Wake Up Your Relationship!

Do you or your partner feel like you're not attempt to not have an argument you lose control of the argument. This does not mean that one of you has the upper hand in asserting the correctness of how the argument should go. But more like wanting to shut down the argument, which then leads to an explosive argument. At that point the argument is therefore out of control. Today we are going to ta...

Today we are going to address the misconception that some people come into therapy for which is.... The outcome is more important than the relationship. I'm gonna talk today about some examples of what that means to put the outcome over the relationship and how this dynamic does not work well in couples therapy. If you would like to learn more about me and my practice feel free to stop by my w...

Today's episode is for those in the beginning of dating, or wanting to preemptively look at their relationship in a way that will insulate themselves and their relationship from the flaws of modern divorce. I will talk more about what I mean by modern divorce. I will also go over what each of you can be doing to notice the signs or create skills that will allow you to sail pass these difficult...

It's as simple as the title suggest. I want for you to be thinking a little bit more critically about what kind of response are you getting from your partner because you might be giving them just the same. If you would like to learn more about me and my practice feel free to stop by my website, sunrisetherapies.org. If you live outside of Massachusetts, USA but would like to get a question ans...

More people than ever before are aware of therapy based language. This language is typically used as ways to describe a person, symptoms or behaviors that fits a diagnoses. The reason we have this language in therapy is typically to help us define and find common ground and understanding about what's going on. However, in today's episode, I want to address some of the negative effects that...

How can couples connect when they're having an argument that is multi layered? In today's episode we're gonna talk about how to jump to the end of these multi layered arguments and still find connection, even with not addressing every single layer. If you would like to learn more about me and my practice feel free to stop by my website, sunrisetherapies.org. If you live outside of Mass...

In today's episode, we're gonna talk about what I call the teacher student dynamic. This is a way to label the experience that all couples go through when they're growing and learning new things about one another. In all educational situation is there is someone teaching and there is someone learning. So therefore, its been labeled the teacher student dynamic. If you would like to lear...

Some people think that when they enter couples therapy that this is the place that they will gain mastery of their relationship and never have struggles again. In today's episode, I want to talk about how relationships never stop evolving, nor should you ever want them to. And possible ways to think about it a little bit differently than never ending cycle of discomfort. If you would like to l...

Today we're gonna talk about realistically how fast a relationship can progress, considering two different people can be at two different speeds. Different ways for you to think about this relationship situation and some helpful tips to hopefully improve either of your experience of being a different speeds. If you would like to learn more about me and my practice feel free to stop by my websi...

In today's modern age, there seems to be a lot of mixed messages around masculinity and femininity. As a couples counselor, this is a topic that no couples can truly go without if they are to graduate. I would like for you as a listener to think about what are some masculine and feminine role models you have. The more we understand what internal drives we have the better we can integrate who w...

Through my work with couples, I have seen there to be several rules that all relationships have been influenced by. In today's podcast I want to talk about three truths that all relationships need to walk in understanding or start understanding now so that they can change their expectations and their dynamic for the better. If you would like to learn more about me and my practice feel free to...

When we are in relationship with another person, it's pretty normal for us to not always be on the same page. Today I want to talk about when one of you is not feeling happy and how it's OK to not fall into unhappiness with them. If you would like to learn more about me and my practice feel free to stop by my website, sunrisetherapies.org. If you live outside of Massachusetts, USA but woul...

Today's topic is going to be exactly as the title suggests. Sometimes our partners are trying to tell us something, but the way they tell it to us is not coming across very well. In today's episode I want to talk about the importance of not letting those messages go by without trying to understand them. If you would like to learn more about me and my practice feel free to stop by my websit...

I have many analogies that I like to use in my work with couples to have them visualize what is happening within their relationship. These analogies are sometimes ways that they should be reviewing their needs, the relationships needs or the health of the relationship overall. Today, let's talk about one of my favorites, which is the bucket analogy! If you would like to learn more about me and...

In working with a number of couples that ultimately want to make one another happy, I have found a noticeable behavior that actually is quite negative, and something that erodes trust in the long run. This is a concept of not wanting to disappoint one's partner, and instead of telling the honest truth, they would rather tell a white lie to avoid disappointing them. In today's episode let&#...

Chivalry is a very old concept of how specifically men behave with women. In today's modern time, some of these old teachings have become obsolete or negative. However, there are many things from the past that actually makes sense and can be tailored to every individual. In today's episode, I want to challenge the man in the audience to really think about what is their authentic version of...

Even if you and your partner speak the same language as your first language, it doesn't always mean that you actually are understanding one another. In today's episode, I want to talk more about how to be aware that communication is not always as simple as saying, the exact same words. But more about understanding that each other can have a different meaning from the exact same words. Inst...

Let's talk today about another difference between the genders. Specifically, I want us to be focusing on the negative experiences partners can have within communication. What I mean that by that is in a situation you're trying to communicate something do you ever feel like your partner jumps to a negative conclusion? Let's talk a little bit today about why that happened and how you can help. If yo...

Let's talk about what some people might consider is incompatibility in a relationship. Or is this just the norm of being two different people? I have heard many people come into therapy with me that feel that they are in compatible with their partner and they're trying to find someway to rectify this. However, more often than not this is simply a moment that they are experiencing what it is to liv...

This is our part two of the two part series around past ammo. In today's episode, we're going to talk more specifically about forgiveness and the role we play in forgiving our partners for past wrongs. This is going to be another episode where we take radical responsibility so get ready this might be uncomfortable. If you would like to learn more about me and my practice feel free to stop by my we...

Today we are going to talk about part 1 of a two-part series in regards to the topic of using past issues as ammo within arguments. I think every couple can understand that past pain definitely can linger if not addressed. Let's talk about how to begin this process, so that arguments become more focused on what is happening right now and not so much about what has happened in all the time you have...

I believe it's common knowledge that we know our partner cannot be all things at all times to us. However, I still see in my practice that we have a lot of unrealistic expectations for our relationship. Today let's talk a little bit about what makes an unrealistic expectation and how to come to a compromise so they both of you can be in a relationship that feels happy and respectful of your differ...

Today we're gonna talk about the importance of having a no way mindset when it comes to working on couples issues. Defining, the no way out mindset means to be ready to deal with the situation that you are in because you cannot leave. I want to give some examples of people I have seen in practice as well as throughout social media, but personify these issues of easily, leaving and giving up on the...

Every relationship does this dance. This dance goes beyond sexuality, and really is about the flow of roles and teamwork. Because this topic is vast and very personalized, I am only going to be talking about the most general points that I think everyone should start to assess and hopefully personalize in their own relationships. You will need, a strong awareness in yourself and what truly feels co...

In today's podcast, we're gonna think about the effectiveness and the possibility of you creating rules or guidelines to how you and your partner decide to have arguments. We're naming it the rules of engagement.  If you would like to learn more about me and my practice feel free to stop by my website, sunrisetherapies.org. If you live outside of Massachusetts, USA but would like to get a que...