Unbothered

It’s the annual Unbothered true crime episode!! My friend and actress Shaylaren Hilton joins me for disturbing cases, ghost stories, and plenty of tangents that have us crying laughing… before we’re reaching for the sage. We get into the murder of Dorothy Donovan, John Wayne Gacy’s horrifying history, and Jack Unterweger, the convicted murderer turned journalist reporting on the very crimes he was...

Some people belong in your past, even if they’re still watching your stories. This week, we’re talking about mourning the living: friendship breakups, family estrangement, and the guilt and relief of finally being done. Because “we go way back” isn’t a lifetime pass to treat you like shit. Submit your stories Substack!! Follow the pod: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ Follow Chloe: ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠TikTok⁠ Le...

Time to exorcise the ghosts of boyfriends past: the liar who turned you into a detective, the almost-boyfriend who made commitment feel like an unreasonable request, and the critic whose opinions somehow became your inner monologue. He’s already wasted enough of your time. He doesn’t get to haunt the place. Let's light some f*cking sage. Submit your stories Substack!! Follow the pod: ⁠Instagram⁠ |...

I’m tired of being told to be careful. We already are, and every woman I know still has a story. Today I’m sharing what is the most vulnerable thing I’ve ever recorded, for the women who know this feeling and the men we need to listen. In the wake of the Cornell allegations, I wanted to talk about the exhaustion so many of us are feeling. The precautions, the victim blaming, and the burden of cons...

If he’s so into you, why are we still having this conversation? Chloe and Julia Kelly are pouring drinks and giving you the tough love your group chat is tired of repeating. He watches every story, gets jealous, and says he misses you. But does he actually make plans? From mixed signals to promises that go nowhere, they're breaking down the excuses we make for men who keep us guessing. Your ti...

Is he your person, or have you just invested too much time explaining his texts to your friends? Serena Kerrigan joins Chloe to talk dating the same guy in a different font, her three P theory (practice, potential, plot), and what makes “the one” feel so different from the rest. From staying too long to making your boyfriend your entire personality, consider this your guide to investing in yoursel...

You wrote in, and Chloe is answering. This week’s inbox includes an ex who became a changed man the second it was too late, a casual fling whose personality disappeared after sex, a bedroom problem no one wants to say out loud, and a bride-to-be who discovered her fiancé had a secret life. Let’s get into it. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

He’s avoidant. She’s projecting. Or maybe they’re just being weird? Chloe sits down with The Psychology of Your 20s host Jemma Sbeg to talk about why uncertainty makes us obsessed, when psychoanalyzing turns into excuse-making, and why understanding someone doesn’t mean you have to tolerate them. Plus: unavailable men, healthy love, and the suspiciously productive power of heartbreak. Follow the p...

If you want a family someday, it’s almost impossible not to do the math backward and wonder if you’re already behind when you haven’t met the love of your life by 25. Somewhere along the way, that ticking clock can start creeping into the way women date, the way women leave, and what we're willing to settle for. You might find yourself staying a little too long in the wrong relationship becaus...

Today I’m giving you my full dissertation on the chill girl because I have THOUGHTS. She’s low-maintenance, easygoing, never needy, never difficult. But how much of being “chill” is actually confidence, and how much is abandoning your own needs before someone else gets the chance to reject them? Let’s get into where the chill girl came from, why women are so afraid of being “difficult,” and what i...

Koreen built a career and sold millions of games by asking people questions they weren’t prepared to answer. This week, my longtime friend and founder of We’re Not Really Strangers sits down with me to trade the questions that changed our lives. Somewhere between love, ambition, self-betrayal, and the kind of honesty usually reserved for three martinis in, we get to the answers we’ve been avoiding...

I went back through some of my favorite conversations to bring you the best dating and relationship advice, all in one episode. From heartbreak and attachment styles to boundaries, self-worth, communication, and building healthier relationships, these are the lessons everyone needs to hear. I wish this episode had existed when I was in my early 20s...it could’ve saved me years of therapy, lol. Lis...

