Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex

Porn isn’t always just a solo activity—it can carry a lot of weight in relationships. In this episode, we dive into the tricky, often unspoken space where porn and partnership intersect. What does it mean if your partner watches porn? When does it cross a boundary? And why does it feel so personal when it might not be? We talk about the emotional complexity behind discovering a partner’s porn use,...

In this episode, we unzip what porn literacy actually is. Spoiler: it’s not about whether you watch porn—it’s about how you understand it. From awkward anatomy to unrealistic expectations, we explore how porn shapes our ideas about sex, bodies, and pleasure—and why it’s time to start talking about it without shame. We break down the difference between fantasy and reality, what ethical porn can off...

In this follow-up to Healing Out Loud: Sex, Survival, and the Path Back to Your Body , we continue unzipping what healing after sexual trauma really looks like—messy, non-linear, and deeply personal. Together, we unpack the emotional, cultural, and physical layers of recovery—from the weight of societal expectations to the quiet, powerful moments of reclaiming pleasure. We explore the many ways tr...

In this deeply moving and empowering episode, we sit down with Annette Benedetti, sex and intimacy coach, survivor of sexual assault, and host of the podcast Talk Sex with Annette . Together we talk about what it means to reclaim your body, your pleasure, and your desire after trauma. Annette shares her story of surviving rape as a teenager and the long, non-linear process of coming home to hersel...

In this episode, we’re taking a fresh look at sexual milestones—the kind that don’t revolve around “losing your virginity.” That term? It’s vague, outdated, and honestly, we’re not fans of that term. So instead of centering one arbitrary moment in your sexual journey, we’re celebrating all the deeply personal “firsts” that shape our sexual lives: the first time you had an orgasm, the first time yo...

Think about it before you stick it in! In this episode, we unzip the do's and don'ts of shopping for sex toys — because when it comes to your body (and your fun), a little knowledge goes a long way. We break down why non-porous materials like silicone, stainless steel, and body safe plastic are the best options, and why you should steer clear of porous materials like jelly and wood (yep, e...

Where does sexual shame come from—and how do we start letting it go? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos , we unzip some of the complicated ways shame shows up around sex, pleasure, and curiosity. We chat about how cultural messaging (like the old idea that sex is only for making babies) still impacts how people think and feel today—and how hard it can be to find accurate, judgment-free informatio...

Why are sex toys still so taboo? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos , we take a thoughtful look at the stigma, curiosity, and misinformation that still surround sex toys—and why it’s time to change the conversation. We explore how limited sex education, media portrayals, and cultural discomfort have shaped how people think about pleasure and the toys that can enhance it. Dr. Sue shares how she in...

Online dating: Is it worth it? Well… that really depends on your "worth it." In this episode of Unzipping Taboos , we get real about the highs, lows, and “what even is this?” moments of dating online. Charlie shares why online dating hasn’t worked for her, while Dr. Sue brings in perspective from her work with students, seniors, and curious minds of all ages. We talk about setting realis...

Is honesty always the best policy in relationships? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos , we unpack the gray areas of truth-telling—exploring when full transparency strengthens trust and when it might do more harm than good. We explore the nuances of disclosure, personal boundaries, and the idea that not everyone has earned the right to know certain details about your life—especially when it comes...

What happens when one partner wants sex more than the other? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos , we dive into the complexities of desire discrepancy—when partners have mismatched levels of sexual interest. It’s a common challenge in relationships, but one that’s often misunderstood, stigmatized, or even ignored. We explore the many factors that can influence libido, from stress and medication to...

Sex is everywhere—but actually talking about it? That’s still a challenge. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos , we get personal about what it’s like to openly discuss sex and sexuality. As co-hosts of a podcast that dives into taboo topics, we’ve seen firsthand how conversations about sex can empower, educate, and even shift cultural narratives. But we’ve also had to navigate the challenges that...

