WHEN DATING HURTS

Trauma Bonding. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Trauma Bonding - What It Is. How To Break Free. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Blame Shifting -- What It Is. How to Deal With It. This is n...

Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is part two of two parts with Kayleigh. Kayleigh was in a relationship for 15 years. In fact, it ended only weeks ago. She wanted to bring us her story as soon as she could. And it is worth your time and attention. Her upbr...

Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is part one of two parts with Kayleigh. Kayleigh was in a relationship for 15 years. In fact, it ended only weeks ago. She wanted to bring us her story as soon as she could. And it is worth your time and attention. Her upbr...

Fast Tracking. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Fast Tracking - What It Feels Like. How to Stop It. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Blame Shifting -- What It Is. How to Deal With It. This i...

Blame Shifting. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Blame Shifting -- What It Is. How to Deal With It. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. This is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology...

Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Brenda's story has many twists and turns.  You will hear the insidious ways her abuser would not give up when she expressed no further interest in him. He was going to maintain control over her no matter what. Wrestling control...

How Abusers use Digital Technology to Control and Stalk. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to use digital technology to control and stalk you i...

This episode talks about a new book entitled, "But He Said He Loved Me." Anna Astwood has been a survivor guest on WHEN DATING HURTS twice. During her first interview, she said she started a book two decades ago, but put it away, and she did not finish it When she returned for her second interview in December 2025, she mentioned her book again. She was urged to pick up the book and bring it to a c...

Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is the second part of a two-part story with Erin.  We interviewed Erin about three years ago, and her story has remained on our minds ever since. So, we're bringing it back to you. Erin was taken advantage of while she was...

Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is the first in a two-part story with Erin.  We interviewed Erin about three years ago, and her story has remained on our minds ever since. So, we're bringing it back to you. Erin was taken advantage of while she was suffer...

"Devaluation in an Abusive Relationship" This episode is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Devaluation in an Abusive Relationship. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to lov...

"Understanding Flying Monkeys" This episode is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Understanding Flying Monkeys This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to love bomb you -- or some...

Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Karan told me she spent the past several months healing from a deeply harmful relational experience. She understands how stories like hers bring both awareness and healing, and so she wanted to share with us. What makes her stor...

"Financial Abuse in Abusive Relationships" This episode is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Financial Abuse in Abusive Relationships. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to...

Love Bombing. This episode is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: What You Need to Know About Love Bombing. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to love bomb you -- or someone...

Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is part two, the final episode of a two-part story with Julia. The power in this narrative comes from the fact that our survivor, Julia, is a smart person from a good family living in Canada. If she could be coercively cont...

Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. This is part one of a two-part story with Julia. The power in this narrative comes from the fact that our survivor, Julia, is a smart person from a good family living in Canada. If she could be coercively controlled, anyone coul...

Gaslighting - with examples. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: Gaslighting: How it Sounds, Works, and Steals Your Reality. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to gas...

Future Faking. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: What Future Faking Is. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to "future fake" you in a relationship. It is a fairly sh...

Content Warning & Disclaimer Please proceed with caution. This episode may be highly triggering for survivors of abuse and trauma. Listener discretion is strongly advised. Tricia Gray grew up as one of four children in Louisiana, raised by a single mother who was trapped in a cycle of abusive relationships. At just five years old, Tricia became her mother’s protector, shielding her through years o...

Ghosting. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: What Ghosting Really Is. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to "ghost" you in a relationship. It is a fairly short episo...

Gaslighting. This is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: What Gaslighting Really Is. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to gaslight you in a relationship. It is a fairly shor...

We decided to rerelease this story because it gathered so much attention when it first ran. This is part two of a two-part story with Anna Astwood. Anna is a survivor of teen dating violence. It happened about 25 years ago, but she has lived with it every day since. As a survivor herself of sexual assault and teenage dating violence from the ages of 12 to 18 years old, she knows the pain, the trau...

We decided to rerelease this story because it gathered so much attention when it first ran. This is part one of a two-part story with Anna Astwood. Anna is a survivor of teen dating violence. It happened about 25 years ago, but she has lived with it every day since. As a survivor herself of sexual assault and teenage dating violence from the ages of 12 to 18 years old, she knows the pain, the trau...

Coercive Control. This episode is a blend of survivor-centered education, psychology, and clear red-flag guidance. And it's all grounded in research. We call this: What You Need to Know About Coercive Control. This is not an interview with a survivor. It is not red flags wrapped into a story. It is the red flags you need to know so you will never be fooled by someone trying to coercively control y...