Nobody tells you that falling in love with the right person can unlock a whole new set of fears. This week, we're talking about healthy love, unlearning old relationship patterns, the fear of losing control, and why anxiety doesn't always mean something is wrong. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Chloe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Ever wish you could ask the person you're dating what they actually mean? We brought in comedian, podcast host, and author Jared Freid to help decode the behavior driving you and your group chat insane. From mixed signals and situationships to commitment, labels, and all the phrases people use instead of saying what they really mean, we're asking the questions you're too afraid to ask...

Dessert is delicious. But if it's the only thing on your plate, eventually you're going to get sick. Somewhere along the way, we started treating relationships like the main event. Like life begins when you get the boyfriend, the ring, the wedding, the happy ending. Meanwhile, we're hurtling through space on a floating rock with entire lives to build, people to meet, places to see, and...

Ever heard of the butterfly effect? It’s never the big, obvious moment that changes your life. It’s the random night you almost cancel. You say yes instead of “another time,” and it turns into a relationship, an opportunity, a new best friend… or something that changes everything. This episode is about how the moments you almost talk yourself out of are usually the ones you need the most. Try out...

The more you want something, the further it seems to get. The second you let go, it shows up. Law of detachment, baby. If your mood is riding on one outcome, this is your reset. Let me help you stop spiraling and start trusting what’s meant for you, and show you how to actually detach when you feel like you can’t. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Chlo...

You asked and Emon is back. We’re telling stories — the time her best friend catfished her ex-boyfriend and got arrested for extortion, the roommate situation that slowly turned into a horror story, getting stuck in an elevator with Larry David while Chloe argued with him over a box, and several stories that still don’t feel real. Buckle up. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikT...

He had potential. You had patience. And now you're realizing love can't turn someone into who they're not. Kate Speights joins me to talk about why you simply cannot build a man. We get into staying too long, having the same conversation 500 times, and realizing you can't love someone into being the one. If you feel like you have to raise him, it's time to get a new one. Follow...

Lost your spark and not sure how to get it back? I have answers. I’ve lost mine more times than I can count over the last few years, which means I’ve also gotten pretty good at getting it back fast. In this episode I get into what actually kills your spark and what genuinely brings it back. Not the Pinterest advice, the real stuff that actually works when you feel like a dim version of yourself. F...

Your 20s are chaotic and messy, but that’s the point. Trinity Blair joins me for a big sister/little sister moment that honestly healed something in both of us. She asks what it’s actually like to be 29, and I share what 21-year-old me misunderstood about love, ambition, and growing up. If you’ve felt behind, too intense, or mildly convinced everyone else has it figured out...they don’t. And this...

We’re talking about dating a man with potential instead of proof, living with a friend who might secretly want your life, the boyfriend who’s “private” but somehow still posts everything but you, when generosity starts sounding like leverage, why chaos feels hotter than calm, and what to do when the people closest to you slowly drain your peace. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠.⁠...

You’re not unlucky in love. You’re just repeating a loop. Best selling author Amy Chan explains why your “type” might be your trauma  and how to recalibrate your picker for good. We get into breadcrumb addiction, instant chemistry vs. anxiety, the dating funnel, and why stability shouldn’t feel boring. Preorder Unsingle check out Breakup Bootcamp ⁠ here⁠ !Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Rushing feels exciting… until you’re anxious, overanalyzing, and disconnected from yourself. Sabrina Zohar joins me to talk slow dating, nervous system regulation, and how to stay grounded while getting to know someone. This is my fave episode to date, I hope you guys love it ♡ Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Chloe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ Listen to Sabrina&#3...

Casiah West is back, the wine is flowing, and we’re doing what needed to be done: a very tipsy, very honest red flag audit of men. From two chargers on the nightstand to vaping, strip clubs, gym selfies, knowing his big three, and watching your story without texting you back. Consider this a drinking game, a cautionary tale, and free therapy all at once. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok...