UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

How do the messages you received as a child impact the way you parent your own kids? What if we could raise the next generation to be more empowered, resilient, and free from limiting gender stereotypes? To explore these questions, I’m joined by clinical psychologist and author of the new book, Sexism & Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World, Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein...

Have you ever thought about what a truly fulfilling life might look like to you? Not just a life that includes more fleeting moments of happiness -- but a life that's sustainably joyful, calm, and rewarding. Join me for this Greatest Hits episode to hear the difference between the emotion of happiness and big-picture happiness, the role of confidence and self-safety in achieving your wildest dream...

Have you ever felt pressured to cut someone out of your life because of their problematic views or actions -- even when it's family? In today's polarized culture, it's easy to fall into black-and-white thinking and believe that we must completely reject anyone who doesn't align with our beliefs. But what happens when the problematic person is someone we love, like a family member or close friend?...

How often do you feel like you don’t REALLY know what you want? Do you ever catch yourself waiting for someone more knowledgeable, responsible, or wise to either validate your choices or tell you it’s a bad idea? Join me this week to learn why so many women struggle with being decisive and how our socialization impacts the way we think about making decisions and taking risks. You’ll hear why there...

As you heard last week, women are constantly taking over-responsibility for everything and everyone in their lives- and it's exhausting. What if I told you there’s an antidote that doesn’t require isolating yourself in the woods or becoming a self-centered jerk? Well, you're in luck because in this episode, I explore the solution to over-responsibility: self-responsibility. You’ll learn why self-r...

Society teaches women that we are responsible for everything – from our appearance to others’ emotions, and even outcomes beyond our control. This belief system leads to anxiety, guilt, and shame, creating a constant state of mental and emotional exhaustion – and it's time to put an end to it. Listen in as I break down how over-responsibility manifests in women’s lives, what happens when you subco...

As women, we’re taught not to think too highly of ourselves or to believe that we’re "special". Only a select few can be extraordinary, so why try, right? This insidious socialization convinces us to keep playing small- but I'm done shrinking myself, aren't you? In this episode, I share a why embracing your capacity to be extraordinary is key to creating the life you want, and how to step into you...

If you have a big, ambitious goal- whether it’s becoming a bestselling author or something else entirely- this week's episode is for you. When my book, Take Back Your Brain, hit the New York Times Bestseller list, most of the other books had been there for weeks, were written by authors with millions of social media followers, or both. So how did I get there? I'm pulling back the curtain this week...

Are you tired of feeling like you have to follow a strict set of rules when it comes to planning your wedding? If so, you NEED to tune in this week. In this episode, I share how my husband and I created a feminist wedding experience that was authentic, meaningful, and joyful for us and our loved ones. You'll hear tips on how to incorporate feminist principles into every aspect of your wedding plan...

Parenting can be a real trip, right? We spend so much time telling our kids what to do and how to behave. But what happens when they grow up and don't need us to micromanage their lives anymore? It can be tough to let go of that control. Here's the thing - even as our kids are become more independent, our brains may still hold onto that urge to guide them. In this episode, I dive into why these ur...

As women, we're often placed in prefabricated boxes that come with their own roles and expectations -- also know as the virgin/mother/whore paradigm. But what if you don’t want to be stereotyped into these roles? Is it even possible to just stop giving a shit and live your life the way you want? In this re-release of one of my favorite interviews I've done in the last year, I sat down with top-rat...

Do you wish your anxiety would just -poof- disappear? Most people would give anything to get rid of their anxiety, but have you ever considered that it could actually be... somewhat useful, too? In this episode, I explore the idea that in some cases, anxiety can actually be a powerful motivator. I discuss when and how anxiety can be beneficial, the importance of understanding its root causes, and...

There's one big question most people brush up against when they start learning about thought work: "Is everything my fault? These are MY Thoughts, after all!" The answer isn't as simple as it may seem, and I'm showing you why this week. Join me for this Greatest Hits episode where you'll expand your understanding of thought work, discover the flaws in coaching yourself through anger, and learn a c...

