What's A Good Guy?

After seven years, Myles returns to What's A Good Guy, and the growth is undeniable. In this powerful episode, we reflect on who Myles was then versus who he is now—a father, a man of deeper principles, and someone who's learned what it truly means to be a man. We dive into loyalty, morals, and navigating life's noise, all while discussing the challenges of mental health, loss, and the importance...

In this episode, the guys dive into what it really means to leave situations—jobs, relationships, or friendships—without bitterness. Inspired by Don's personal story of being let go from PBS only to be offered his position back later, this conversation unpacks the power of handling setbacks with grace. We explore: – The importance of not burning bridges – Why you won't always get closure (and why...

Who are you when no one's watching? And more importantly — are you comfortable with the answer? In this episode of What's A Good Guy?, we're joined by the multi-hyphenate himself — Vic: fashion designer, stylist, basketball referee, teacher of life, dean, devoted partner, and part of the powerhouse brand Tier NYC. But today, we're not talking titles — we're talking identity. We explore questions l...

In this episode of What's A Good Guy?, the guys reflect on their latest Sunday adventure at Burgers & Bottles, where Lashawn surprised everyone by stepping out of his comfort zone and becoming the life of the party. As he navigated socializing and attracting plenty of attention, the crew dives into what it means to truly come out of your shell. Lashawn shares his firsthand experience of breaking o...

Not every connection starts with sparks flying — some take time to heat up. In this episode of What's A Good Guy?, we explore the concept of a slow burn in dating: What does it mean to be one? What adjustments does it take to date someone who moves at a different pace? And what happens when someone becomes a slow burn midway through the dating experience — after the fire already started? The guys...

We kick off this episode answering Bri's question: "Where are you meeting women these days?" That opens the door to a full conversation on how dating has changed — where men meet women, how we approach them, and whether real effort still matters in today's world. Then Kojo takes it deeper — questioning if What's A Good Guy? needs to be backed by a white man to reach its full potential, and whether...

This week on What's A Good Guy?, Quanny's still not letting Justin off the hook. After watching Forever on Netflix, he makes the case that Justin needs to recognize the privilege he was operating from — even if it wasn't loud, it was still real. That sparks a deeper conversation: Do people actually know when they're privileged? And at what age do they start to realize it? Quanny throws out a bold...

We watched Netflix's Forever… and let's just say, things got heated. Justin & Keisha's relationship? Justin's decision to skip school? His mom vs. dad's parenting styles? Quanny calling Justin a bum? Yeah… that turned into a full-blown debate on how we'd handle things if Justin was our son. The first 34 minutes are on YouTube & DSPs. The rest? You already know — Patreon exclusive. Support and foll...

This week on What's A Good Guy?, we're talking about the art — and the risk — of applying pressure when you're pursuing someone. Is there a fine line between showing genuine interest and begging for attention? Can consistency still look desperate in the wrong context? The guys open up about how they each "applied pressure" to win over their significant other, what worked, what backfired, and where...

This week on What's A Good Guy?, we're switching things up. While the guys weren't able to record, we're publicly releasing a Patreon-exclusive episode from our bonus series: The Real World, hosted by Quanny. If you're new here, The Real World is where Quanny challenges social norms and calls it like he sees it — no sugarcoating, just real talk. In Episode 5, Quanny covers: • Why new drivers are a...

This week on What's A Good Guy?, Lashawn opens up about a week full of standing on business — whether it was handling professional moves, responding to 3 a.m. text messages, or dealing with someone who ghosted him suddenly spinning the block. The conversation takes a deeper turn when Kojo shares why, for some people, it's easier to process things alone rather than talk it out — and how emotional i...

In this preview of Episode 325: My Muse, Kojo, Lashawn, and Don go back and forth over one of the most complicated creative inspirations we've seen: love. Dane opens up to Lashawn about how a new romantic connection pushed his creativity to new heights — but there's a twist. The muse? She's the sister of one of his closest friends. Is she the reason for his artistic growth, or is Dane romanticizin...

