Whispers to a Bride: Emotional Insight for your Wedding Drama

Couples often realize they've made errors while planning their wedding, such as inviting too many guests and needing to cut the list down. I acknowledge the overwhelming nature of wedding planning and the immense pressure to please others. However, I encourage you to take action to rectify mistakes, even if it involves uncomfortable conversations or financial loss. It's a misconception tha...

Weddings and life can sometimes fall apart. I encourage couples to remember that they are not alone on their wedding day and to reach out for support from loved ones or professionals if necessary. I believe that accepting this reality can ultimately lead to healing and personal growth. In this podcast episode, I discuss acknowledging when things have fallen apart and how you can embrace them. What...

Sometimes we feel like we are having an identity crisis when we are planning our wedding. There's this whole invisible set of norms, responsibilities, duties and expectations when it comes to getting married. Add on to that the tradition of changing your name, which obviously would have pretty significant identity implications. In this episode, we discuss this identity crisis through different...

When you think back to your best day ever was every moment of that day planned out? Your wedding day doesn’t need to be planned out to the tiniest detail in order for you to love it. In this episode, we are diving into the concept of the "best day ever" trope that is often associated with weddings. We discuss how this idea can create pressure and unrealistic expectations, causing disappo...

The inspiration for this episode came from a client who was feeling disconnected from her fiancé as their wedding approached. They desired a more meaningful and connected lead-up to their big day, but life's distractions and stressors had taken a toll on their relationship. Together, we discover that it's not about creating grand gestures or extravagant dates, but instead focusing on small...

Wedding planning can come with its fair share of pressure and expectations, but it's essential to prioritize the internal work and emotional journey that accompanies it. It’s important to embark on this journey with an open heart, allowing yourself to fully experience and process your emotions. Sometimes, things may fall apart during this transition, but it's through these cracks that we c...

What can you do when your mother don’t approve of your wedding dress but you love it? Sometimes we have to prioritize our own happiness over the expectations and desires of others, even if it means disappointing our own mothers. This leads us to contemplate how many times we have sacrificed our own desires in an attempt to please others, potentially leading to a life of constantly seeking validati...

Today I want to talk about having a generous take when it comes to your wedding. It centers around viewing everything that happens during wedding planning through the lens of generosity. Being generous means pausing before reacting negatively and instead trying to understand and support others. By adopting a generous mindset, brides can strengthen their relationships and create a more positive and...

In this episode, we are discussing the sensitive topic of plus ones when it comes to wedding invitations. The guest list is often a challenging aspect of wedding planning, as it determines not only who will attend but also has budget implications. Etiquette books offer guidelines on who should receive a plus one invitation, such as engaged couples or those living together. However, I believe that...

Many individuals look back on their wedding day with regret because it didn't align with their initial expectations. In this episode, I emphasize the significance of pausing and reassessing one's desires amidst the whirlwind of societal pressures and expectations that come with wedding planning. It’s okay to make a pivot and change the style, venue, and guest list of your wedding. When fee...

Too often, brides go into their wedding day with a sense of uncertainty about how they will feel.  They worry about factors like the weather, logistics, and even the behavior of others, leaving their emotional state up to chance. However, we have more control over our feelings than we may realize. In this episode, we discuss how it’s essential for brides and grooms to take the time to imagine how...

In this episode we are discussing the involvement of mothers and mother-in-laws in wedding planning.  Tensions can arise when a couple's vision clashes with the desires of their parents, but it’s important to understand their intentions. I highlight the significance of the community aspect of weddings and the joy that comes from sharing this special day with family and friends. Plus I give adv...

In this episode, I am answering your questions around burnout. We discuss tips for managing burnout and involving your fiance in the wedding planning process, prioritizing energizing activities and having open conversations with your partner.  Ignoring your feelings during your wedding planning process can create distance especially between you and your partner so it’s best to address any issues h...

In this episode, I am answering your questions. We are discussing how to handle being in the spotlight when you don't enjoy it, particularly for more introverted brides and how to savor the engagement period and ensure it is fully enjoyed. I emphasize the need to approach wedding planning with intentionality, to embrace each moment, and to appreciate the love and support from family and loved...

Creating lasting wedding memories is an exhilarating journey. In today’s episode, I am sharing a story with you about one of my first memories of being at a wedding and how sometimes less is more. It’s the bride who sets the tone for the entire wedding so it’s important to be in the moments and really present.  What you’ll learn from this episode: How to handle when a mishap happens at your weddin...

In this podcast episode, I want to reflect on a recent conversation I had with a client who wasn't completely satisfied with her wedding, even though it went well overall.  It got me thinking about the importance of self-validation and not relying solely on external validation. I believe it's crucial for individuals to give themselves some space and grace before reflecting on their wedding...

Do you want to find a way to soothe and center yourself during stressful times?  In the 100th episode, I’m sharing a simple practice called the loving kindness meditation that can help you do just that. I encourage you to make the practice your own and use it as a tool to find alignment and grounding in your life, especially during the stress and sacredness of wedding planning.  What you’ll learn...

A lot of my work as a bridal coach is to help you deal with the emotional experience of being a bride, and it's often a lot harder than we thought it was gonna be.  It has a lot to do with the friendship stuff that goes on, especially female friendships around weddings. In this episode, I’m discussing figuring out why you want them in your wedding, how to be on the same page with expectations,...

Are you planning a wedding and feeling overwhelmed by all the advice out there? I recently came across a TikTok video that really stood out to me and I wanted to share my thoughts on it with you. The wedding planner in the video emphasized the importance of having a peaceful, joyful, and flexible attitude, and how it can make a huge difference in the overall wedding experience. In this episode, I’...

There are so many societal pressures and internalized beliefs surrounding weddings.  Brides should be focusing on experiencing and enjoying their wedding rather than trying to achieve a certain standard.  In this episode, I want to remind you to reflect on your own beliefs and to alleviate the pressure and stress that you may feel when planning your wedding. What you’ll learn from this episode: Yo...

I have a confession to make: I was a bridesmaid drop out. I wanted to offer a different narrative to someone who is in the midst of being a bridesmaid in a wedding. In today’s episode, I’m telling my story about being in a wedding for a friend from college and how I knew it wasn’t a good idea for me. What you’ll learn from this episode: Listening to yourself when you feel something is wrong How to...

I love a good metaphor.  It's such a useful way of getting our brain into a little bit more of a creative space, which helps with problem-solving and just being a little lighter and less sort of rigid and dialed in on getting results and getting things perfect the way that we want them, which often happens in the wedding world In this episode, we are discussing how your wedding is a great way...

Challenges always come up when you are planning a wedding. Your wedding is such a rich time of both challenge and opportunity to really learn more about yourself and figure out where your edges are that you really wanna lean into. Where you need help and where you need more insight, and just where you need more peace and compassion. In this episode, I’m talking about emotional elegance and how it...

Have you ever gone to bed angry at your partner? Most people always advise you never to go to bed angry after getting married, and I disagree with that. Sometimes going to bed when you're angry is the best thing you can do because being tired, or just fatigued itself will totally exacerbate conflict. In this episode, we discuss how sleeping is the key to resolving conflict and why your brain n...

Do you know you can not do things at your wedding and you don’t need to give an explanation? There are so many opinions about weddings and what they should and shouldn’t include. One of the most stressful parts of wedding planning can be the marketing and the standards around what you're supposed to do and have at your wedding.  In this episode, we discuss constraints, being unapologetic, and...