Unfiltered: Real Talk About Sex & Love

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.  On this episode, we answer the following questions: I’m five days post disclosure and I’m clueless how to handle this. How should I feel? Can I sleep with my husband if I want and be so angry and hurt at the same time? It’s a weird place to be. He didn’t have an affair but lots of acting out online in chat...

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather . In this episode, we answer these questions:  I’m in a Betrayal & Beyond group and it’s teaching me so much about emotional awareness and health. My husband is in a Seven Pillars group and he’s not learning anything about emotional health or betrayal trauma? Why is this? When/How will my husband learn to be...

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather . In this episode, we answer these questions:  Can my husband rape me? Can I say no to my husband? I feel disconnected when we don't have sex, but when I have sex with my husband I feel used. What can I do to change this pattern? Resources Full Episode on YouTube Find this and all episodes on YouTube: https:/...

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer these questions: My question is how do you know if you are actually having an orgasm? I don’t know that I have ever enjoyed sex. I can orgasm but I don’t know how to wake my body up. Sex was shamed in my Christian home then I was supposed to enjoy it after marriage but for so long,...

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer these questions: My husband went to a “massage parlor” for a hand job about every two weeks until I discovered what he was doing 13 months later. How do I get over the shame? My question is, after a 33-year marriage, where I trusted my husband, I found out he was having a long-term...

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer the following questions: Since discovery, it's been hard for me to know when my husband is telling me the truth. Should I trust my gut intuition even though he’s telling me I’m being paranoid? What is gaslighting? Can you give examples of what this looks like? What are the best way...

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather . In this episode, we answer these questions:  Why am I so angry? My husband betrayed me; why am I taking it out on my kids? Growing up, it was implied that being angry was sinful. I know I'm hurt but how do I know if I'm dealing with anger? Show Notes Anger Test Resources Full episode on YouTube Find this an...

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather . In this episode, we answer these questions:  Is calling a sexual sin “addiction” just excusing the behavior? Is sex addiction real? People who struggle with sex addiction, why can’t they just stop the behavior? Show Notes Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships Resources Full episode on YouTube Fin...

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather . In this episode, we answer these questions:  What is betrayal trauma? My husband says I'm overreacting but the pain and foggy-headedness I'm feeling seem uncontrollable. Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma? Women I’ve been with in group use phrases like "before Pure Desire and after Pure Desire.” Wh...

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather .  In this episode, we answer these questions:  Is fantasy ever okay? Should my husband share his fantasies with me? I can’t be intimate with my husband unless I fantasize. How can I practice being more present? Show Notes The Fantasy Fallacy , by Shannon Ethridge Resources Full Episode on YouTube Find this a...

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather .  In this episode, we answer these questions:  I quit drinking and now I don’t enjoy sex. How can I learn to like sex again? I am afraid to re-engage with my husband sexually after quitting porn. How do I learn to become aroused by my husband instead? My husband and I are doing well with our recovery and hea...

Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather .  In this episode, we answer these questions:  I’m nervous about telling anyone what’s really happening in my marriage. Where can I find safe people? Since discovery, I feel like I’m going crazy! Where can I find help? Is this long, expensive process going to fix anything, when I’m not the one with the probl...

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Since 2016, Ashley Jameson and Heather Kolb have supported, educated, and equipped women to experience sexual health, healing from betrayal trauma, and success in relationships. We know what it’s like to be in crisis—searching for answers—and continually hearing the churchy answer. Each week, you’ll hear real talk about sex and relationships from a biblical and clinical perspective. Resources Full...