Unfiltered Sex Conversations

This week we dived headfirst into some Substack goodness! We talk about kink and fantasies, sexual energy, and get really personal. Join our very academic and interesting conversations this week. The articles referenced are all listed below. They are amazing reads and we encourage everyone to check them out! "The #1 Kinky Thing Women Crave In Bed!" by Dr. Emma Blake "The Energy That...

There are a lot of good and valid reasons as to why you might need to take a break from sex inside your relationship. This is the follow up to our conversation about taking a sex break, so make sure you listen to last week's episode too if you want the full context. We also answered some really juicy questions on the Patreon this week, so make you join! You get the episodes early, you get them...

What happens when you take sex out of the equation to give yourself some clarity? We are talking about having a deeper connection with your person, finding out if you still like each other even if you aren't still having sex and missing your person. Don't forget to join us for book club on June 30th. We are reading "In Dreams" by Mila Crawford. Grab a mocktail or cocktail and let...

This week we are revealing the embarrassing sex questions we have been too nervous to ask. We also talk about how we may accidentally create fake emotional compatibility in relationships and what secretly gets us excited. Join us on June 30th for bookclub! We are reading "In Dreams" by Mila Crawford. We go live on Patreon on the last Tuesday of the month to discuss our spicy read. Head o...

We aren't even talking about sharing numbers! Sometimes a partner asks how their parts "compare" to past partners and while it can seem like an innocent question it needs to be handle with kindness and sensitivity. So join our very interesting conversation and please drop your thoughts in the comments! We have a book club! Join us for the June book club, we are reading "In Dream...

We have all been a bit naive about what was out there and available when it comes to sex. Sometime we just need the right book, the right movie, the right partner to show us what is possible. This week we are talking all about expanding our sexual horizons. We have a book club! Join us on the last Tuesday of the month for a lively discussion over spicy, smutty books. There is still time to join on...

Yes, sex and relationships can have their serious moments but so much of your sex and relationships can be fun too. This week we are diving into the playfulness of sex whether that is discussing morning or evening spicy time, cute nicknames for you know what...and letting your relationship be it's own thing. We are opening up our bookclub to everyone this May. Join us over on Patreon as we read "B...

If there is one thing you can count on us for it's to always say, "Consent is sexy." This week we are talking about kink, consent, doing what you enjoy in bed and naming your partner's privates. We cover so much! Share this with someone who might appreciate these conversations. Our book club for May is FREE! Normally our bookclub comes with membership to our Patreon, but in May w...

Have we all named either our own privates or someone else's? Either way, this week we are bravely discussing our thoughts on nicknames, what we think is foreplay (that others might not) and so much more. Make sure to share this with a friend! Our April book club is Tuesday April 28th on Patreon. We are reading "The Love Lie" by Monica McCallan. Join us for a live discussion, mocktail...

Intimacy, power dynamics, anatomy, we are really talking about everything this week. Join us for a bit of book chat as well. We have a book club! Join us the last Tuesday of the month as we read "The Love Lie" by Monica McCallan. Come on over to our Patreon and let's chat. The weather is starting to warm up and so should your reading. Join our Patreon and get access to The Barely App...

This week we are diving into the fun sex conversations you can have with your person. We're talking about building confidence in the bedroom, what you wish your partner would ask about sex, and what special talents are you bringing to the bedroom. If you have ever been on the fence about joining our Patreon, now is the time! This week's Patreon episode gets real personal and real spicy! We...

So who initiates sex in your relationship more, you or your partner? Do you feel intimidated to initiate sex? Listen we understand and feel for you because we have been there too! Join us as we talk who and how to initiate sex, rethinking role play and why you should join us for our next book club. Interested in talking about spicy books with someone? Join us on Tues April 28th for our next book c...

Did you know we also host a virtual monthly bookclub? If you love reading spicy, sexy and dark romances then this is the place for you. We talk about what we loved, what turned us on, what we didn't like, nothing is off limits. This is your safe space to share your thoughts on the latest spicy book and we are here for that! Enjoy this replay of our January book club, where we discuss our thoug...

