Undressing Intimacy

In this episode, we discuss the concept of emotional bids and their impact on intimacy within relationships. We explore our own experiences with turning towards, turning away, and turning against these bids, and how it has affected our marriage. Through anecdotes and examples, including insights from relationship expert John Gottman, we delve into the importance of recognizing and responding to em...

In this episode, we discuss the dynamics of spontaneous and responsive desire in relationships. We explore our personal experiences and how we navigate the challenges of differing desire patterns, especially when it comes to initiating intimacy. We share practical tips on managing desires, appreciating our differences, and avoiding negative spirals. Through breathing techniques and honest communic...

In this episode, we dive into the fascinating and often misunderstood world of sexual fantasies and intimacy within marriage. We explore the significance of fantasies, how they can be both healthy and arousing, and the role they play in enhancing marital intimacy. We also address common concerns and questions from our listeners, providing insight and advice on how to navigate these tantalizing yet...

In this episode, we reflect on our first one-star review, exploring the emotional impact negative feedback can have. We discuss the challenges of maintaining intimacy and connection in the face of vulnerability, the importance of inviting and receiving affection sincerely, and the dance between spontaneous and responsive desire in relationships. The episode includes personal anecdotes and practica...

In today's episode, we had an incredibly inspiring conversation with our dear friend and fellow Intamacy Coach, Tammy Camp. Tammy shared her transformative journey of discovering her own sexuality and how it positively impacted her marriage. She discussed the cultural taboos and personal barriers she overcame, offering insightful advice for others facing similar struggles. We dived deep into topic...

In this episode we delve into the importance of pelvic floor health. Brooke, owner of Peak RX Physical Therapy, joins us to shed light on common misconceptions and issues related to the pelvic floor. Through our personal experiences and Brooke's expert insights, we cover various aspects such as incontinence, physical postpartum recovery, sexual health, and overall wellness. Tune in for an educatio...

In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of storytelling and self-awareness with Kim and Scott Job. We share our own experiences of growth and healing under their guidance. Join us as we explore how understanding and untangling our personal stories can lead to profound changes in our lives and relationships. We learn from Kim and Scott about the importance of inner listening, the ro...

In this episode, we discuss the beauty of differences in relationships and how allowing individuality can cultivate a deeper, more meaningful connection. We share personal stories, including insights from conversations with our youngest child, and reflect on how embracing each other's uniqueness has strengthened our relationship. We also touch on the importance of having separate interests and how...

Welcome to episode 36! This week, we delve into the power of our inner dialogue and how negative narratives can hold us back. We share personal stories about the impact of these destructive thoughts, from technical challenges with our recording software to deeply ingrained beliefs affecting our self-esteem and relationships. Learn how identifying and re-narrating these inner scripts can transform...

In this episode, we dive into the inevitable disappointments that arise in relationships and explore how these moments can actually foster deeper intimacy. Greg discusses a recent technical glitch that wiped out a previous recording and uses it as a metaphor for handling disappointment. Amy shares her insights on the intricate balance between spontaneous and responsive sexual desires, and how each...

In this episode, We reflect on some of the challenges we've faced recently, particularly around communication and active listening in our marriage. We dive into some real-life examples, like the time I struggled to back up a trailer, and discuss how emotions can take over and shift a simple conversation into a crucial one. We also share practical tips on establishing emotional safety, understandin...

In this episode, we discuss the complexities of covert messages in marriage, sharing personal anecdotes and insights from our coaching practice. We explore how seemingly small actions—like doing the dishes or initiating sex—are often loaded with deeper questions about love and validation. Highlighting examples from "Fiddler on the Roof" and our own experiences, we dive into how couples can misinte...

In this episode, we reflect on the personal growth and stages of development within marriage. We share insights from our recent experiences, including the joy of welcoming our granddaughter, Adelaide Marie. Through discussing the journey of our own marriage and the challenges we've faced, we aim to provide a framework to help others navigate their own marital and personal growth. Join us as we del...

