Uncensored Sapphic

are you more "emotionally mature" or just using fancy words to hide your vulnerability? in this episode i cover: -why the rise of therapy speak is eroding intimacy -the 'flat stanley' effect and the emotional distance it creates in partnership -why Expansive Communication is the key to productive conversations that get your sex life back on track Feel called out in a good way or intrigued? Let's t...

Work with me Access the Feral Effect here Lets normalize the freeze response so we can feel less shame and access more joy after sexual trauma. Listen for -what is happening in the body when Freeze happens, and why its not the same as "doing nothing" -How to gently come out of a freeze response -the next phase of healing after "survivor" that I want everyone to experience

i ntimacy block quiz⁠ ⁠work with me⁠ trauma impacts you in all kinds of ways, what about your sexuality? listen for: -why this is question is a dead end, and actually helpful questions to help you understand and accept yourself no matter what you find

Understand how trauma is blocking your intimacy Quiz Work with me If you've ever googled "how to dress like a lesbian" this is for you. Listen for how internalized homophobia and the patriarchy are behind your quest to look gay enough and how to develop real confidence and self acceptance.

T AKE THE FREE QUIZ Work with me Oh, the sweet chaos of burning it all down to start over. This ultimate guide to navigating your new queer dating life covers: -The mindset shift that is crucial to finding queer love -Why your dating skills with men don't transfer to women, and how to get lesbians to know you're gay too (without wrapping yourself in the rainbow flag) -the key to great lesb...

⁠Intimacy Block Quiz⁠ ⁠Work With Me⁠ The aftermath of leaving a high control group as a queer person is something we don't talk about enough. I shed light on: -the control tactics that infiltrated my sex and relationships -why I once said, "I would have sex with a woman but I could never be in a relationship with one" -exploring thought crime -What is self monitoring and why its a ha...

What does it mean when you want to submit in the bedroom, but not in your daily life? Are you enacting the patriarchy? Can you choose what turns you on? I challenge you to listen with curiosity and leave the judgement at the door. Book Your Connection Call Watch Masterclass

When you love your partner so much but the sex is non existent, does it mean you're with the wrong person? Why do you get along so well but when it comes to sex it feels... forced? Listen for why improving the relationship doesn't usually fix your sex life, and how to begin bridging the gap between love and desire. Book Your Connection Call Watch the free Masterclass

What happens when you're SO into her and you enjoy the way she touches you, but your orgasm feels elusive? Why can you cum on your own but not with a partner? Listen to find out: >the hidden meaning of struggling to orgasm >the wrong goal most people chase that makes orgasm more difficult and what to focus on instead >how to talk about it without your partner feeling blamed Links ment...

SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/youtubequestions How do you keep your mind from wandering to work or if you smell weird? Is there a way to refocus or are you doomed to enduring distracted sex to keep your partner satisfied? Listen to find out ~the number one thing that makes focusing more difficult ~why forcing yourself to meditate isn't the answer to more mindful sex ~the...

How can you feel satisfied when your libido is higher than your partner's? What do you do when the tension of your sex life is affecting the rest of your relationship? How do you stop feeling like your high sex drive is a burden to your partner? Listen to this week's episode to learn: +Stop the cycle- how to stop feeling rejected and actually feel closer to your partner +Understanding desi...

SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/youtubequestions When the body positive affirmations fail, what do you do next? How do you close the gap between knowing you're 'supposed' to love your body and all the judgements and not good enough-ness that gets in the way? In this episode, you'll learn: -why affirmations don't work -the unique challenge of body acceptance queer people fac...

SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/youtubequestions What do you do when your partner tells you they have sexual trauma? You love them, but are scared of making it worse by doing something wrong. How do you help them feel safe? In this episode, I share the common, harmful dynamic couples fall into when one of them has experienced sexual trauma, and how to create a thriving rela...

Are you wondering how to get the spark back? You love your partner, and a great sex life takes effort. But how do you keep your relationship from feeling more like roommates or besties? In this episode, I share the key to keeping it hot beyond the 'honeymoon stage' using a proven framework that deepens intimacy without needing to stretch your bank account for a million date nights a month...

SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/youtubequestions Are you tired of feeling scared to initiate, or waiting for your partner to do it... then it just never happens and everyone is dissatisfied? I'll show you the exact formula to initiate with confidence so you can feel excited to start sexual connection and keep the ball rolling without worrying if they're having a good time....

Who wears the suit? Who walks down the aisle first? Who proposes first? I share my tips and personal experiences of planning a queer wedding and dealing with people's heteronormative BS. If you're a sapphic about to get married, already married, or just wanting to level up your intimacy, book a discovery call and I'll help you identify your biggest intimacy block, and outline how my ho...

SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/youtubequestions Listen for: how to flirt without being a creep why queer flirting is so intimidating how to be more charming on dates how to keep the spark alive what you can do to come back from feeling like roommates Ready to create the intimacy you deserve? Book a free discovery call and together we'll identify your biggest intimacy block...

SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/youtubequestions tough love for Valentine's Day; why you should stop putting off the thing you know you need to talk about! listen for : the real reason we avoid conflict the role of the nervous system in dealing with stressful situations tools for bringing up hard stuff and not having a melt down unexpected benefits of just spitting it out a...

SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/youtubequestions Let's talk about coming out "later" in life, exploring sexuality, questioning queerness, labels, googling "am I gay" late at night, and of course how to know if you're gay for sure (for sure). Ready to create the intimacy you deserve? Book a free discovery call and together we'll identify your biggest intimacy block and I'll...

SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION: https://www.sapphicsexologist.com/youtubequestions Let's talk about the effects of low self confidence and worth on intimacy, and how to feel worthy of pleasure and feel good in your body. Ready to create the intimacy you deserve? Book a free discovery call and together we'll identify your biggest intimacy block and I'll outline how my holistic approach to sex and intimacy ca...

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