What Excites Us!

If you've ever wondered what it would feel like to build a sex life completely on your own terms... Jamie Love is living it. And she's here to tell us everything. Jamie is the executive director of Sex Positive World and Sex Positive Portland, a cuddle coach, a kink educator, and a brand new board member of Portland Leather Alliance. She calls herself a polyamorous slut and a free agent... and als...

Have you ever fallen in love with someone who doesn't exist in your world? A fictional character, an anime figure, a god... what if that's not a phase, and it never was? Researcher and founder of Pillow Talk with Nixi, Nishita Rao, joins Gwyn to explore fictophilia, the experience of romantic or erotic attraction to beings outside of your “reality”. We start with having crushes on cartoon characte...

Have you ever pursued something that felt taboo... and wondered if the shame around it was trying to tell you something? Sharon Marie Scott says yes. And that it's pointing you straight to your fastest path to freedom. In this conversation we dig into the pleasure ceiling and what happens when you stop collapsing before you can fully receive... the Jenga tower framework for understanding your core...

Have you ever caught yourself saying "I shouldn't want that" or "I should just be grateful"... and wondered where that voice is even coming from? Jess Wildman is a Personal Power Coach who helps women shed the weight of societal expectations so they can live delicious lives full of pleasure and joy. Her work is rooted in a simple but radical idea: that personal power begins the moment you stop out...

If you've ever edited yourself down to be more lovable, Elize Simon is here to tell you to stop. As a relationship and communication coach and self-described professional permission granter, Elize helps people build love that actually feels good — without hiding who they are to get it. In this conversation with Gwyn, Elize unpacks why so many people enter relationships for the wrong reasons, what...

Kink isn't what porn taught you or abuse. Here's what it actually is, and how to do it without being garbage about it. Nyxie Noc is a kink educator, sadist, presenter extraordinaire, and one of the most knowledgeable and genuinely thoughtful people out there teaching. In this episode, they break it all the way down - from what kink actually is to what makes someone an ethical dominant, and why age...

What does your body feel like to you right now... is it yours? If you grew up in purity culture, you know that question hits different. Wren Morrow did grow up in that world, deeply immersed in it, and then in 2016 she chose a completely different story. Now she's an outdoor embodiment photographer in the Pacific Northwest, guiding women through wild places and watching them come back to themselve...

You think jealousy means you're not cut out for non-monogamy. Ellecia Paine is here to tell you that's not quite right. Ellecia is a non-monogamy coach, host of the podcast Nope, We're Not Monogamous, and someone who spent 13 years in a monogamous marriage before deciding... nope. Not doing that again. And she did it knowing she was a jealous person. That's not the punchline. That's the point. We...

What happens when women stop abandoning themselves and start listening to the quiet, messy, holy truth of what they actually need? In this panel conversation, Gwyn Isaacs joins the Amplify Alliance for an honest exploration of what it really means to reclaim your radiance. Together they talk about trauma, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system safety, shame, burnout, faith, intuition, e...

What if your body isn’t broken… it’s protecting you? After trauma, many people feel disconnected from their bodies. Touch can feel overwhelming. Pleasure can feel distant. And safety can feel like something that belongs to other people. In this masterclass replay with trauma recovery coach Arci Grey, we explore how to begin rebuilding trust with your body through gentle, guided nervous system prac...

Chemistry can spark attraction… but it rarely sustains intimacy. In this episode, Gwyn Isaacs talks with Deborah Kat about what actually carries relationships past the honeymoon phase: empowerment, communication, and pleasure skills. If you’ve ever felt deeply connected at first… and then slowly confused about why desire faded, this conversation offers a grounded, compassionate reframe. Deborah Ka...

From survivor to sovereign … without turning “healing” into a full-time job. Dr. Lisha Antiqua (soul psychologist, founder of Your Own University) joins me for a conversation about post-traumatic growth, identity reclamation, and why trauma is an injury … not a life sentence, not a personality trait, and definitely not proof you’re broken. We talk about why pleasure can feel unsafe after trauma, h...

What if your “health issues” aren’t just hormones… or willpower… or the latest supplement trend? In this episode, Gwyn talks with Dr. Dawn Dalili , a naturopathic physician who connects the dots between sex, food, shame, boundaries, and what we allow ourselves to feel. We dig into how emotional eating often isn’t about hunger, why guilt is a reliable pleasure-killer, how “being safe” can show up a...

