We all have stuff

there is no pain quite like being blindsided by someone you implicitly trust. most of the time you don't expect them to betray you, but it can shock you to your core even when you know it's coming. Let's talk about it: attachment wounds, fractured trust, and rebuilding your new life. XOXO, gaby and less

Trauma is complex. We know this. We know it has layers. What about the people around you who want to help...but don't know how? What if they never "get it"? In today's episode, we focus on the people who come into our lives after the fact, and sometimes don't quite know how to handle the triggers, the big feelings, and the healing. This one's for you. We know it's har...

more on our trauma series. Next up, emotional trauma. What is it, how do you recognize it, where does it come from, and do we seriously all have some of it? Let's discuss your feelings and when you know they are coming from a trauma response. We dive into a bit of emotional abuse, and how to recognize the signs. We hope this helps!

what most people don't know about trauma: your body stores it and remembers it. even when you understand it logically, and can "make it make sense" to some extent...your body will pick up on danger from a mile away and make you FEEL it. let's talk about trauma in your body, your survival mechanisms, and why trauma recovery is deeper than we think.

Trauma is that thing that we all seem to have, but some of us got the premium plan. It's a 2026 buzz word, something that some people wear like a badge of honor at times, and something that is something a lifelong event for others. There's no blueprint to how traumatic things will affect us, why they happen, or even how we deal with it. So how do we recover? What's the first step? How...

we all just want to be helpful and say that our love language is "acts of service," but when do we cross the line? When does being helpful become harmful and problematic? Let's talk about enabling, how to stop, how to recognize it, and why it's not so good. As always, we love when you share your experiences with us, so send us a DM or leave us a comment!

Ever wanted to know the ins and outs of a therapist's brain? Are you a therapist who needs a little kinship to admit that there are things you THRIVE off of, and things you could do without? Here are some of our faves and not so faves. Head to our TT for some more real life therapist vibes! xoxo

grief changes us. there's no question. In this episode, we chat about the nitty gritty of grief: the waves, the guilt, the loneliness, the ways it hides under other emotions, and the fact that there is no timeline or "right way" when it comes to a grief process. Join us in exploring how grief can show up for you. Also, welcome to 2026. New icon tiles. New topics on the horizon. We lo...

tis the season, right? to do what though? to deck the halls or spiral because your list of things to do is seemingly never ending? Let's talk about the ~mental load~ and what it looks like over the holidays, especially. Tips, tricks, and ways to just sit back, enjoy your hot cocoa by the tree. Join us for our last episode of the year...but catch us on TikTok in the meantime (@weallhavestuffpod...

we know that pets are some of our biggest joys in life...and losing them is one of the biggest sorrows. Let's talk about the taboo parts of grieving a pet, some of the hard parts of pet ownership, existential thoughts, and obviously....hamster lore. If you're struggling with losing a pet, or preparing yourself for that time...you're not alone. See you on the pod. xoxo

Let's face it. For most of us, friendships are worth their weight in gold...until they seem to come with strings attached. And expectations. And entitlement. And stress. And demands. The list goes on and on. Let's talk about meeting where we're at, and what happens when you get the friendship ick. Stick around- this one is from the trenches.

Tis the season....to be stress-planning your holiday menu? To play referee among family members so that no one brings up hot button topics? To make memories or die trying? Let's talk about why the most wonderful time of the year also comes with tension, stress, and anticipatory anxiety. Also-this is episode 50! It's a HUGE milestone for us to have been yapping with you for so many episodes...

No matter how you cut it, going no contact is hard . It's hard to pretend that someone you used to know and love is just nonexistent and irrelevant to your life. We know the why...let's talk about the how. How do you start it, how do you stick with it, and how do you sit with yourself and your feelings, alone, and NOT CAVE? Let's discuss. We got you, babe. We are SO close to 50 episode...

In today's episode, we are SO excited and grateful to have an incredible person with us: Vikki Pinkos, a cancer survivor and inspiration to everyone she meets. Vikki joins us to share her story, give us some perspective about the emotional ups and downs of diagnosis and survivorship, and help us understand how differently life looks during and after cancer. We were both absolutely in awe of he...

Ever try to bring up something important in a conversation, only to be met with "but what about when..."? It doesn't feel great, does it? Let's talk about defensiveness, redirection, and accountability in communication, and why it feels good to just be HEARD. Join us! We'd love to hear from you! Leave us a comment, head over to tiktok for more of our content, and check out ou...

Well, it's called SAD for a reason, right? Welcome to fall, where the daylight hours shrink away and it feels like bedtime by dinnertime. If you struggle with this during the colder and darker months, have a seat as we discuss why this happens, what it is, and how you can work through it. Please share how you manage if this is a struggle bus season for you, too! We love to hear from y'all!...

why is everyone so stressed and burning the candle at both ends ALL THE TIME? in this episode, we talk about hustle culture, factors leading to burnout, and small strategies that can help you set healthy boundaries around your time, your work, and your goals. Everything in moderation, with some give-and-take to keep you on track. We would LOVE to hear from you. Questions, comments, stories to shar...

ahhhh, accountability. looking inside yourself. taking ownership. all of that stuff you know that you need to do, but kinda hate it. it's important, and you should totally do it. here's the inside scoop about what is so imperative about turning inward and examining your role in your own life. we'll hold your hand...promise. <3

Do you catch yourself saying “yes” just to keep the peace... even when you don't want to? This episode is alllllll about people-pleasing: where it comes from, how it affects you, and how to shift that mindset so you can set boundaries, guilt-free Your needs are JUST as important as everyone else's. Now let's get to it: people pleasers, take a seat.

Special guest on the pod! We are chatting today with another healthcare hero, our favorite nurse bestie who sheds light on both the rewarding and tough parts of patient care through the lens of shiny positivity and optimism. The definition of an empathetic provider= Krista. We are always so grateful for our incredible guests and their stories! if YOU want to be on the pod...send us a DM! :)

do you have toxic or high-conflict people in your life who seem to THRIVE when you give them any kind of emotional reactions? do you struggle to communicate with them while keeping your cool and not giving in to their demands or emotions? try this: a new method that will keep you calm... and keep them in check.

we ALLLLL do it. but WHY? if you don't know what doomscrolling is, picture this: you slide into bed at 9:45 pm, grab your phone, open social media, and the next thing you know, it's 2am and you've swiped between the same 4 apps since you started. that's it. been there? share your longest doomscroll with us...for science.

repeating patterns in your relationships? not sure whyyyyy? let's deep dive into the stuff that makes us go back for more (even when it isn't the best for us). Thanks for being here with us for almost 40 episodes, y'all! As always, drop a comment, share some love, share your story. We'd love to talk to you!

we all have at least ONE of these. the trusty "pet peeve." all we can say is...between the two of us, we have plenty. these are the things that get on your nerves, inexplicably irritate you, and make your skin crawl...but why do we have these? why do they happen? how do they make you FEEL? oh and also...please, PLEASE share yours. we're here for the tea. <3

ever wondered about your therapist? who are they, really? what do they like? do they like you? do they have favorites? Here's a look at what your therapist *might* answer, if you ask. It's okay to ask- you're vulnerable with us, and we will be real with you (while keeping a loving boundary!). If you have burning questions that you'd love to ask a therapist, or if you've quizzed...