Unbothered

Ever wish you could ask the person you're dating what they actually mean? We brought in comedian, podcast host, and author Jared Freid to help decode the behavior driving you and your group chat insane. From mixed signals and situationships to commitment, labels, and all the phrases people use instead of saying what they really mean, we're asking the questions you're too afraid to ask...

Dessert is delicious. But if it's the only thing on your plate, eventually you're going to get sick. Somewhere along the way, we started treating relationships like the main event. Like life begins when you get the boyfriend, the ring, the wedding, the happy ending. Meanwhile, we're hurtling through space on a floating rock with entire lives to build, people to meet, places to see, and...

Ever heard of the butterfly effect? It’s never the big, obvious moment that changes your life. It’s the random night you almost cancel. You say yes instead of “another time,” and it turns into a relationship, an opportunity, a new best friend… or something that changes everything. This episode is about how the moments you almost talk yourself out of are usually the ones you need the most. Try out...

The more you want something, the further it seems to get. The second you let go, it shows up. Law of detachment, baby. If your mood is riding on one outcome, this is your reset. Let me help you stop spiraling and start trusting what’s meant for you, and show you how to actually detach when you feel like you can’t. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Chlo...

You asked and Emon is back. We’re telling stories — the time her best friend catfished her ex-boyfriend and got arrested for extortion, the roommate situation that slowly turned into a horror story, getting stuck in an elevator with Larry David while Chloe argued with him over a box, and several stories that still don’t feel real. Buckle up. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikT...

He had potential. You had patience. And now you're realizing love can't turn someone into who they're not. Kate Speights joins me to talk about why you simply cannot build a man. We get into staying too long, having the same conversation 500 times, and realizing you can't love someone into being the one. If you feel like you have to raise him, it's time to get a new one. Follow...

Lost your spark and not sure how to get it back? I have answers. I’ve lost mine more times than I can count over the last few years, which means I’ve also gotten pretty good at getting it back fast. In this episode I get into what actually kills your spark and what genuinely brings it back. Not the Pinterest advice, the real stuff that actually works when you feel like a dim version of yourself. F...

Your 20s are chaotic and messy, but that’s the point. Trinity Blair joins me for a big sister/little sister moment that honestly healed something in both of us. She asks what it’s actually like to be 29, and I share what 21-year-old me misunderstood about love, ambition, and growing up. If you’ve felt behind, too intense, or mildly convinced everyone else has it figured out...they don’t. And this...

We’re talking about dating a man with potential instead of proof, living with a friend who might secretly want your life, the boyfriend who’s “private” but somehow still posts everything but you, when generosity starts sounding like leverage, why chaos feels hotter than calm, and what to do when the people closest to you slowly drain your peace. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠.⁠...

You’re not unlucky in love. You’re just repeating a loop. Best selling author Amy Chan explains why your “type” might be your trauma  and how to recalibrate your picker for good. We get into breadcrumb addiction, instant chemistry vs. anxiety, the dating funnel, and why stability shouldn’t feel boring. Preorder Unsingle check out Breakup Bootcamp ⁠ here⁠ !Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Rushing feels exciting… until you’re anxious, overanalyzing, and disconnected from yourself. Sabrina Zohar joins me to talk slow dating, nervous system regulation, and how to stay grounded while getting to know someone. This is my fave episode to date, I hope you guys love it ♡ Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Chloe on ⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ Listen to Sabrina&#3...

Casiah West is back, the wine is flowing, and we’re doing what needed to be done: a very tipsy, very honest red flag audit of men. From two chargers on the nightstand to vaping, strip clubs, gym selfies, knowing his big three, and watching your story without texting you back. Consider this a drinking game, a cautionary tale, and free therapy all at once. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok...

I took a beat, and I’m back. Happy 2026 🤍 In this solo episode, I discuss confidence, insecurity, and how beauty culture and social media subtly influence our self-worth. Why is feeling “almost enough” so common?? Maybe it’s less personal than we think and more about the systems and industries that profit from our self-doubt. Let's get into it. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠.⁠⁠⁠ Fol...

