Whispers to a Bride: Emotional Insight for your Wedding Drama

How can you deal with the highs and lows that come with getting engaged? After receiving the ring from your fiance, you get overwhelmed with excitement and are just on a high of good emotions. But you can get a little caught off guard by the feelings of anxiety or fear that come after that high of getting engaged.   In this episode, we discuss going public with the engagement, fundamental issues,...

How you do one thing is how you do everything.  We seem to think that once our wedding is over our life, friendships, and family dynamics will return to normal. Understanding that the discord and disconnect that we as the bride are feeling around our wedding ceremony may actually point to a much bigger issue. In this episode, we discuss boundary setting, figuring out the things that bring you joy,...

How do you set healthy boundaries with friends and family around your wedding? There seems to be a big talk on social media about setting boundaries during your wedding.  A lot of people talk about boundaries in this really harsh way. Like setting a boundary, which basically means just keeping people out and I really like to imagine the boundaries much more like picket fences. It is meant to mark...

How do you deal with a super stressed-out partner who says they can't wait for the wedding planning to be over? There are a number of reasons this could happen. It could be because your partner wants to get back into ordinary life where you're not talking about vendors, guest lists, spreadsheets, and all those things that really clutter up your free time.  Your fiancee could also be feelin...

What to do when you are planning your wedding and you have a falling out with one of your bridesmaids?  This topic came up from many conversations with brides and bridesmaids on TikTok. Understanding that sometimes it takes spending a lot of time planning a wedding to realize your friendship was over.  In this episode, we discuss friendships falling out, understanding the dynamics of your friends...

What is going on with weddings and the weight loss pressure brides have? This is a question I received from someone on my bridal email list. We talk about what is going on with weddings and weight loss and why the pressure is so intense to be so thin on your wedding day. In this episode, we discuss diet culture, capitalism, and patriarchy. We dive into how they work together when having a mindset...

There gets to a point in the wedding planning process where you’re just like, what is even happening because there are so many things changing. You start to notice a conflict between friends or family members during the wedding planning that was not there before and you begin to question, what is the point? There can be a lot of work, money, and effort and it can just be a lot but remind yourself...

How do you process and take in all those gifts and good wishes and people showing up for you, people supporting you, and people celebrating you on your wedding day? This is a question I got from one of my one-to-one bridal coaching calls. She thought everyone who came to her wedding was doing so much for her, and it was amazing and she appreciated it, but it also felt uncomfortable and it just fel...

After putting a post on Tik Tok, I realized there are a lot of brides that deal with their parents having feelings, good or bad about them getting married. We don't want our wedding to fracture or damage or stress or strain our relationship with our parents. In this episode, we discuss processing our feelings with our parents so we can avoid conflict and war over your wedding details. What you’ll...

What do you do on the day of your wedding to ensure you don't fall off the cliff emotionally? In the last few client sessions I’ve had with brides they have all asked, how they can make sure that on their wedding day, they don’t freak out and have a meltdown. In this episode, we discuss how we plan ahead to invoke a bridal buffer. How we would designate a person that's gonna be your go-to for ever...

Wedding drama is usually never what it seems. Lately, I've been getting a lot of post-wedding phone calls from brides who've already gotten married and they are still processing what just happened. They are seeking validation for being upset at what happened at their wedding. In this episode, we discuss how one bride was upset with her wedding photos but what her photos really showed her were the...

How do you get through your wedding after you have lost a loved one? This is something a lot of women deal with on their wedding day. Today I’m talking with Meredith Lynch about going through her wedding after she lost her mother. She left the emotional part out and did what she felt was right for her on her wedding day. Meredith is a writer and pop culture analyst who lives in Los Angeles. In thi...

There has been so much talk about Megan and Harry with the Netflix series that came out. This had me thinking about how a bride is a disruptor. Adding someone new to your family dynamic can be uncomfortable. But so many beautiful new, wonderful things come when the status quo is disrupted in this way. In this episode, I discuss how being the disruptor can be a good thing even though it’s also unco...

Wondering how to deal with your bachelorette part when you have different friend groups? This is a question I got from one of my one-to-one bridal coaching calls. The bride originally hadn't invited one group of friends simply because she just thought it would be more complicated. This actually caused more problems by not inviting them. In this episode, we discuss blending two friend groups, surre...

There are two people that mess you up in your bridal moment- your past and your future. With all of the constraints, pressures, and realities of actually bringing these wedding ideas into real life, it can cause such friction that you then think that conflict means you're doing something wrong. In this episode, we discuss giving yourself grace for both your past and future self and knowing you mad...

There are just so many details, and when you really think about a wedding. If the whole idea is just two people getting married, besides that, everything else is just details. We want these details to mean something. We want them to show us who we are. We want it to be this curated image of our best selves and truly show our taste level and our intention and style and depth. In this episode, I dis...

Gratitude is the key to your whole wedding experience. I know it can be really trite or obvious or too basic. But it’s fundamental. When you are frazzled and overwhelmed and anxious or feeling not enough and needy or insecure I need you to ask yourself, am I grateful? In this episode, I discuss how gratitude can change your relationship, health, and self-esteem. What you’ll learn from this episode...

I want to give you a really simple reminder that is key for your wedding but also for your life and it’s a phrase I come back to time and time again and it’s, hold two things. It’s about the duality of life. There are always opposing things happening at the same time. Listen in as I discuss, the importance of holding two things, how holding two things can make your wedding day better, and the feel...

You've got your holiday traditions and what you envision. Then you've got what you wanna do as a couple. Then there are your in-laws and what they're expecting and hoping for. It can get to be a lot. Then you're also carrying with you all of the memories and the history of all of those holidays from your past. For some people, those are all really good memories but for a lot of people, those can b...

Your wedding is calling you to wake up in some way. It’s a powerful time to awaken to what’s going on for you. For some people, it's a wake-up call to art, beauty, and ceremony. To others, it's a wake-up call to old patterns that don’t serve them anymore In this episode, I’m discussing how your wedding can open your eyes to so many possibilities and life-changing events. What you’ll learn from thi...

We are taught to think that getting engaged and planning our wedding are moments of joy, excitement, accomplishment, success, and a feeling of wholeness, completeness, integrity, and all of these things. But they never feel the way we thought they were going to feel. It's always a bit more disorienting, complex, and overwhelming while being very underwhelming at the same time. In this episode, I w...

When you are planning your wedding, the stakes are really high. There are so many things to worry about like time, money, family, culture, and tradition. Not to mention that it’s a huge change in your life!! Since tensions are high, there are bound to be conflicts. In this episode, I’m discussing how to de-escalate and calm things down in a loving way so you can have a healthy relationship and bon...

In this rebroadcasted episode, we are talking about the holidays - so many images of family togetherness, elaborate meals, festive decorations, favorite movies, gorgeous gifts, and lots of laughter (or this is what Hallmark movies make us believe it should be). But the holidays can be a source of anxiety, overwhelm, frustration, and sadness for a lot of people. This makes the holidays a lot like w...

Today I really want to bring it back to basics and talk about the subtle shift. It's all about that shift that happens in our relationships when we get engaged and start the wedding planning process. It's kind of this invisible unfolding that goes on once you go through that proposal experience. You have to reroute yourself. You have to reconsider things. You have to relearn and re-decide your inn...

Feeling doubt about your relationship when you are newly engaged or even knee-deep in wedding planning is a scary place to be. Nobody wants to feel doubt when they've got that diamond ring on. That's just not the time and our culture doesn't really make room for this. In this episode, I want to talk about normalizing having some doubt at this time in your life and why the engagement period is the...