The dates are going well, the conversation is good, and you have a good feeling about this, except... What do you do when it feels like your expectations around physical intimacy may be different from your prospective new love interest. Don't forget to join us for bookclub on the last Thursday of each month. March's book is "Men of Mayhem and Vengeance" by Lauren Biel. Join us on...

What if that sexy dream you had could be the perfect way to start a really good conversation about what you want when it comes to spicy time. This week we are talking all about how sex can do more than just make you physically close to your partner. We have a book club on Patreon! Join us on the last Thursday of each month to discuss our spicy book pick. For January we are reading "Men of May...

The conversation is flowing. The banter is top notch. There is the promise of a spark, but... You just can't shake the feeling that you are missing a red flag (or two). This week we are discussing red flags, trusting our gut, and the all important good communication. We have a book club on Patreon! Join us on the last Thursday of each month to discuss our spicy book pick. For March we are read...

Hey, no shame in liking what you like but we want to know what it is! Come join this enlightening conversation. We have a book club on Patreon! Join us on the last Thursday of each month to discuss our spicy book pick. By joining The Social Circle tier on our Patreon you get access to our live monthly book chat. It is an informal chat where we talk what we liked, what we didn't like, what was...

Sex can be a wonderful way to connect with your partner, but what if you aren't feeling it? Join us as we talk about how to build connection after disconnection, tough conversation and life. We have a book club on Patreon! Join us on the last Thursday of each month to discuss our spicy book pick. By joining The Social Circle tier on our Patreon you get access to our live monthly book chat. It...

What lights you up? Not just in the bedroom but in your life. We talk about finding desire in your everyday life as a way to find the desire in your bedroom. We have a book club on Patreon! Join us on the last Thursday of each month to discuss our spicy book pick. For January we are reading "Hooked" by Emily McIntyre. By joining The Social Circle tier on our Patreon you get access to our...

You love getting swept away into a world where the hero is handsome and broody and always says the exact perfectly sexy thing and the heroine doesn't really need to worry about the very sexy red flags. Well maybe you read all this sexy stuff and it gets you thinking...how do I get this sexy stuff into my real life? This week we share how we talk to our partners about bringing our book fantasie...

Have you ever struggled to have the very necessary yet very uncomfortable conversation about your sexual health with a new someone? This conversation is so very important but it can be difficult for a lot of reasons. Join us as we share our favorite ways to bring up this sensitive topic. We have a book club on Patreon! Join us on the last Thursday of each month to discuss our spicy book pick. For...

It's our last episode of 2025 so of course we are talking about resolutions. This episode we dive deep into what we want more of in 2026. One thing for sure we want more of is YOU! Join us over on Patreon for our year long spicy book challenge starting in January. We have fun book themed challenges, some spicy stand-alone challenges, prizes, community and so much more. Join The Social Circle o...

If sex has ever started to feel like a never ending checklist...then this is the episode for you. Let's start talking about making foreplay work for you and your partner. Also can we find space to just enjoy sex without it always being goal oriented? Let's chat! Don't forget - last book club of 2025 is December 18th at 6:00pm CST. Join us live on Patreon to discuss "He Sees You Wh...

Romance books may help you escape into a new world, but does it also helps boost your sex drive? We love a good dark romance, spicy romance, heck all the romances and we also love the side benefit of getting some ideas for spicy time. Let's chat all things spicy this week! Want to join our spicy book club? This month we are reading: "He Sees You When You're Sleeping" by Alta Hens...

It's hot in a book, but is it hot when your special someone says it? If you feel uncomfortable saying what you want during spicy time this is the episode for you. November's book pick is Does It Hurt? by HD Carlton. Join us LIVE on Patreon Thursday November 20th for discussion all about this month's pick. Come hang out with us on Patreon ! Have someone in your life looking for a safe s...