Wanzology

When it seems life isn't 'moving' and you feel as if you're not progressing, maybe you've reached a plateau. A plateau vs peakin' is 'need to know' info!  Why? Check out this episode!

Like America, you probably want to become fully independent. You want to make the decisions for you that you believe will be best.  Emotional independence is the goal.  Do you know the process of achieving it??

How was your day? Good?  Bad?  Mediocre?  Do you think you deserve a reward for such a day? A reward, like ice cream? Ask yourself, "Did I do enough to earn ice cream as a reward?"

How you are 'seen' isn't as important as how you 'see' your-self (two words).  Is your subconscious your friend, or your enemy? What do you think of yourself (one word)?

Sometimes, does it feel like life is going around in a big huge circle? The you're taking 'looks' straight, but you seem to always end up in a similar situation or result.  I think of this as "The Clover Leaf Pattern".  I mimics the old highway system's solution to changing direction when you're traveling an interstate. Does this resonate with you?

Just wanted to share my experience attending Brandi Carlise's "Echoes Through The Canyons" 3-Day festival.  One can learn a lot about humanity by watching folks outside of your comfort zone.

Have you ever noticed that you've had similar experiences with some things in your life that others have had?  Do you ever share your experiences with others? If not, why not? Every human being has a story.  Here's why we all should share them more often.

Have you ever hurt someone or been hurt by what was said and wished you could take it back, but you can't, given it's been said and heard.  So what next?  Maybe, you can make amends, because really, you can't take it back.

How did you develop your individual sense of 'self'?  What kind of shirt do you like to wear? What style of shoes? Pants? Coats?? Did you have the same journey to 'self' that I did when it comes to style???

Mindfulness is a meditation practice I've gotten interested in because of my fearful/avoidant attachment style.  The technique starts with focusing one's attention on the breath and how it interacts with the body.  This engages the frontal cortex and gets a person out of their 'lizard brain'. Wanna know the difference between a reaction and a response?  Check this episode out.

Remember, you have been through a lot to make it to where you are, that's your 'evidence'!!

...and you may ask yourself, "How did I get here? And you may ask yourself, "Where does that highway lead to?".  Everyone has a story, why don't more people share their story???

"...and the wisdom to know the difference.". This last line of the serenity prayer is what I call 'the catch'.  Everything in life has a 'catch'.  In this episode, I question is 'we' can always tell the difference between what going to 'happen', what is 'happening' and what has 'happened'.

Do you  know what you 'spiritual condition' is or how to maintain it?  You'd be surprised how simple yet, how difficult, it can be to keep your spirit 'upright'.

I learned something interesting from those who supported the No Kings Protests and those who didn't. I was taken by a single question, is there a difference between a person and a human?  What do you think?

My favorite line from my favorite movie "Shawshank Redemption" is, "Hope.  Hope is a good thing.  Maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies." Where would we be without hope?  Let's consider a few things...

A different take on the concept of wasting time.  Even if it feels like you're not doing anything or you're lamenting in your head what you COULD have been doing, do you feel you've wasted time?  I think not.

I came across a video on YouTube outlining steps to recondition the body to feel positively about what used to be a negative experience. Feelings are connected to our body which is primarily run by our subconscious.  If you had a bad experience with a parent around learning how to drive, you may be tentative to teach your child how to drive because you feel 'some sorta way' about it.

All of us have an inner critic.  That voice that causes us to doubt, to not take chances, even when we know we can be successful. Here's a personal story of how I overcame my inner critic.

Knowing where you are in a given process is important information to have.  Why? When one knows where they are in any given process, one knows how far they've come, as well as how far they have to go. Stopping to evaluate where you are is always good.

"Trust the process" people say...well, what does that mean?  Which process?  Who's process?  Let's find out.

I have found that I am today triggered by people, places, things and situations that frustrate me.  That frustration is perceived as anger. Mindfulness and Self Awareness are, hopefully, my pathway back to self regulation, better communication of my needs and less crappy behavior in relationships.

Like a caterpillar that creates a cocoon around itself and after a while emerges as a beautiful butterfly, we humans are also in some state of 'becoming' whatever we decide is next for us. 

Healing takes time.  Time takes time.  I found a two-step process that helps me heal...as long as I'm paying attention.

How do you know you're being your authentic self and not being misperceived by you or someone else? Let's explore.