Trigger Proof Transmissions

After going through a difficult time like a health crisis or breakup, it’s important that we aren’t experiencing that pain and despair all alone.  Loneliness makes it worse, and it’s our biological imperative to connect with others.  Especially when we felt so down and out in the relationship, it feels good to talk to someone and get validation.  The big blind spot in the healing game is this: Max...

HOW TO HANDLE NEW TRAUMAS AFTER HEALING OLD ONES I got this really great question at one of our live events and wanted to share this with you. Trauma means “injury”.  Just like physical injuries leave scars, so do emotional ones.  When left unresolved, we get triggered or “activated” in day to day life (especially in our relationships). Without facing them head-on, we tend to avoid them altogether...

The source of THAT feeling. Our unresolved attachment traumas. When you finally address the root of THAT, you begin to heal. Your anxiety lessens, and calm presence begins to fill that void. Your mojo that’s been lost in all the petty drama begins to come back. You start to look in a mirror with a smile. And finally, your partner, your work, and the world around you in general begins to treat you...

In today's transmission I share the path towards experiencing a sense of freedom in relationships, so that you can show up as an authentic, individuated person ready to receive a relationship experience that might not have been accessible to you. Without addressing this ROOT CAUSE, we are forever going in circles trying to rescue others or hoping to be rescued. When you get this right, you're no l...

The world of “personal betterment” can be quite funny. We want to upgrade ourselves, especially after challenging life events. We grow, we have breakthroughs… And then, if we’re not careful, We can let it get to our head, and we can start thinking we’re more evolved or spiritual than others. The programs we take and the Therapies we have done can sometimes become an Ego trip. If you’re ever feelin...

After experiencing the pain of a Trauma Bonded relationship I didn’t feel I could EVER escape, the shame of living a life that wasn’t authentic, the anxiety, lack of sleep, and the digestive disturbance of hiding behind a false self, and doing the deep work to get to the other side, sleeping deeply and soundly, co-creating a relationship and family that feels like home for the first time in my ent...

Every time you get triggered, in a split second, you separate from yourself. All without even knowing. That’s why there’s a physical pain involved. I have always prided myself on being intelligent, knowing exactly what to do and to make good, rational decisions. That is, only when my brain is working. When our nervous systems get activated, then 3/4 of our brain goes “offline” and all “rational ed...

In my 20 years of experience, and in my last 10 years of working with those carrying trauma, I’ve found the most effective path towards healing comes from learning how to become YOUR OWN MEDICINE. All trauma is actually “Separation Trauma” where an event occurs that causes us to separate from OURSELVES. Without being raised by parents who were safe and empathetic containers for us, as little child...

Think of the pain you’ve been carrying... for a moment. Whether it’s a physical ache that has you unable to walk for the past few weeks, or an emotional disturbance you can’t seem to shake after 5 years, being a Chiropractor for the last 20 years helping people suffering with physical ailments led me on a wild goose chase leading on a path upstream making a startling revelation that - MOST Chronic...

Whether you have children  or not, You’ve had parents. And despite your best efforts to avoid making the same mistakes, there’s a reason why we are all set up to fail and re-create similar disasters. And none of this is your fault. We all want to feel a sense of self love and trust when we look in the mirror. We all want to feel calm, at ease, and fully trusting of ourselves and our ability to han...

If we were to go by statistics, there's a high likelihood that if you're stuck in a Trauma Bond with someone, you're not going to be able to set yourself free. That's because a part of you doesn't want to be free.  (Read that again). When we don't get to the root cause, Trauma Bonds can be lethal. Lives are lost every day. Anxiety and Depression are intimately linked to your trauma bonds.  I left...

When everything starts out like a magical fairy tale, watch out. Pay attention. Not to rain on your parade, but there's a good chance those big feelings you keep seeking out in romantic relationships are not love. They are a Trauma Bond. On today's fb live/clubhouse chat I help break down the fantasies that are at the helm of turning our relationships into toxic push-pull dynamics so that you can...

The experts say it's literally impossible to overcome co-dependency... That it's caused by something "broken" within us and since it has begun long before we even had language to describe it-- breaking the chains are said to be impossible. I disagree.  We've cracked the code. But not everyone will be able to. On this transmission you'll see the 3 blind spots you'll need to overcome if you think yo...

If you have noticed things getting completely fucked up in your relationships and sex, it may be because you have been mis-labeling love. You're not going to want to miss this if you want to experience a safe and secure relationship in your life. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attra...

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month) Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds,...

Trauma bonds are tricky. Some experts say it’s impossible. If you’ve ever been stuck in relationship limbo, not knowing whether to stay or go, you aren’t alone. Trauma bonds are volatile, highly charged, push/pull dynamics where you KNOW you’re bad for one another, but you just can’t seem to stop, even though it’s destroying you inside. When we don’t get to the cause and address it, we are stuck i...

If you've ever been what you would consider to be a "toxic" relationship and wondered the mechanism behind it, pay close attention. Not learning this could mean repeating the same dynamics for life, wondering why there are so many crazy folks aroun Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, att...

When you're ready, here's what we got: Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month) Dissolve your current relationship re...

You may not be aware of it, but you could be causing damage to your child/Children. Without being aware of the Insidious Nature of Trauma itself, and the handful of ways we act towards children that can be harmful to them, we create a culture of Co-dependency and Narcissism. Jump on if you're a parent or a child with parents. This conversation might bring up some feelings inside of you.  Please pa...

Fact: We have all been hurt in some way. We have all hurt others in some way. But it seems there is a growing number of people who years later, are deeply identified by their traumas. There are 4 specific reasons why some people NEVER get themselves past this hurdle. Without knowing the 4 reasons why, we are forever stunting our growth and healing, and destroying all possibility of having a secure...

We already know that Chronic Illness and Mental Health "Disorders" are due to Trauma. On today's transmission I discuss a common but seldom-talked-about "Small t" trauma that causes such a high incidence of health and relationship problems, and they're not addressed properly in our system. When you get this right, you realize you have the ticket to authentic relationships, less anxiety, and living...

Amazing relationships aren't luck. They're a skill. They are work. If you want to learn how, there are 2 skills to master. When you get them right, the secure, safe, loving, mutual relationship you've always wanted is right within your grasp. Without mastering these 2 skills we will forever be playing the blame game, hoping for a hero to come save us. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Li...

This is one of the most common questions we get from those who are not only partnered/married, feeling stuck in a situation where they're not getting their needs met, but also with single folks not sure if they're ignoring red flags. Without learning these 3 concepts, you're forever repeating patterns. When you get this right, you make a powerful choice for your future. Some great questions from c...

Insecurity in Relationships shows up in many different ways. Jealousy, Running away, picking arguments, creating drama when there isn't any, making up stories--- We all have our moments. Deep down we hope to meet and find people that don't bring out the worst in us, and are able to come to win/wins when things go awry.  But without specifically working at these key inner-game "upgrades",  we end u...

After a vulnerable post from @Vanessa Cormier I wanted to use her question as a guide to speak about safety in relationships and why we can lose capacity to be in healthy secure relationships. Without this awareness, we slip into patterns and repeat the same cycle again and again. To learn how to break the cycle, pay attention, and grab a pen. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event...