Vanessa’s Lack Thereof

I’ve come too far. I’m so grateful for my journey up to this point. Finally I have something for me. I can finally feel joy, purpose, and consistency in a way I’ve been dreaming of doing for years. No matter what I will keep rising and thriving. I am changing and digging myself more and more. Self-love never thought I would know you n now we’re bfff (best fucking friends forever) 👏🏾😉🫶🏾

Here I am reiterating how women can further continue to support each other even (especially) when it’s calling out ill behavior. No need to be aggressive all the time and definitely not when attempting to negotiate neutrality or diffusing a situation. If you’re like me and tired of the old inefficient way women interact with one another and you too believe in and are ready to start trying somethin...

Women I see you and respect you. That being said, can we please stop making Amber Herd like decisions. We have our reasons and it is definitely not an easy task but I believe we can unite together to begin anew. Using kids as leverage/punishment against the father and falsely accusing them of sexual violations are not the flex you think they are. I promise you you can be so much better than that....

Here I’m speaking on how waiting for karma to hit the person or persons who’ve done injustices to you is both unproductive as well as a burden to you. The best move by far is to figure out the best way for you to face the pain head on, genuinely heal it, thank it for the lessons, release it and move forward with no ill will. The best reason I’ve had for forgiving is that it helps me profoundly and...

Just me talking about how people keep assuming I don’t know shit. It’s okay keep talking your trash one day it will be my turn or it won’t. Either way I’m still going to keep it pushing 👊🏾✌🏾🫠

Just want to clear a few things up about that last episode and how these things are done on my end for now 🥷🏽

This is an episode where I discuss how I once unfairly judged Trump and jumped on that hate train. After some deliberation and much time spent ruminating on the matter I realize I was wrong. Also, I am not well educated on politics and policies and I definitely need to learn more about it. But I now better understand why people supported Trump because I also feel that I too would most likely suppo...

In this episode I’m speaking to women who are defining themselves as independent yet also wanting to find love with a man. If you’ve been struggling to find it, I pose some reasons as to why that might be. If it’s you that’s ok I get it. Take my words with a grain of salt. And remember if it hits home, hurts or triggers you - chances are you may be the problem. And again, no shame in that game. I’...

Possibly had too much sugar and screen time because I’m feeling loopy. Just checking in since I’ve been enjoying real life ❤️ I gotta stop recording at night or maybe just speaking longer at night. Either way I’m not normal. Keep staying the course. You got this even/especially when you feel like you don’t 🙏🏾🧘🏽‍♀️😎 #prettysureiimmediatelyregretputtingthisshitout 😵🤫🤢🤮

Had no idea what to talk about today. I tried all day long to speak some wisdom yet nothing came to me. What’s worse is that I was even feeling funky negative, low vibrational energy and thoughts. So I just took it in, accepting it for what it was and documented how I was struggling. I know I’ll overcome all obstacles and barriers so I am not worried. Just exhausted and ready for a good night’s re...

Here I am discussing how sometimes I get down when I’m forced to face reality. Sometimes I still get sucked into lack/poor mentality & it is obnoxious. Luckily my husband and I are on the same page with life goals and we work together as a team. So most of the time I can live with my head in the clouds. And when I can’t I know we have each other to lean on and confide in. Whatever this uncharted j...

Here I discuss why I believe comedians should have the space to talk about ANY and EVERYTHING in a funny way. Humor opens doors to conversations and topics that would otherwise make people uncomfortable or avoid altogether. People, especially comedians, should be able to exercise their freedom of speech regardless of how their words may trigger others emotionally. It is YOUR duty and job to ensure...

Here I am discussing the statement that Kimberly Kardashian said about work ethic and why I agree with her. I’m still learning but I have a much better understanding of how to get things done; goals accomplished. Say what you will about her & her family & remember that they’re Billion Dollar earners regardless of any outsider’s opinion 💪🏾🧠🤘🏾

Watching people with extreme emotional reactions is tough because I know exactly what that feels like. I’ve been toxic and the worst many times yet I came out the other side a changed human for the better. So I try not to make others feel I am better in any way. I just want to show that it’s possible to change for the betterment of yourself (and others will benefit too) no matter how awful you may...

Stuck in the middle of the shit and it’s annoying, lonely, bleak. But I’m doing my best to move forward even though I’m wishing I had people I could turn to. But I’m in no way desperate, in no way letting just anybody in, and am perfectly fine waiting as long as I have to while slowly making moves in the dark.

I was watching a bunch of videos on YouTube about being politically correct and the rage against not saying pronouns correctly that it moved me to speak. This is probably an unpopular opinion but I do not appreciate people projecting their shit onto me or others and expecting us to behave however they see fit. That’s not how this world works and I truly believe there are more effective alternative...

No regrets whatsoever! I’m on top of the world! Proud of myself in a number of ways! Breaking free of the old and stepping into the new and uncharted waters that is my liberation. Excuse me while I chill on cloud nine for awhile 💇🏽‍♀️💁🏽‍♀️

Here I am expressing some negative side effects of this journey. Often I feel detached from reality that it really fucks with my mood and pisses me off. What’s worse is I feel that I cannot express myself to those around me and times like this I actually feel desperate for that kind of connection. Still I’m trying to adapt and have humility but sometimes I cannot shake it. So I figure better to sp...

In this episode I talk about how I learned to set boundaries without feeling guilty. It’s a tough start sometimes but worth it ten fold once you get the hang of it. Do not rely or depend on anyone to make your decisions or lead your life. It’s unfair to put that on others and even more detrimental for yourself. Just trust you know best for you and do what you can to successfully control your life...

In this episode I speak on the earlier days when I could not channel my rage and emotions effectively & how I wish someone had shown me the way. Then again, I understand some things we must learn on our own because it makes us unstoppable in the long run. If you’re in pain and strife just know you CAN rise above and reach the other side stronger, better, and with more intelligence. Fuck what any n...

In this episode I wanted to discuss how annoyingly awkward I become around intimacy sometimes. And how some things couples do is gross yet I have done it too (some things not all). Then somehow it turned into me warning peeps not to fuck with my psycho ass bc you gon’ feel my wrath 😳😤😲Sooooo… you’re welcome 😉 and member: you can control your thoughts, words, and mind to become a happier more f...

In this episode I am reminding myself that no matter what my life looks like on the outside, that I am following my true north. I understand I look and act crazy or estupit yet it does not matter. Whatever it takes (for mine and all highest good always) I will do it. Just because I’m not there yet does not mean I never will be, no matter what outsiders may say or think. If I’m the only one who’s g...

In this episode I am talking about how growth is a double edged sword. Sometimes you can do so much work on yourself that your “old” life and people in it no longer resonate the way it once did. How much give and take is necessary to effectively have both parties living and being how they see fit? I’m not quite sure yet. I just know that me being me means doing everything I can to find this middle...

This is a passionate rant where I discuss freedom of speech in America, why I support it, and think this PC culture is fucking bullshit. 💥Warning: Extremely triggering & thought provoking. Use your own discernment when listening💥

This is an awkward ass convo about a pornography documentary I watched at 4 am this morning that said kids are getting into porn younger and having more problems later because of it. Shook me to my core. Thought I had insight to share but it quickly became apparent I have no idea what the hell I wanted to say. I only posted it because it’s raw, uncut, and shows true transparency especially in a no...