In this special episode, we share an exciting update from Corpus Christi, Texas, where we welcome our baby granddaughter, Adelaide Marie, into the world. We reflect on the rollercoaster of emotions we experienced, from joy and excitement to anxiety and concern. Despite the challenging moments, we are grateful to be part of this beautiful new chapter in our family. Tune in to hear our heartfelt sto...

In this episode, we welcome Monica Tanner, a relationship coach and the host of 'The Secrets of Happily Ever After' podcast. Monica shares her journey from believing in fairytales to becoming a relationship coach, helping couples navigate through challenges and rediscovering their happily ever after. We dive deep into communication skills, the dynamics of sexual desire, and how understanding and b...

In this episode, we explore the intricate world of sexual fantasies. We discuss how fantasies often reflect our deepest vulnerabilities and insecurities, presenting them as scenarios where we are in control and unthreatened. We share personal experiences and coaching stories to illustrate how understanding these fantasies can lead to deeper connections and self-acceptance. We also touch on the imp...

In episode 28, we enthusiastically share our transformative experiences from a recent retreat, discussing the importance of co-creation, intimacy, and overcoming anxiety in relationships. We reflect on how couples can navigate their unique sexual desires and maintain a deep emotional connection. The episode is rich with insights on vulnerability, the impact of shared experiences, and the continuou...

In this episode, we dive deep into the real-life experiences of a couple we've worked with, Helly and Mark, who bravely share their journey through relationship challenges, infidelity, and the path to a renewed connection. We discuss the underlying issues that can lead to such crises, the importance of honest communication, and how coaching and proper guidance helped them rebuild their relationshi...

In this episode, we dive into our personal journey of exploring different approaches to intimacy, including our experiences with slow tantric sexual practices as discussed with Tammy Hill. We've faced some unexpected challenges, but over the weeks, we've unlocked key insights about the dynamics of high and low desire in relationships. We openly share our struggles and learning moments to help unra...

Welcome to our podcast! In this special anniversary edition, we reminisce about our journey together, on how we met 27 years ago. Join us as we share funny anecdotes, heartfelt moments, and the ups and downs of our relationship. Special thanks to Auntie Mel, whose support made this episode possible. Tune in to hear our story and insights on love, commitment, and the importance of perseverance in m...

In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of love languages and how they've shaped our understanding of relationships. We challenge the traditional framework of transactional love and emphasize the importance of honesty and intimacy beyond rigid categorizations. Join us as we unpack our personal experiences, discuss the complexities of human connections, and offer insights into building a mor...

In this episode of our podcast, we dive into the dynamics of intimacy in marriage, discussing the differences between spontaneous and responsive sexual desire. We share our personal experiences and struggles in navigating these aspects of our relationship. We explore how understanding and respecting each other's desires can lead to a stronger connection and a more fulfilling intimate life. Whether...

In this episode, we dive deep into the world of tantric sex with author and therapist Tammy Hill. We explore the importance of slowing down, being mindful, and how tantric practices can enhance intimacy in relationships. Tammy shares her journey, the science behind tantric sex, and practical tips for couples looking to rejuvenate their intimate lives. Join us as we discuss how to create a deeper,...

Welcome to episode 21 of our podcast! This time, we're sharing some of our most epic Valentine's Day fails to keep things light and relatable. We dive into hilarious mishaps, from forgetting diabetic supplies at a basketball game to running out of gas near a convict, and share valuable lessons on managing expectations in intimacy. Join us as we discuss the importance of flexibility, emotional conn...

In this episode, we're thrilled to bring you an insightful conversation with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. Jennifer is a renowned therapist who specializes in marriage and intimacy, and has profoundly impacted our personal and professional lives. We delve into the challenges couples face when navigating difficult decisions in marriage, the importance of personal integrity, and how to manage anxiety...