True Vine Talks

In this episode of True Vine Talks, we explore Erik Erikson's stage of Generativity vs. Stagnation (ages 40–65) through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy. We discuss what it means to cultivate genuine care for the next generation by mentoring, sharing wisdom, and building a meaningful legacy. We also examine how feelings of stagnation, isolation, or being "stuck" can emerge when connection i...

In this episode of our Erikson's Psychosocial Stages mini-series, we explore the stage of Intimacy vs. Isolation (ages 18–40). From an Emotionally Focused Therapy perspective, we discuss how our ability to form close, secure, and meaningful relationships is shaped by earlier developmental experiences. Join us as we unpack the challenges of vulnerability, connection, attachment, and loneliness, and...

In this episode, we explore Erik Erikson’s stage of psychosocial development known as Identity vs. Role Confusion and discuss why adolescence is such a critical time for developing confidence, independence, and a strong sense of self. Designed for caregivers of teens, this episode examines healthy ways parents can support identity development through encouragement, communication, and appropriate a...

In our miniseries 'Stage by Stage: A Parent’s Roadmap', we explore Erikson’s stages of Psychosocial Development. This episode focuses on Industry vs. Inferiority, a pivotal period for children ages 6 to 12. During these years, kids begin comparing themselves to peers to determine what they are good at and where they fit in. This process helps shape confidence, self-esteem, and a sense of pride in...

You recognized the fawn response. You understood where it came from. Now it's time to heal. In Part 3 of our fawn response mini-series, we're diving into the real work of recovery: setting boundaries without guilt, trusting your own voice again, and breaking the people-pleasing patterns that have kept you stuck. If you're ready to stop shrinking and start living as your full self, this one's for y...

Protest behaviors are some of the most misunderstood dynamics in close relationships. They can look like criticism, stonewalling, emotional outbursts, or shutdown, but beneath the surface, they're often a cry for connection. In this episode, we examine common protest behaviors through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy, exploring what they communicate, why they show up, and how recognizing th...

So many people ask, “Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?!” What if attraction isn’t the real issue at all? In this episode, we unpack a powerful (and often misunderstood) idea: it’s not about who you attract—it’s about who you give your emotional and relational access to. Drawing from attachment theory, we explore how early experiences quietly teach us that connection is earned through avai...

In Part 2 of this mini-series, we explore the connection between the fawn response and complex PTSD. This episode examines how fawning develops as a survival strategy in environments where safety depends on appeasing others, remaining small, or avoiding conflict. Together, we’ll unpack why the nervous system learns this response—and why it can be so hard to let go.

This first episode of our three-part mini-series explores the fawn response: what it is, how it develops, and why it exists. We discuss its roots in trauma and nervous system survival, along with real-life examples of how fawning can show up in relationships, work, and daily interactions.

In this episode, with guest and colleague, Hannah Eastman, we explore a question many counselors are asking: Where has distress tolerance gone for Gen Z? We dive into the patterns we’re seeing in the therapy room and the cultural forces that may have shaped this shift. We discuss the rise of snowplow parenting, what it means to grow up as true digital natives, the intense fear of failure many youn...

In this Movember episode, we’re taking a closer look at men’s mental health and the silent expectations that often shape their emotional lives. From being the “strong one” who never breaks to the provider who puts everyone else first, men are often taught to suppress their emotions and hide their needs. We explore how these cultural pressures contribute to loneliness, burnout, and disconnection—an...

How can you be sure you are protecting your peace versus holding onto resentment? In this episode, we discuss the difference between setting boundaries with love and holding grudges with bitterness. We’ll explore how intention shapes the outcome—and why boundaries are rooted in self-respect, not revenge.

Many relationships look “stable” from the outside—consistent, predictable, maybe even long-lasting. But stability doesn’t always mean a relationship is healthy. In this episode, Linda and Rachel unpack the differences between simply maintaining a stable bond and actually cultivating a secure connection. We’ll explore what true security looks like and why moving beyond stability is key to creating...

In this episode, we explore how allowing natural consequences to unfold can serve as powerful boundaries that protect your peace. Learn why stepping back, letting people face the results of their choices, and resisting the urge to fix everything isn’t cold—it’s caring. Tune in for practical insights on maintaining your sanity, preserving your energy, and embracing the lessons life naturally provid...

If you’ve been curious about inner child work but don’t know where to begin, this episode is your starting point. We’ll guide you through simple, approachable ways to meet your inner child—the often-forgotten part of you that still carries old pain. You’ll learn how to visualize this part of yourself, begin nurturing it with compassion, and take the first steps toward building self-trust. By showi...

Growing up with a narcissistic parent can leave deep, confusing wounds. In this episode, we talk about how to begin healing—from validating your own story, to setting boundaries, to caring for the child within you who still longs for the love you didn’t receive. We also hold space for the quiet grief of letting go of the relationship you hoped for, but may never have. This conversation is an invit...

What happens when the person who was supposed to love you unconditionally makes everything about themselves? In this episode, we explore the psychological impact of being raised by a narcissistic parent. From gaslighting and guilt to the loss of identity and chronic self-doubt, we unpack the deep wounds left behind—and how healing is possible. Whether you’re just starting to recognize the patterns...

Have you ever felt like you were the parent in your relationship with a caregiver? This is what happens when a parent never grew up emotionally. This episode explores the four types of emotionally immature parents, how their behavior affects children into adulthood, and how to begin healing. Whether you're just starting to name your experience or you've been doing the work for years, this conversa...

Being a good friend doesn’t mean being someone’s emotional lifeline. In this episode, we break down codependent friendships, how to recognize red flags, and how to build relationships rooted in mutual respect, independence, and balance.

Have you ever found yourself overreacting in a relationship and wondered, “Why did that hurt so much?” In this episode, we explore the deep and often hidden wounds of attachment reinjury —when present-day relationships awaken unresolved pain from our earliest connections. Whether it's feeling abandoned, unseen, or unworthy, these emotional echoes can keep us stuck in cycles of fear, conflict, or d...

Throughout our lifetime, we are all met with various transitions. These transitions could be from education into the workforce, retirement, moving to a new location, or any major change that impacts your daily life and routine. Regardless of the type of transition, there is the potential to experience grief for what is being left behind and anxiety about the unknown that lies ahead. Linda and Rach...

Linda and Rachel read Cassie Phillips's poem 'Let Them'. Her words teach us that we deserve better, and when we find better, our lives improve.

Linda and Rachel discuss how themes in popular media (television, movies, magazines, etc.) can influence behavior in romantic relationships.

Linda and Rachel discuss 'black and white thinking' (AKA dichotomous thinking). This cognitive distortion occurs when an individual views the world in extreme opposites. This can look like believing something is all good or all bad, perfect or terrible, always or never, etc.

Linda and Rachel share some helpful tips for navigating those difficult conversations with important people in your life. Though they can be uncomfortable, these conversations can also bring closeness, increase satisfaction, and deepen trust in relationships.