In this episode of What's A Good Guy?, we dive deep into the unspoken battle between logic and emotion — the true negotiation happening inside all of us. Inspired by Chris Voss' book Never Split the Difference, we explore how tactical empathy — not logic — became the FBI's greatest weapon against kidnappers and terrorists, and why that same shift is crucial when facing grief and loss. Men are ofte...

In this episode of the podcast, Don opens up about the palpable tension he feels in his workplace, grappling with the uncertainty of whether it's a product of his own overthinking or an actual issue at play. He reflects on the struggle of being his own worst enemy, caught in a cycle of self-doubt and hesitation. This leads to a heartfelt conversation between LA and Jo, where they explore strategie...

Episode 322: Keep It to Yourself In this episode, Don leads a conversation on the power of privacy and the moments when saying less might actually mean more. From what people confide in you, to what you choose to share with your partner—we dive into the boundaries of oversharing, emotional responsibility, and protecting your peace. We even learn a surprising truth about Kojo: he doesn't like his p...

In this episode, Kojo introduces his "Red and Green Theory," a concept that helps us reflect on how we categorize people in our lives—green meaning safe and aligned, red meaning harmful or misaligned. But what happens when someone you've placed in the green starts treating you like you're in the red? How do we communicate those shifts in energy and maintain healthy relationships?   We also unpack...

In this episode, we kick things off with a wild conversation about cheating culture. Lashawn shares a story about a coworker casually bragging about how much he cheats on his partner—leading us into a deeper conversation about the toxic patterns people normalize in relationships. That opened the door to the main topic: bread crumbing. We break down what it is, how it shows up in relationships, and...

What happens when you reach your breaking point? In this episode, Don opens up about the moment he had to speak up for himself at work after feeling unsupported and unseen. He also reflects on the pressure of family expectations at his grandmother's 91st birthday dinner—navigating the questions about marriage and children. Lashawn flips the conversation, asking: what if your partner feels the same...

What does it really mean to be equally yoked? In this episode, we dive deep into the meaning behind this concept and how it plays out in relationships. From values to lifestyle choices, we unpack the hard truths about compatibility and alignment. LA shares his experience dating a drug dealer , while Kojo reflects on his time with an active gang member —both shedding light on what happens when two...

In this episode, Lashawn introduces The Four Agreements , a powerful book that challenges us to reshape our mindset and approach to life. Along with the cast, we break down each agreement, discussing how they resonate with us and the ways we can apply them to our daily lives. Which agreement spoke to us the most? Tune in to find out as we reflect on personal growth, accountability, and the wisdom...

Intimacy vs. Isolation – How 19-40 Shapes Success & Connection In this episode, we break down the stage of development between ages 19-40, focusing on intimacy vs. isolation—how this period defines our relationships, personal growth, and self-worth. We explore: 🔹 Success & Failure: Do we distance ourselves from things we see as failures? 🔹 Emotional Connection: How does our view of success impac...

In this episode, we dive into the wild turbulence of life—literally and figuratively. We kick things off with a discussion about the recent Delta flight incident that went viral and how it's got Lashawn feeling some type of way as a flight attendant. Then, we transition into the latest TikTok story that's got everyone talking: a woman flying herself out to Atlanta to meet a man, only for things to...

Episode 309: The "With You" Is Silent Eight years of What's A Good Guy—what a journey! We're celebrating in high fashion, giving flowers to the team for their new job roles, and reflecting on how far we've come. Then, we dive into the hot topics: Anthony Edwards openly tells a woman he doesn't want to be a father—was he just being honest, or is there more to unpack? And is a 38-year-old woman purs...

Episode 308: "Montoya!!!!"   In this episode, we're diving into revenge, forgiveness, and knowing when to let things go—or double down.   We start with 50 Cent's viral posts about Irv Gotti, Big Meech, and Lil Meech. Were his posts distasteful, or was he completely justified in his response? Is revenge ever warranted, or should we just let karma handle it? ( 12:33 - 18:10 )   Then, we get into one...