Unfilteredd: Narcissistic Partners

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the rumination that narcissistic abuse causes. Janiece constructed her strategies around the acronym "RENTER". Recognise when you are ruminating - R (04:08) Evaluate - E (06:12) Negotiate - N (11:44) Trade - T (21:58) Explore - E (31:13) Repeat - R (33:46) Submit a Question/Topic for T...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, Michelle walks us through different strategies and tips we can use to help ourselves grieve after narcissistic abuse. Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please  click here  to join our free healing community. O...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode? In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the anxiety that narcissistic abuse causes. Anna constructed her five strategies around the acronym "SIT with Body and Mind," where "SIT" stands for Safety, Intuition, and Trust: Create safety for yourself - Safety (02:44) Learn to listen to your intuition - Intuition (09:56) Gradually...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the fear of being alone that narcissistic abuse causes: Stop and reflect on what being alone means to you (03:22) Pay attention to your inner dialogue and develop your "tagline" (11:48) Start taking steps toward becoming more "self-full" (24:40) Start building your distress tolerance...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the helplessness that narcissistic abuse causes: Identify what is happening in your relationship (02:29) Set "silent boundaries" (05:54) Set personally meaningful goals (11:19) Differentiate between you and your triggers and become aware of your parts (15:21) Learn how to communicate...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on narcissistic fathers:  Common traits of narcissistic fathers (01:51) How having a narcissistic father impact an individual's sense of self-worth and self-esteem (14:14) How children of narcissistic fathers internalize their father's behavior and beliefs, and how this affect their relationships with others (16:46) How growing up...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, Lua helps us identify the core beliefs that influence our daily lives, interactions, and relationships. She will guide us through a practice that allows us to recognize and soothe our negative core beliefs. Lua's centering practice to better access your core beliefs (03:35) Understanding how core beliefs form and their impact on our lives (...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the guilt that narcissistic abuse causes: Start using positive affirmations to form new neural pathways (05:30) Understand how guilt is part of the grieving process and take time and space to grieve (11:06) Understand how the role of culture affects your feelings of guilt (24:16) Try...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on the most meaningful steps a person can take to improve various aspects in themselves after experiencing narcissistic abuse: How to improve radical acceptance (01:14) How to improve emotional regulation (11:52) How to improve adaptability (20:28) How to improve self-efficacy (38:37) How to improve problem-solving skills (44:00) H...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to overcome the shame that narcissistic abuse creates: Start keeping "a shame journal" (03:20) Ask yourself challenging questions (11:25) The opposite action intervention (22:44) Build a healthy support network (33:44) Ritual reprogramming (39:59) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The cont...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to reconnect with your core values after experiencing narcissistic abuse: Reidentify your core values (04:02) Listen to your body (10:42) Observe people who are your "values models" (18:33) Engage your senses in your values (25:28) Practice your values in the world (33:05) Submit a Question/Topic...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on narcissistic family dynamics: Narcissistic supply in a narcissistic family system (01:22) How narcissistic parents manipulate their children into giving them narcissistic supply (08:14) Why does it take the children of narcissistic parents so long to realize that they come from a narcissistic family of origin? (13:03) Why don't...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five strategies that you can use to develop positive core beliefs: Using EMDR to develop positive core beliefs (01:08) "I know my truth" -strategy (27:18) Practice mindfulness and gratitude (37:34) 5 step process to install more positive core beliefs (51:42) Narrative therapy (01:01:13) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast T...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on core wounds, fears, beliefs, values, and hopes: The Backstory (01:55) Identifying Core Wounds (05:12) Our core wounds are based on trauma (06:28) How core wounds can lead to core fears, which in turn influence our behavioral patterns (08:12) How our old core beliefs of self drive every perception we have about ourselves, others,...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on if a trauma-bonded relationship with a narcissist can ever become healthy: The definition of a trauma bond (01:39) Six reasons why a trauma-bonded relationship with a narcissist can never become healthy (03:04) What would have to happen for a trauma-bonded relationship to become healthy? (05:55) Do I actually want to continue th...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five strategies related to overcoming powerlessness that narcissistic abuse causes: Admit you are powerless (06:43) Asses your situation (08:50) Educate yourself about narcissism and narcissistic abuse (13:49) Understand what problematic behaviors you may have developed in order to cope with the narcissistic abuse (20:14) Practi...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five strategies related to overcoming self-blame that narcissistic abuse causes: Set boundaries to create space for yourself to explore the feelings and thoughts of self-blame (01:03) Practice discernment (12:30) Prepare yourself for grief and painful feelings such as sadness and anger, which might come while you progress in ove...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on six topics related to attachment styles: What attachment styles gravitate towards each other and why (01:43) How do attachment styles get damaged in relationships and how can someone recognize if their attachment style has been damaged in a relationship? (06:13) What role do communication patterns play in damaging attachment sty...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on three topics related to trauma responses and healing: How do trauma responses affect a person's daily life? (01:32) How do trauma responses impact a person's ability to form and maintain healthy relationships? (04:51) How to create a trauma-informed support system (16:46) Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on six topics related to trauma responses and healing: What is a trauma response, and why should you learn more about it? (01:54) The most common trauma responses (13:00) Common triggers for trauma responses (24:19) How to identify if you are experiencing a trauma response (30:31) Healthy coping mechanisms for trauma responses (41:...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on six topics related to healthy relationships: How to give and receive emotional support in a healthy and effective way (08:32) Warning signs of emotional support not being provided or received in a healthy way (16:08) How to build equality in healthy relationships (22:11) Red flags of a relationship that is not equal or is becomi...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on seven topics related to divorce and co-parenting with a high-conflict person: Is my teenager inheriting narcissism if they are acting just like my ex? (01:42) Why isn't co-parenting working with my high-conflict ex? (13:20) How do I respond when my child comes to me with lies from my ex? (20:49) What do I do when I notice my chi...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on the J.A.D.E technique and how to use it in interactions with narcissists. Submit a Question/Topic for This Podcast The content for this podcast comes from our amazing community members. If you want to submit a question/topic for the podcast, please  click here  to join our free healing community. Once you’ve joined, you will see...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on four topics related to healing from narcissistic abuse: How to cultivate patience in yourself when building healthy relationships (01:24) How to recognize when you're becoming impatient (06:52) How to develop empathy skills in a healthy way, and red flags of falling back into old patterns of being overly empathetic to the point...

What Are We Discussing In This Episode?  In this episode, we focus on five topics related to building healthy relationships: How to practice patience and empathy when you are not understanding or agreeing with the other person's perspective (01:45) How to recognize and appreciate small progress in your relationship, rather than focusing on what needs to be fixed (06:50) How to find a balance when...