Wait... Am I Toxic?

Self-help or self-welp? LOL awful pun. Anyway, this week’s submitter is really fed up of the men in her life predominantly reading self-help books, and thinks that it’s making them hyper-focused on all of the wrong things. Also, Fola can't stop talking about meeting Jamie Foxx- it's a wee bit cringe. Join the convo using #WaitAmIToxic and in our WhatsApp community chat where you'll get first dibs...

Don't worry we haven't lost our toxicity, but this week we're taking a break from the toxic thoughts to take a deep dive into how your favourite hosts are feeling! Expect a lot of vulnerability, an abundance of wisdom and in true remote recording fashion, slightly bad audio quality (sorry Rukiya has covid). We discuss romantic breakups, breakthroughs with parents and our favourite thing to troll,...

Calling all lovers (and ex-lovers apparently)! This week's submitter is keeping it piping hot with the toxicity as she confesses she's waiting for "the inevitable wave of divorced men" to find her King. The market is in such a state that people are convinced their forever person is just doing a warmup round at the moment in another marriage. Let's talk the pros and cons of being with a divorcee, b...

We've all heard the saying "There's no such thing as a selfless act" and this week's toxic submitter has gone as far as saying humans are inherently evil! Join Fola and Rukiya question how genuine their kindness is and why this week's toxic submitter may be onto something! Join the convo using #WaitAmIToxic and our WhatsApp community chat where you'll get first dibs on tickets for the live show: h...

If you were one of the people posting pics of their lavish Valentine's day gifts alongside quotes preaching "self-love above all!" this year, our toxic submitter has some words for you! Self-love is so complex, but has become a bodiless buzz-phrase in recent times. This week we chat about what self-love means and looks like to us, as well as the role we think external and romantic love should and...

Unless you live under a rock, you'll know that the 33-year-old singer, Chris Brown has been touring the UK and making the girlies 'Go Crazy' at his concerts. The gruntled singer took to Instagram last week to say he is 'tired', not from the 10,000 hip thrusts he seduces his fans with each night, but people failing to forgive and forget the violent assault he inflicted on Rihanna in 2009. Join Fola...

You guessed it... we're talking about men again! Our toxic submitter this week can't cope with just how difficult she's finding it to navigate men. Sis is wondering whether or not it's toxic to have given up all round on finding one who isn't misogynistic, abusive, a breadcrumber, disrespectful or one of the other awful possibilities that lie in between. We're not into gaslighting on this pod so w...

Does having White mannerisms prevent you from finding love as a Black person and furthermore, what does "White mannerisms" even mean?! This week's toxic submitter bravely shares her reservations on ever finding Black love because she doesn't seem to attract her own. Join Fola and Rukiya as they discuss the role of race and class, Rukiya's unconscious bias and Fola has a freaky confession to share...

Our submitter this week has sex on the mind... but not with her current partner, oop! After a steamy one night stand in Malta, a very toxic submitter admits she can't stop thinking about the best sex she's ever had, even while she's having sex with her boyfriend. Is it normal to fantasise about someone else during sex? Will her boyfriend ever live up to the standards of a man who was able to throw...

Hey hoes! This week's submitter is concerned that influencers are selling us all dreams about how lucrative the business is, and catfishing young people into thinking it's a stable career choice. If (like us) you've ever dreamed of your content making you enough money to get your family outta the hood, this submission might sting! We chat about the influencer economy, toxic influencing and our tox...

Our very dear and beautiful co-host Rukiya turns 30 today, so we're celebrating her loudly (despite her not wanting this one bit LOL)! I know you all agree that Rukiya is just about as pure and beautiful as a soul can get, so I'd love you all to join me in showering babygirl with all the love. Without Rukiya there is no WAIT and there is no me! I hope you all enjoy hearing just how loved Rukiya is...

Happy New Year peeps! We've all probably told ourselves that 2022 was the last year of being out of shape and that 2023 will be accompanied with more money, health and success! But one thing we all know about life is that it's bound to suck you up and spit you out from time to time, so how do we stay optimistic and focused on our goals? Join Fola and Rukiya discuss their attitudes towards the "New...

