major when so many people were wa...

This feeling of time collapsing around a wedding makes people intensely invested and erratically emotional in surprising ways. Weddings are important in terms of chronological times that we count with years and days but it’s also important in the other sense of time known as kairos or deep time. Kairos moments are about intangible things like connection, flow, and celebration and a kairos moment i...

Today we are talking about one of my favorite topics - love languages. Love languages are a framework for how to show and receive love in a relationship. It helps you understand your partner better and be able to show them love in a way they will respond to. In this episode, we discuss the 5 love languages so you have a better understanding of how to show your partner love and how you like to be s...

Today I am sharing some questions that I get for the day of your wedding. You want your wedding day to go smoothly but sometimes things happen. In this episode, we are going to talk about how to stay in the right mindset, gracefully getting out of conversations, and remembering your parents. My hope is that the answers to these questions will help you feel calmer as your wedding day approaches. Wh...

There comes a moment when you transition from doing to being. You have to let go of trying to control every aspect of your wedding and just surrender. Let things be. You can’t control everything but you can accept everything. In this episode, I’m talking about surrender and how when you do it, you can actually enjoy your wedding. What you’ll learn from this episode: How to surrender The importance...

Today we are going to talk about one of the biggest issues facing brides- the arrival fallacy. The arrival fallacy is the mental and emotional illusion that when you arrive, once you get there, achieve the goal, and arrive at your wedding day, you will have lasting happiness. This is why so many brides and couples are willing to suffer through a tough wedding planning journey. In this episode, I o...

This is another framework for getting into the feeling state that you want for your wedding day. It’s the art of noticing. There will be a lot to see and take in and the art of noticing will let you be intentional about what you take in, what you notice, and what you celebrate which will have you feeling better. In this episode, I share how stopping to notice your wedding is magical and fun and ma...

I have noticed with brides and weddings, it really brings out this perfectionist monster. There's all of a sudden this idea that their wedding should or could possibly be perfect, and they should look perfect and act perfect and everyone else should be perfect. The whole thing just takes on a life of its own and the perfectionist, the bad part of perfectionism really comes out. I get that it feels...