If you’ve ever wondered why opening your relationship feels exciting and like your nervous system is staging a coup… this episode is your new best friend.  In this conversation, I sit down with somatic coach, pleasure witch, and bestselling author Irene Morning, whose book The Polyamory Paradox finally names the body-based realities of non-monogamy that most people tiptoe around. We talk about:  •...

What if the same medicine that helps you face your shadows could also melt sexual shame and reconnect you to pleasure? This week I sit down with Amory Jane—sex educator, mom, and one of Oregon’s first licensed psilocybin facilitators—to talk about the very real places where psychedelics and sexuality meet. We get into the messy, beautiful stuff: what “set and setting” actually look like in the rea...

What if the thoughts you were most ashamed of weren’t actually you—but symptoms of OCD?  And what if those thoughts were silently sabotaging your intimacy, relationships, and sense of self?   Most people think OCD is only about handwashing and perfectionism—but what happens when it shows up in your sex life, your relationships, or the thoughts you’re terrified to say out loud? In this episode, I’m...

Aging isn’t the end of desire—it can be the gateway to your erotic evolution. 💥 In this conversation, CJ of No Shame with CJ shares how she went from quiet and compliant to boldly pursuing pleasure, non-monogamy, and kink—and why midlife is the perfect time to rewrite the rules. We get into hormone shifts, self-advocacy with doctors, queering jealousy, and building a pleasure practice that suppor...

What if “not feeling it” isn’t a problem to fix—but a valid orientation? This week, AASECT- and Ante Up!–certified sexuality educator Aubri Lancaster joins me to unpack the rich, nuanced worlds of asexuality and aromanticism—far beyond the usual myth-busting. Aubri shares her path from hosting adult toy parties to discovering her own asexual and gray-romantic identities, and how language finally g...

What if rope and aroma could quiet the noise of modern life and plug you back into real, felt connection—body, heart, and spirit? Gwyn sits down with Francis Bollwage—rope artist, facilitator, and self-described “label-resistant” human—whose near-death experience rewired his path from addiction and numbness to a mission of deep human connection. Francis shares how discovering the BDSM community (a...

What happens when you stop defaulting to “the script” and follow your real desires—even if they lead you from monogamy to ENM… and then to celibacy? Writer and desire-explorer Jay House joins Gwyn for a candid, nuanced journey through identity, intimacy, and integrity. Jay traces her path from straight, monogamous marriage to embracing polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and kink—and why she’s now in...

Tired of being told to “be your best self” when you’re barely keeping it together? This one’s your permission slip to stop fixing and start living. Dr. Fannie Leboulanger—family physician, coach, yoga teacher, and host of Your Sexyfied Life—joins Gwyn for a bracing, compassionate convo about stepping out of survival mode and back into your body. Together they bust the “always improve” myth, unpack...

What if your body has been telling you the truth about your relationships all along? In this episode, intimacy coach and healer Shelby Avann joins Gwyn to explore how attachment styles, self-consent, and the chakra/energy system shape our love lives and our sex lives—often right down to the physical sensations we feel (hello, crygasms 👋). Together we cover: The four attachment styles—how they for...

After a wild six months (surgery, moving, kids—life!), Gwyn is back—and flipping the mic. In this conversation from Amy Rowan’s Unlocking Intimacy summit, we get real about how exploring kink can grow self-trust, sharpen communication, and translate into everyday confidence far beyond the bedroom. Gwyn and Amy unpack the fundamentals that make any sexy connection better: talking outside the bedroo...

Ever wonder what it would look like if teens were taught how to have truly healthy relationships before they even left childhood? In this episode, Gwyn Isaacs sits down with Julia Sheldon—aka Auntie Julia of Ask Auntie Julia—to explore her groundbreaking Connection Camp for teens. Julia shares how the camp creates a safe, inclusive, and fun environment where teenagers learn about consent, boundari...

What happens when a room full of vulva owners gather to explore their bodies, share their stories, and reconnect with their pleasure? In this episode of What Excites Us, certified sex coach and educator Gwyn Isaacs sits down with Jennifer Rahner, a certified Bodysex® facilitator and sex educator, to talk about the magic of the Bodysex experience founded by the legendary Betty Dodson. Jennifer shar...