Wait... Am I Toxic?

Black love feels soooo rare that our eyes pop out of our heads when we see it (yes, we're talking to you people who forward engagement posts to 6 of your friends in the DMs). This week we get into why Black love feels so rare that it's become political, and we attempt to restore some hope for the bunch of folks who are starting to feel like it's unattainable. We even have some interesting statisti...

Should “blood be thicker than water” when your friends are tailored to all of your needs, whereas your sibling still hasn't forgiven you for the time you stole their skirt when you were 10 years old? This week’s toxic submitter admits to prioritising her friends over her family and we know she’s not the only one! Whilst she unapologetically explains why, like many of us when it concerns family, sh...

This week's submitter is wondering if she's out of line for judging the guys her friends date. We've all had a time when we can't believe the bozo our friend has chosen entertain, let's talk about why sometimes it's important to mind your business and face your front! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @ ruk...

You often hear interracial couples say they "didn't see colour" when falling in love with their spouse. Now whether that is true or not is questionable, but our viral Tik Toker and straight talking guest this week, Quincy_smf has noticed something else interesting about interracial dating. Quincy_smf wants to know why Black men catch so much heat for liking White women, but Black women are praised...

Glass skin for the win! The “glass” poreless skin babes on TikTok are triggering this week’s submitter and we hear it. Women are wearing less heavy makeup thanks to a more “natural” look being the in thing now, which should TECHNICALLY be a good thing, but where does it leave babes who have suffered with skin conditions like acne their whole lives?  This week we talk about just how unnatural “natu...

Ever felt guilty or like less of a woman for not being excited by the thought of having children? In this climate of expensive living costs and trashy UK men... TRUST US, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! This week's toxic submitter shares all of her fears and reservations about motherhood and wishes more mothers were more transparent with their parenting woes. Do you think women should innately want children? J...

Being a "creative" has become one of the most enigmatic labels of our time. No one knows what it means or how to rank it in our society. This week we get into the preconceptions that often come with being someone who has attached their livelihood to their creative passions. Join the convo using #WaitAmIToxic! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's T...

To our Gen Z listeners, you might want to close your ears for this episode! Our toxic submitter this week shares her frustration with this generation's excessive use of the "mental health" trump card as an excuse for quite frankly... being a pr*ck! Are you afraid to hold a loved one accountable for their whack a** behaviour because it may "trigger" them? If so, this one may be for you! Join Fola a...

Our submitter this week doesn't hesitate with freeing up the toxicity! She only wants "pretty" friends as she feels it helps to avoid the burden of anyone feeling like the black sheep of the group. Likewise, Fola and Rukiya don't hesitate to give their take on how toxic this submitter is (with a dash of understanding of course) and some valuable advice! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter:...

Seeing someone you love go through the trenches with an abuser will always be heartbreaking but also... frustrating AF. This week we're talking about the difficulties victims of domestic violence and their loved ones face, and we give our two cents on how to spot abuse from the outside looking in. This is an important conversation so we've unapologetically discussed our take on all of the often ig...

This weeks episode does exactly what it says on the tin... we're cussing men, again! We are joined by the fabulous ladies from Season Seasons who did not hold back with their toxic thoughts. Join us as we discuss the dating paddling pool in London and share our most embarrassing attempts to get back with an ex! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's...

This week we can't even front, we got down and dirty with the toxicity! Our submitter is holding her hands up to being shallow and fed up of how awfully a lot of the men she comes across present themselves when trying to date. If you've ever been shocked at some of the candidates on hinge's dress-sense and lack of trim, this one's for you! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic...

Instagram is swamped with hashtags about body positivity and fat women declaring total confidence in their often discriminated-against shapes, but this week's toxic submitter isn't really here for the "façade". She is personally struggling with her recent weight gain and questions how realistic it is to love her fat body, especially when her health is at risk. Join Fola and Rukiya as they discuss...

Be it a one sided relationship, or someone who just runs you dry more than you'd expect, feeling like you're being used by a friend or lover SUCKS. This week we *attempt* to help our toxic submitter out in our chat about why users are users, and how taking your revenge on them usually ends up coming back to bite you in the ass. We also defend our right to be detty gels who are fed up of being sole...

In 2022, how progressive are we really if anyone who hasn't got a PHD in Social Justice Politics from the University of Twitter is met with immediate judgement and cancellation? This week’s toxic submitter says she is “doing the work” to educate herself on on BLM, feminist and birthing rights, but is considering whether ignorance is bliss, as dealing with people who just don't get it is proving to...

If you've ever been ghosted before then you probably screamed just as loud as we did at this week's submission. Aside from giving our toxic submitter advice on how to not buy himself a one way ticket to hell, we also get into the reasons we think people sometimes choose to ghost over ending a relationship properly. Feel free to knock us off our high horses if you think we're just as bad as our sub...

In a climate where it seems as if everyone has bought their apartment on Instagram, 40% of 22-29 year olds have no savings whatsoever. While this may be a surprise to many, a lot of us still have every faith that we will have a shot at "blowing" and will be financially free, so budgeting and saving now isn't a priority. Join us as we discuss having a dollar and a dream and all of the ways we've su...

Our brave toxic submitter this week isn't feeling the fact that Mixed-race people sometimes identify as Black, and we dissect their list of reasons why! As always, we're part-agreed and part-split on this one- we even get into a mini Black vs Mixed tussle of our own LOL. Most importantly however, these are just our opinions based on personal experience and vibes, please do pick up a book to educat...

*Beyonce vocals* My friends, real friends, better than your friends.... We love our friends, cherish our friends and rely on them, but what happens when they disappoint you? Even worse, what do you do when your friends isolate you and become close when you were the one to introduce them? This weeks toxic submitter is feeling rather isolated as her two friends are organising a holiday without her,...

Checking into heartbreak hotel! This week's toxic submitter is struggling with a relationship that's not terrible but still isn't at all right, and she wants out! Tune in to hear our take on how to navigate leaving semi-good relationships and the heartbreak that often comes with it. P.S. We had some audio issues this week, so please bear with us on the quality of some parts of our chat! Follow Us:...

The moment you have all been waiting for... Rukiya's birthday grime song is finally available on Spotify! Enjoy and don't troll us, music video is due to drop on July 1st....apparently loool! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy...

This week we are joined by Meet us After 7's very own co-host, Big Man Yus! Forget about a teacher doubting you, have you ever had parents who failed to support your vision? Join us as we discuss entitled parents who only want to chat to you nicellly once you're bringing in the coins. Oh yeah, we also discuss aliens, Fola's missed opportunity in breaking into the UK music industry too and Rukiya h...

This week we discuss all of the real behind contraception and all of its evil repercussions for women! Kevin Samuels also gets an honourable mention... TW: we discuss abortions, suicide, depression and sexual assault in this episode. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio See P...

This week we have nothing but pure rants and bants for you! We decided to take a break from trying to dismantle and discuss anything marginally deep! Be prepared to question cancelling one of the co-hosts and most importantly, laugh ya ass off! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedS...

Our toxic thinker this week is wondering, should we wait until we’ve achieved our career and financial goals before being open to finding love? In short our answer is, NO. Tune in to find out the reasons why we verbally flogged anyone who thinks that way (while understanding why many men have this perspective of course). We also plug you on the key Intermediate Rent Scheme for 20-30% off rent for...