Anal sex is often wrapped in stigma, misinformation, and awkward silence—but we’re here to change that. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos , we break down some of the myths and misconceptions about what can make anal play safe, pleasurable, and well-informed. We talk about the essentials: consent, communication, and why the right lube can make all the difference. We get into the nitty-gritty of p...

What defines cheating, and where do we draw the line? In this episode, we unzip the nuanced world of relationships, exploring how communication, honesty, and personal boundaries shape our understanding of fidelity. From flirting and emotional connections to the impact of technology and dating apps, we dissect the complex dynamics that influence trust and transparency between partners. You'll hear...

In this impactful episode, we explore the complexities of consent, tackling its challenges and the cultural dynamics that perpetuate harassment and sexual assault. We confront the normalization of harmful behaviors, examine the influence of power imbalances, and discuss why "no means no" is an insufficient framework for understanding consent. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of believing...

Dr. Sue sits down with Becca, founder and director of I Need an A , to unpack the realities of abortion access in a post-Roe world. They tackle the confusion created by restrictive laws, the chilling effect of misinformation, and the resilience of communities working to keep abortion accessible. Becca shares how I Need an A provides clear, up-to-date information for those seeking care—without trac...

In this episode, we dive into the complex and often misunderstood world of kink, addressing the taboos, misconceptions, and societal norms that contribute to shame and stigma around sexual expression. We talk about the importance of consent as a cornerstone of any sexual encounter, emphasizing the roles of curiosity, communication, and aftercare when exploring experiences with a partner. Dr. Sue s...

In this episode, we tackle the often-daunting role parents play in sex education. We explore the fears many parents face—like not having all the answers, accidentally "giving permission," or losing control of the conversation—and offer practical strategies to build confidence. From acknowledging gaps in knowledge to being an approachable resource, we share how parents can navigate these sensitive...

In this episode, we unzip the often-overlooked topic of aging and its impact on sexuality. We discuss the physiological changes associated with menopause in women and andropause in men, exploring how these transitions affect sexual functioning, relationships, and self-image. Dr. Sue explains the importance of understanding changes like testosterone decline and lubrication challenges, while Charlie...

What are the questions about sex you’ve always wanted to ask but felt too awkward to say out loud? In this open and insightful episode, we take on seven of the most common—and most avoided—sex questions, inspired by this Buzzfeed article featuring Dr. Sue herself . Using our signature mix of expertise, humor, and candor, we shed light on topics many are too shy to talk about. The questions we talk...

What is the “mating crisis,” and what does it really mean? In this episode, we unpack the complexities behind this increasingly popular term used to describe shifting dynamics in modern heterosexual relationships. We challenge its implications, questioning whether it reflects a genuine societal issue or simply perpetuates fear and blame—particularly targeting women. We delve into the evolving conc...

In this episode, we get real about the frustration, determination, and unwavering commitment it takes to keep pushing forward in a world that often tries to silence necessary conversations. From the political attacks on marginalized communities to the spread of misinformation, we explore the challenges of staying informed, the power of community, and the importance of resisting fear. We discuss wh...

In this episode, we dive into the critical but often overlooked topic of sexual health in healthcare settings. Did you know that only 6% of healthcare providers start conversations about sexual health? We highlight why this needs to change and discuss ways the system can do better—starting with medical school and advocacy programs. We talk about the gaps in training for medical professionals, the...

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we dive into the often-asked question: What is the “normal” frequency for sex? *Spoiler Alert*—it’s different for everyone. We explore how individual preferences, partner compatibility, and life factors like stress, health, and age play a role in what feels “normal.” The conversation delves into the motivations behind questions about sexual desire and frequency...

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie , we dive into the essentials of reproductive health, focusing on the teenage years and the transformative changes of puberty. We discuss why understanding the basics—like the reproductive system, the hormonal shifts of adolescence, and when someone can get pregnant—is crucial for everyone.  The conversa...