What We're Not Taking To Our Graves

Send us Fan Mail we've all been there- listening patiently to our bestfriend/sister/cousin/co-worker going on and on about her partner and nodding while offering supportive advice when all you want to do is scream "BREAK UP WITH HIM ALREADY!!"  well, now you can just casually share this episode to your insta stories an hour after her little vent sesh and pray she gets the hint.  thi...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of What We're Not Taking to Our Graves , we’re diving into the orgasm gap. Why it exists, who it affects most, and what it reveals about how we’ve been taught to think about sex and pleasure. We’re also breaking down the power of masturbation: not just as a source of release, but as a way to understand your body, build confidence, and close the pleasure gap in...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we pick up right where we left off. We've talked about casual dating as a single mom, but what the heck does it even look like to be in a serious relationship with someone as a single mom? How does one be a girlfriend after being a wife? Join us as we gab about first dates, the first "I love you"'s, conversations around moving in together, rema...

Send us Fan Mail In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into the heated drama between Justin Baldoni and Blake Lively, all sparked by the It Ends With Us movie adaptation. What started as excitement over this highly anticipated film has quickly spiraled into a whirlwind of backlash and controversy. We’re breaking down the tension between these two stars, what’s really fueling the feud, and everythi...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of What We're Not Taking to Our Graves , we’re getting real about communicating fantasies and kinks with your partner. How do you bring up those conversations without feeling awkward or judged? What does it take to turn private desires into shared experiences? And how can you get the most out of your sex life by figuring out what you truly want in the bedroom?...

Send us Fan Mail If you listened to last week's episode, you know that one of our biggest goals for 2025 is to figure out the whole religion thing again. As two people who grew up heavily involved in church, to now questioning so much- we're very much unsure of what this journey is going to look like, but we're excited to yap about it with you guys. This week we discuss our upbringi...

Send us Fan Mail (yes, we are well aware of how incredibly cheesy this is- yes, we still did it) 2024 was one of those crash course years for growth for both of us. One of those years where you find yourself sitting in the bathtub thinking holy shit, when is it going to stop being hard? And then the next morning something else absolutely awful happens. But 2024 was also filled with so much love, j...

Send us Fan Mail This week, we’re talking about the challenges and growth that come with blending families and making mindset shifts in day-to-day life. From figuring out how to navigate new family dynamics to letting go of the pressure to have it all together, we’re embracing whatever life throws our way—and encouraging you to do the same. As the new year approaches, we reflect on what we’re leav...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of What We’re Not Taking To Our Graves , we’re unpacking the mental load of motherhood—and other things, probably. Being a mom is one of the most rewarding experiences, but the unspoken balancing act of emotional labor can feel overwhelming. From the mental weight we often don’t even realize we’re carrying, to the guilt, pressure, and unspoken expectations that com...

Send us Fan Mail On this week's episode, we sit down and read through a listener's email together for the first time! We open up the conversation surrounding discussing desires with our partners, scorekeeping in relationships and navigating the balance between the give and take, our experiences when wants in the bedrooms didn't align- and a special cameo from Hank and Bryson answeri...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we explore the complex relationship between porn and modern sexual dynamics. We delve into how pornography influences sexual desire and intimacy, examining its impact on emotional connections and relationships. We also discuss the ethical considerations surrounding porn, its role in shaping sexual satisfaction, and the ways it affects individual drives. This conve...

Send us Fan Mail This week, we dive into our favorite hot takes, unpopular opinions, and controversial statements to discuss- perfect for sparking conversation around the Thanksgiving table or any gathering where a healthy debate can thrive. Join us as we share our perspectives and ruffle a few feathers, we aren't holding back.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we dive deep into one of society's most persistent taboos: sex. Why is it still such a controversial topic? From cultural taboos to personal stigmas, we explore the roots of our collective discomfort with discussing sex openly. Our conversation covers a wide range of subjects, including the impact of religion, porn, and societal expectations on our views of s...

Send us Fan Mail Hi pals.  This episode feels a little harder to put out into the world— mostly because I do that thing where you have the trauma you’re comfortable talking about and the trauma you don’t actually want to address. I found myself having to restart this episode multiple times in some spots due to the nature of the conversation, I struggle with downplaying the things I went through. I...

Send us Fan Mail Hi Pals, Alissa here. I have typed this out 5 times now and I cannot for the life of me make this sound as polished as the other descriptions. In this episode, I discuss my childhood trauma, mental health diagnoses, and more.  Trigger Warning-  murder addict parents sexual assault to children underage substance use eating disorders bipolar disorder OCD  A lot of these stories have...

Send us Fan Mail So, you're divorced- now what?  In this episode we talk about our experiences dating as single moms for the first time. The ups, the downs, and every "do it for the plot" moment in between. We both took radically different approaches to dating during this time, and still manage to find similarities and comradery in the process. Our hope is to open up the conversatio...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to What We’re Not Taking to Our Graves, t he podcast where we dive into the controversial and taboo topics that everyone else is too scared to touch. In a world that often shies away from difficult conversations, we’re here to create a safe space for open dialogue, connection, and understanding. Each episode features candid discussions, personal anecdotes, and heartfelt re...