Wait... Am I Toxic?

They say death is the only thing promised in life, yet the pain of losing a loved one is an emotion we will never be prepared for. What happens when the person you've loved and lost was a person who had let you down and never got the chance to apologise? How do you support a friend in pain when you cannot physically bring back their loved one? Join Fola and Rukiya's candid conversation about death...

Please welcome Fola’s very special friend @drbroni to the mic! Our toxic submitter this week is very much over London and has decided it’s time for them to take the plunge and move abroad. Edwin is a small small genius, businessman, and avid traveller so it was only right we got him to share his story of rags to riches while living abroad. Rukiya was unfortunately really sick this week (please wis...

How far does continuously putting others before you get you? If we're honest with ourselves, not very far! This weeks courageous toxic submitter has decided to take the plunge and drop out of uni, but fears what her mum and those unstoppable aunties will have to say. Join us as we explore what disappointing others feels like and how to break free from the constant pressures that we feel as childre...

It is FINALLY nearing the age of sexual liberation for women, but the people who haven't quite found a comfortable place in the movement seem to be getting left behind. This episode, we speak about what sexual liberation means to us, the role religion plays and the journey a lot of people are quiet about - unlearning the shame they've attached to sex and taking ownership of their bodies in a way t...

Us Black Brits are forever preaching about creating safe spaces for us to go out in, but have you ever secretly felt more comfortable around White people? This week’s toxic submission confesses to feeling conscious about how they are looked at and perceived by some of their own fellow Black people in Black spaces. Join us and our special guest @THECLASSICMAN as we discuss feeling SEEN by our own p...

Have you ever been tempted to accept advances from someone who’s in a relationship? Our toxic submitter this week is passionate about not being held accountable for riding some married D. We get into the unfiltered truth about cheating from our perspective, and debate about the role of the cheater and the side piece in stopping cheating from happening! Chime innnn using #waitamitoxic or @waitamito...

Living in London will cost you an arm and a leg, but would you go as far as holding guns to secure the bag? Join us this week as we speak to a single mother who was sentenced to 5 years in prison for a crime she was doing to make ends meet for her son. Are criminals just bad people or should we have more compassion for their circumstances? Please follow and support our guest @purplehazecillzz__'s...

Come on, this is a safe space... Have you ever been catcalled and kinda enjoyed it? This week's submitter isn't too mad at the idea of being catcalled and Fola has a few ideas on why! Do you think there's a connection between self-esteem and the kind of attention that validates us? Rukiya wants to know how to get back to the days of being able to whine for 3 hours straight, please hit us up ASAP i...

Join us this week as we get to learn what it's like to fall in love with someone who doesn't speak the same language as you. The contestant, Tracey Lomanga spills all the goss on Davina McCall's new hot dating show 'Language of Love' on Channel 4! Catch up now on All4: https://www.channel4.com/programmes/davina-mccalls-language-of-love Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic Fol...

"bEaUtY iS In ThE eYe oF tHe BeHoLdeR" ... Then why do I only feel beautiful once a year!? We've all had our moments of doubting how beautiful we are and this week we talk about what our standards of beauty are based on, and why trying to feel beautiful all of the time is a losing game. Is it toxic to think that the unavoidable reality is that not all of us are beautiful? Join the conversation usi...

In this week's episode we quite literally beg the men of London to stop being so boring! To our dear @Jam£s_cityboy(s), let us help you up your dating game... FOR FREE! And for the gworls, this week we have a brand new segment to help you find your potential new lover in the UK (or abroad, if you're lucky). Dating in London is on everyone's lips at the moment, tune in to hear what your favourite "...

Jealous friends are BAD FRIENDS... right? Jealousy is one of those complex emotions we all experience, but NEVER confess, so we were glad that this week's submission made us get into it. We discuss some of the times we've been jealous of our own friends and some of our unpopular opinions on this taboo feeling. Has jealousy ever driven you to move mad? This week's is an extra-long episode so we hop...

You’ve all been so supportive sharing your toxic thoughts with us recently, we thought it was only right that we shared more of ourselves with you this week! In this week's special, Fola and Rukiya learn new things about each other and reminisce on the days they survived on ASDA chicken wings and lived in a mice infested flat. Fola even puts Rukiya on the spot and asks her to confess what her curr...

Ever manipulated your way into love? This week’s anonymous toxic thinker admits that they want to plan a surprise birthday party for their boo, with the hopes that he will fall for them. Could it ever be you!? Fola and Rukiya chat about the craziest things they’ve done for a man’s attention and why women might sometimes feel they need to over-deliver to find their happily ever after! Follow Us: In...

How many of us who grew up in the hood have a funny story that would make the room fall silent if shared in the wrong space? Fola reminisces on having to wear lace up shoes so she could run home after the dance at the age of 14 and Rukiya thinks about all of the ridiculous experiences she had to hide from her mum. This week’s submission makes the duo reflect on the bittersweet and just beautiful s...

HAPPY NEW YEEEE!! This week's toxic thought submission made us explore all of the unnecessary pressure around the new year. We discuss just how flimsy the constraint of judging your life's achievements on 365 days is and laugh at some of the madnesses that 2021 tried to throw our way. We genuinely hope you all have the softest of years and take away some of the pressure we all place on being whoev...

Merryyyyy Christmassssss!!!!! This week we get into the infamous ick list and the hilarious and ridiculous things that have given women the ick. We discuss accountability in toxic masculinity and Rukiya issues an apology to all of the men she unknowingly encouraged to be toxic (while Fola does no such thing). Share your toxic ick moments with us using #WaitAmIToxic!! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitami...

We’re baaackkkk!! In episode 2 we pick up right where we left off and Rukiya explains why she thinks her life might be easier dating a white man 👀 We discuss the versions of colourism that are harder to identify day-to-day. Fola gets into her thoughts on colourism and Kaz & Tyler’s breakup. Rukiya reminds Fola of the time the man in Pizza GoGo was ready to fight her because she’s a dark-skinn...

Eeeek! Welcome to our first ever episode of W.A.I.T! In this episode you’ll learn a little bit about your hosts and what motivated us to jump on the mic. If you’re victim to the dating scene in LDN, you’re definitely not alone! Tune in to find out why Fola thinks LDN is bad vibes and what toxic thought Rukiya had this week! Let's join hands to laugh and dry cry about our love lives in the ghetto w...