Are you waiting for something to magically change in your life? Or, would you rather take control and create the outcomes you want most? This week, I share four inspiring real-life stories from my students in The Feminist Self-Help Society. These women have embraced the tools and coaching offered within our community to transform their lives- and you can too! Tune in now to hear firsthand accounts...

What if I told you that facing emotional difficulty head-on -- instead of numbing out, hiding from it, or trying to "positive-think" your way out of it -- could lead to incredible growth and opportunities? In this Greatest Hits episode, we dive into the concept of self-development not being easy, but oh so worth it. You'll discover how to develop discernment and self-trust, and learn when emotiona...

In celebration of Independence Day, I'm discussing one of the ultimate forms of independence - breaking free from caring about what others think. As social creatures, humans have evolved to rely on relationships for survival, making us sensitive to others' opinions. However, this conditioning is often even deeper for women and can impact every aspect of their lives, including their careers, relati...

Understanding what you want is key to creating a life you won’t regret when you die. So why do so many women struggle to pinpoint exactly what that is? If you can relate, in this Greatest Hits episode, I break exactly down what it means to want something (and why women especially might struggle to identify that), how to know what YOU truly want, and how to decide whether it's worth pursuing. Get f...

How do you know if you’re happy? Not just momentarily, but in the big picture sense of living the life you truly want with no regrets? Join me this week as I outline what big-picture happiness means, how it differs from the emotion of happiness, why creating big-picture happiness involves taking risks, and the roles confidence and self-safety play when it comes to going after what you want. Get fu...

Do you find it hard to relax if there’s still laundry to be done, or if someone’s mad at you? Most women do. The reality is that most of us find resting and feeling pleasure in general extremely challenging. But why? Join me for part two of our mini-series on happiness this week to learn why we find it hard to rest, relax, and enjoy ourselves, and why it’s critical that we learn how to. I’m showin...

Can you be a feminist and still participate in finding a partner in today’s dating landscape? How can you allow yourself to want a partner while maintaining your independence and autonomy? These are some of the questions we address in this bonus episode with one of my favorite people ever, Lily Womble. Lily is a feminist dating coach and the founder and creator of Date Brazen, a feminist dating co...

If you identify as a feminist, you've probably heard the stereotypes: we're "angry", "too serious", and "can't take a (typically sexist) joke". While being a feminist does mean caring about serious issues, another crucial part of taking your brain back from the patriarchy is learning... how to be happy, too. But what does that even mean and how do we do it?! If the idea of being happy confuses you...

In this episode I sit down with Bonnie Hammer, Vice Chairman of NBC Universal and author of the upcoming book, "15 Lies Women Are Told at Work and the Truth We Need to Succeed." And while I'm not normally impressed by people's job titles... with a book like that on the way? We obviously had to sit down for a chat. ;) Join me as we discuss Bonnie's remarkable career journey, from her early days cle...

Ever wonder if you're capable of having a world-changing idea? Or why so many women struggle with self-doubt and tend to downplay their successes? In this episode, I chat with Amy Morin, a psychotherapist and the author of the international best-seller 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do . Amy's personal journey through grief and loss led her to uncover the secrets to mental strength, and she...

Drumroll, please! My book, Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head - and How to Get It Out , is finally here! Having my book out in the world is such a surreal experience. I’m incredibly proud of the work it took to write it, and get it out into readers' hands all over the planet (and, hopefully, your hands too)! But honestly, there have been some serious highs and not-so-high...

Dive into the transformative world of Radical Acceptance and Action with me in this episode! We're not just talking theory; we're exploring how to apply these powerful practices in your everyday life. Plus, an exclusive announcement on the release of the Take Back Your Brain audiobook, narrated by yours truly. Whether you're a reader, a listener, or both, I share why this new format is a game-chan...