Undressing Intimacy

Is your sex life becoming a "to-do" list? In this special 69th episode, we are tackling the elephant in the room: sexual positions and the pressure to perform. Many couples think that introducing a specific act—like the 69 position, a new toy, or a fantasy scenario—will magically fix their connection. But often, hyper-focusing on the "act" actually kills the intimacy. Join Greg and Amy as they bre...

In episode 68, we kick off the new year by reflecting on a rejuvenating holiday in Sedona, Arizona, and delve into the transformative power of rituals in marriage. Inspired by Esther Perel's work, we explore the significance of balancing the domestic and erotic aspects of life with actionable advice for creating meaningful rituals. We share personal stories, including our journey from routine to r...

In this episode, we explore the intriguing connections between human and horse nervous systems, particularly the limbic brain. We discuss how calming the limbic system enhances human and horse interactions, making horse riding a more connected and intuitive experience. Reflecting on personal stories and recent articles, we delve into the significance of regulating emotions for deeper connections i...

In episode 66, we dive deep into the topic of body image issues and how they impact intimacy and self-worth. Amy, despite being under the weather, joins us as we explore the emotional and mental barriers women face about their bodies. We discuss how societal expectations and personal criticism often lead to a disconnect from the body and its pleasures. Through personal anecdotes, we share the jour...

In episode 65, we delve into the phenomena of couples fighting more during the high-stress holiday season. We discuss the importance of physical touch and connection to replenish emotional bandwidth and reset the nervous system. Through personal anecdotes, we underscore the need for grounding moments of holding each other without any expectations. We explore the concept of being on the same team,...

In episode 64, we explore the significance of our online community and dive into a discussion about the core concept of intimacy and co-creation in relationships. Reflecting on personal experiences, we share insights about the challenges and growth related to writing, business ventures, and understanding integral values in sexuality. We also delve into the stages of adult development, the importan...

Welcome to episode 63! In this episode, we discuss the importance of balancing domestic work and erotic passion in a marriage. Reflecting on our community gatherings and personal experiences, we talk about the invisible labor and mental load often carried in relationships, especially during the holiday season. We emphasize open communication, partnership, and checking egos to create a thriving mar...

In episode 62, we are thrilled to welcome Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a guiding mentor in our personal and professional lives. Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses her new book,  That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love,  which beautifully explores the profound connection between sexuality and spirituality. She shares insights about the three stages of adult and sexual development and emp...

In this episode, we discuss our upcoming community gathering scheduled for November 25th and encourage listeners to join by clicking here . We share personal anecdotes about surprises and family moments, particularly focusing on a recent birthday celebration involving our children and grandchild. Additionally, we delve into the challenges of menopause, hormones, and female health, offering advice...

In this episode, we are thrilled to announce the launch of our new community for couples. We aim to create a monthly space where couples can come together to share their struggles, wins, and experiences face-to-face. Our first community call will be on November 25th at 7:30 PM Central time. Visit https://langfordlifecoaching.com/blog to subscribe to our weekly email and receive an Community Invite...

In episode 59, we reflect on last week's engaging conversation with Dr. Snyder and discuss pivotal insights on authentic intimacy. We highlight the importance of foundational elements in relationships, moving beyond the need to produce arousal towards truly enjoying and consuming each other's presence. The discussion touches on personal growth, experiences of success and failure, and real-talk abo...

In episode 58, we welcome Dr. Stephen Snyder, one of America's leading authorities on sex and relationships. Dr. Snyder, an associate clinical professor of psychiatry at Mount Sinai in New York City, shares his expert insights on maintaining passion and intimacy in long-term relationships. We discuss key concepts from his book 'Love Worth Making,' including the importance of transitioning from a s...

In Episode 57, we tackle the tricky topic of covert expectations in marriage, sharing personal anecdotes and lessons learned. We begin with updates on a recent contest and an inspiring coaching session with the winning couple. The conversation shifts to overcoming personal anxieties—highlighted by an experience with naming and confronting fears, specifically related to dental visits. We then dive...

In this episode, we deal with the critical challenge of overcoming justifications in relationships. We discuss the importance of self-awareness and understanding one's role in marital dynamics. Greg shares personal stories of his realization of how his behavior affected his relationship with Amy, and how taking ownership and working on oneself can lead to a healthier, more connected partnership. T...

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Kathleen Smith, a licensed therapist and author, to discuss her two influential books, 'Everything Isn't Terrible' and 'True to You.' Amy shares her excitement for these books, emphasizing their practicality and relatability in the realms of self-help and therapy. Dr. Smith elaborates on the importance of curiosity in managing anxiety and describes how her wor...

Welcome to episode 54! We express our gratitude to everyone who submitted ideas for our contest and announce Suzette Moody as the winner. Following Suzette's suggestion, we delve into strategies for balancing busy lives so that sex remains a priority. We discuss the importance of re-framing meanings around sexual intimacy, creating intentional time together, and removing expectations. Emphasizing...

In this episode, we discuss the importance of emotional connection in marriage. We explain how emotional awareness and processing can enhance intimacy, not just sexually but overall in the relationship. We break down the basics of emotions, their physical manifestations, and steps to process them effectively. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, we emphasize the need for daily emotiona...

Celebrating One Year!   Click Here to Enter Contest!   Raw Confrontations and Intimate Collaborations. In this milestone 52nd episode, we celebrate one year of podcasting by addressing the raw and real aspects of our relationship. Reflecting on our journey, we dive into a recent conflict that brought up deep-seated insecurities around money, collaboration, and partnership. By unpacking our experie...

In episode 51, we kick off with exciting news about our upcoming one-year podcast celebration and a special contest to win three free coaching sessions worth $450! As we near episode 52, stay tuned for a special link in the show notes to enter the giveaway. This episode dives deep into the concept of 'simmering' in relationships—a technique to foster eroticism, especially in long-term partnerships...

Live from Jacksonville, Florida, we bring you episode number 50! In this special episode, we delve deeply into the nuances of spontaneous and responsive desire, sharing personal insights from our recent experiences and homework assignments. We discuss the emotional aspects of eroticism, the importance of self-acceptance, and how to create and sustain an erotic space within your relationship. Join...

In Episode 49, we discuss the intriguing topic of spontaneous and responsive sexual desire, starting with a candid conversation about our experiences. We explore how spontaneous desires can affect our emotional states and relationships, discuss the need for grace and understanding from responsive partners, and share insights on how to navigate these differences. Join us for an unscripted, heartfel...

This week, we're back with an insightful discussion on over-functioning and under-functioning in relationships, a topic we frequently encounter in our coaching work. We delve into how anxiety can drive us to over-do or avoid responsibilities in different aspects of life, such as health, finances, intimacy, and more. Sharing personal experiences from our marriage, we explore how these patterns not...

Join us for episode 47 where we have a lighthearted and fun Q&A session to test how well we really know each other. We dive into quirky traits, childhood dreams, and even some of our deepest and funniest marriage moments. Laugh with us as we reveal surprises and enjoy the playful side of our relationship. Whether it's guessing each other's career dreams or discussing who spends the most money, thi...

In this episode, we delve into the concept of responsive desire, particularly focusing on the differences between responsive and spontaneous desire in relationships. Amy shares her insights from coaching sessions with clients, emphasizing that responsive desire is not a problem, but often perceived as one due to societal and cultural norms. We encourage listeners to understand their partners witho...

In this insightful episode, we delve into the importance of choosing relationships from a place of integrity rather than fear or external validation. We share personal stories and coaching experiences that highlight the difference between making choices based on true desires and acting out of anxiety or social pressure. We explore the stages of emotional maturity, the dangers of blind obedience, a...