Been holding on to this one since October, and the time has come. Talking yourself into staying? Ignoring the voice telling you it’s time to go? That heaviness in your gut is the answer. You're settling because it feels safer than facing the unknown, but it's costing you more than you realize. Ready to wake up? Casiah West and I are here to shake you out of it. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠Ti...

Therapist and bestselling author Kati Morton joins me to unpack why we keep repeating patterns we know aren’t good for us. From people-pleasing and fawning to control and why awareness alone doesn’t create change, this episode is about getting honest with yourself and learning how to actually get unstuck. Kati Morton: Book: ⁠Why Do I Keep Doing This? Instagram & TikTok Podcast: Ask Katie Anyth...

Please Advise is Chloe’s recurring advice segment for life, dating, and when your group chat isn’t enough. This week’s inbox is a lot. We’re talking dysfunctional families, situationships that refuse to define themselves, love bombing, and men who say all the right things but do none of the right actions. From stolen baby Jesus incidents and holiday family chaos to red flags, gut instincts, and wh...

Why is EVERYONE going through a breakup right now???? I ditched my planned episode to sit down at home, mic in hand, and talk through the chaos with you. If you're in denial and numb, crashing out, rebounding away, crying in your room, or even secretly still talking to your ex, I got you. These are the rules of a breakup if you want to come out the other side feeling clearer, stronger, and a littl...

Julia’s back, and so is the bowl of lore. From the time I fumbled Nick Jonas in a Studio City café, to carrying a stranger up six flights of stairs four martinis deep, to getting electrocuted in Bali on a brand trip… this episode is pure chaos in the best way. Follow the pod on ⁠⁠IG⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠TikTok⁠.⁠ Follow ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chloe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow ⁠Julia⁠

There’s a month left in the year. Lock in. This minisode is your five-step reset: money, body, routine, energy, boundaries. Let's get things in alignment before January sneaks up. xx Chloe Follow Unbothered on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chloe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Your body remembers what your mind tries to forget. Best-selling author and Psychotherapist Jessica Baum joins me to talk about attachment styles and how they affect our nervous systems. We get into the wheel of attachment, avoidant protectors, trauma bond vs love, when to stay vs go, and somatic healing. Follow Jessica:   Facebook ,  Instagram ,  LinkedIn Get her new book "SAFE" + freebies Follow...

What if soulmates aren’t found, but made along the way? Author and podcast host Liz Moody joins me to talk about how to know if they’re your person, why real love looks more like laundry and taxes than fireworks, and what it means to grow with someone instead of chasing “the one.” Check out Liz's pod & follow her on IG ! Follow Unbothered on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

It’s the season for jump scares and bad decisions, so obviously I’m telling scary stories. From the real-life horror that happened to me two weeks ago (I turned into Nancy Drew and got a man arrested) to attic lurkers, smiling strangers, and one possession story that still haunts me. Julia Kelly joins for commentary, chaos, and mezcal. Let's get into itttt. Follow the pod on ⁠IG⁠ and ⁠TikTok⁠. Fol...

A Q&A that has it all: gamifying dating, finsta debriefs, a guy humming an insane song mid-kiss, a French prince reincarnated in Alabama, and the courage to leave the wrong engagement. Buckle uppp! Send us your weird date stories!!! Check out Total Eye Lift from Clarins⁠ ❤️ Follow Unbothered on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Ready or not, let go. This ep was recorded live from my bed (with tea and a hard seltzer), literally an hour before posting. Consider this your late-night voice memo on why we hold on too long, why trusting yourself is the only way forward, and why maybe, just maybe, thank god we don’t always get what we think we want. x Chloe

Dating the human hot-and-cold? Avoidant attachment explains a lot. We called on licensed marriage and family therapist Stephanie Michaelian (@losangeles.therapy) to help us understand wtf is going on in the mind of an avoidant. We unpack childhood roots, adult red flags, and how to set requests (and boundaries) without losing yourself. Follow Stephanie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...