Christmas is all about love and family, right? But what does Christmas mean to those without the picture-perfect family? This week's toxic submitter is nervous about spending Christmas day with her family because of their fragmented relationship. Join Fola and Rukiya as they discuss how every family is dysfunctional and how to make Christmas work for you regardless of your family setup! Follow Us:...

TW: We discuss domestic violence throughout this episode Violence against women is becoming more trivialised than ever! The internet's response to the shooting case between Meg Thee Stallion and Tory Lanez highlights just how unsafe Black women are in society. This week's toxic submitter reflects on the actions of the "Say it" Canadian rapper and questions whether abusive men should be forgiven as...

Nowadays we're all supposedly really good at accepting people's differences, so much so that it's kinda "cool" to be weird. Our submitter this week is worried that their version of weird doesn't quite make the cut. We chat about how unaccepting and judgmental we can be of even the smallest quirks in character and how being called "different" can feel like a compliment and a slap in the face at the...

Have you ever felt like a wifey fluffer for troubled men? This week's toxic submitter shares her frustrations with men's privileges of being jerks until they decide to rebrand as stand-up men. She's heartbroken as her ruthless ex who continuously did her dirty has now turned to Christ, married another woman within 6 months and is seemingly treating his new babe better than he did her in their rela...

We can all relate to life lifeing in a way that completely burns us out and makes it difficult to keep on top of daily responsibilities and relationships. Well this week's toxic submitter has the "perfect" solution- just neglect people in your life on rotation! Fola and Rukiya chat about how hard it is to keep up with everything adulting demands from us every blessed day (with zero breaks!!) If yo...

In a saturated world of influencers, there's only one woman we trust to influence us and that's none other than the celebrity fashion stylist, Melissa's Wardrobe. From veggie wash sprays, to Christmas advent calendars and Mugler blazer's, we can all rely on the lifestyle queen to put us on! However, this week's toxic submitter believes Black influencers who flaunt their lavish lifestyles online pl...

Ever fancied someone who you just know belongs to the streets? This week our toxic submitter takes us down memory lane to the days of Uni romance and shenanigans. Do you think think we gave our submitter the right advice on how to work out just how serious a new love interest is!? Join the conversation using #WaitAmIToxic! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic TikTok: @waita...

Just like all good things in life, penises come in all shapes and sizes, so why are men constantly shamed for having small penises? This week's toxic submitter admits to struggling to respect her boyfriend because of the size of his penis. As a pair, Fola and Rukiya attempt to get to the bottom of this taboo and offer men some comforting advice being that it doesn't matter whatever the size! Sex d...

We wanted to end our Black History Month series with a bang about Black joy and what better way to do that than to chat absolute nonsense about absolutely nothing. Join us for an especially toxic game of "Would You Rather?" and a whole lot of laughter. We're happy, we're thankful and we hope you had a great BHM! Follow Us: Instagram: @ waitamitoxic Twitter: @ waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @ folashade Fo...

This week we're joined by the beautiful Azryah for another Black History Month special! We all remember the days where Africans and West Indians in the UK were at odds about absolutely everything where culture is concerned, and while we've made leaps in the right direction, this week's toxic submitter is convinced the war is very much still alive, but just silent. Join us to chat about the evoluti...

Today we are wishing our favourite co-host Fola, a very happy birthday. Please shower and bombard her with birthday wishes over on Instagram and Twitter because ya girl is now 30! Fola, thank you for all the wisdom, laughs and good vibes every single week- we love you so much! Lots of love, Rukiya x Fola's IG: @ folashade Fola's Twitter: @ fola_shade See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy...

Does being Black really prevent you from fulfilling your true potential in the UK? Our toxic submitter is fed up of the Black community constantly "pulling the race card" and overidentifying with the struggle. Our special guest, @Corporatesteve who took to TikTok to share his unpopular opinion of race being irrelevant, didn't shy away in expressing his frustrations, yet aspirations for his communi...

You often hear Black people in the UK say they don't feel British at all. Disconnected from Britishness and in some cases their own heritage, Black Brits have been left to define their own culture…. and you know what, we ain't mad at it! This weeks toxic submitter fears that one day her Blackness will be erased by interracial dating and will eventually have to raise White grandchildren, but in tru...