Where Do We Grow from Here?

Send us Fan Mail Sex is everywhere in our culture, and almost nowhere in our actual conversations in relationships. In this episode, couples therapist Bucky Bateman explores why so many partners never talk openly about sex, where sexual shame comes from, and what that silence is quietly costing your relationship. If physical intimacy feels easier to avoid than discuss, this episode is for you. Buc...

Send us Fan Mail The biggest threat to most marriages isn't a dramatic blow-up or a single betrayal, it's the slow accumulation of small moments that go unnoticed and unappreciated. In this episode, Bucky Bateman explores the invisible work of relationships: the everyday acts of patience, attunement, and emotional regulation that quietly hold love together over time. Drawing on attachmen...

Send us Fan Mail All couples argue. The question isn't whether you'll have conflict it's whether your conflict will bring you closer or drive you further apart. In this episode of the Couples Connection Series, Bucky Bateman unpacks why conflict is not only inevitable in close relationships but necessary for growth and exactly what separates couples who fight well from those who don...

Send us Fan Mail Emotional safety has become one of the most talked-about concepts in modern relationships but what if the way we're using it is actually making things worse? In this episode of the Couples Connection Series, Bucky Bateman challenges the popular idea that you need to feel completely safe before you can be vulnerable, honest, or connected. Drawing on his clinical experience as...

Send us Fan Mail You can love someone deeply and still feel like strangers. Emotional distance in marriage is one of the most common and most misunderstood relationship problems couples face. In this first episode of the Couples Connection Series, Bucky Bateman breaks down the invisible drift that slowly disconnects even the most committed couples over time. Bucky explains the three biggest driver...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce is hard for everyone, but there's a particular kind of pain that comes when you didn't want it and couldn't stop it. In this episode, Bucky sits down with India Kern, a divorce recovery coach and author who knows that pain firsthand and has built a life's work around helping others walk through it. India shares her personal story of navigating an unwant...

Send us Fan Mail What does it look like for a man to face serious hardship and come out the other side with his faith and identity intact, maybe even stronger? In this episode, Bucky sits down with Boogie Rose for a wide-ranging conversation about resilience, faith, and what it actually takes to rebuild when life knocks you down. Boogie's story is the kind that reminds you that where you end...

Send us Fan Mail Most couples wait too long before seeking help an average of six years after problems begin, according to research. In this episode, Bucky Bateman draws on his clinical experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist to break down the key signs that it's time to stop waiting and start getting support. This isn't about pathologizing normal relationship struggles. I...

Send us Fan Mail Adult ADHD is one of the most underdiagnosed and misunderstood conditions in women and it affects far more than just focus. In this episode, Bucky sits down with Renee Herman, who shares what it's been like to navigate life as a mother, student, and professional while managing adult ADD. Renee talks candidly about the challenges ADHD creates in relationships, the frustration...

Send us Fan Mail Few experiences reshape a life the way sudden loss does, especially when you're left to raise children alone. In this deeply moving episode, Bucky talks with his wife Keri, who was widowed young with three small children and had to find a way to keep going when everything had fallen apart. Keri shares the raw reality of grief, the unexpected moments of grace, the hard work of...

Send us Fan Mail What does it look like to completely reinvent your life in pursuit of something you believe you were made for? Gordon Wong has done it more than once moving from Oahu to the mainland, building a career as a chef, planting a church, and now serving as Graduate Chaplain at Point Loma Nazarene University in San Diego. In this conversation, Gordon and Bucky explore what it means to fo...

Send us Fan Mail Anxiety can feel isolating, like something is wrong with you that isn't wrong with everyone else. In this episode, Bucky sits down with mcKensey McGill, who shares her honest, unfiltered journey with anxiety: what it felt like, what made it worse, and what she finally learned about herself along the way. This conversation is for anyone who has felt hijacked by worry, fear, or...

Send us Fan Mail It's one thing to recommend mental health tools to clients. It's another to have used them yourself in the middle of a genuinely hard season. In this episode, Bucky Bateman gets personal sharing the specific coping strategies, mindset shifts, and practices that helped him navigate his own difficult chapter. This isn't a clinical lecture. It's a therapist being...

Send us Fan Mail What does it take to move through life's hardest seasons and come out stronger? In this first episode, Bucky Bateman; Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and founder of Renewal Counseling Centers in San Diego shares the personal story behind Where Do We Grow from Here? and why he felt compelled to start this conversation. Bucky opens up about his own journey through challe...