Trigger Proof Transmissions

WILL THIS WORK FOR ME I wish I could have a nickel for everyone who has reached out wondering if our events and programs will “work” for them. Some of them request a guarantee from me that it will, and don’t feel safe in proceeding unless there is one. It’s almost as if they feel so duped by all the things they’ve tried to break the deeply conditioned patterns that have them - Choosing partners th...

Common Question:  “Dr. Nima, help. I know I’ve been triggered lately in a relationship.  It keeps coming up, and it feels like we’re going nowhere.  I know I want to change, but I don’t know where to begin. Where do I begin to heal this?” If you’ve ever been in that situation 👆🏽 you’re not alone. I was in the same boat.  I was re-living the same relationship again and again, and by the time I hi...

The Co-Dependency Dilemma Losing touch with your own reality and getting emotionally enmeshed with another is the main dilemma in co-dependent relationships. It's almost an "out of body" experience.  Without awareness we give up our "agency," our choice, our power, our well being and we unknowingly place it in the other person's hands... and emotions. This inevitably leads to resentment because we...

GOING FROM TRAUMA BONDED RELATIONSHIPS TO SECURE ATTACHMENTS-- IS IT POSSIBLE?? If you've been following the Johnny Depp / Amber Heard case, you can see the Impact of a Trauma Bond. When we're used to relating to others in the lens of our trauma, having secure relationships can feel weird AF-- downright gross. So we keep attracting the same types of dynamics, until we choose to finally heal. On to...

CAN CODEPENDENCY BE HEALED There’s an epidemic going on behind the scenes in many relationships… and experts say that it’s literally impossible to overcome. Without awareness, this phenomenon runs in the background of the way we relate to one another, causing problems like stress, anxiety— digestive and hormonal issues— all the way to attachmentissues and push/pull dynamics. This dynamic is respon...

If you’ve ever caught yourself wondering “is this all there is to life?” then I want you to know that I get it. Even though since I was 13 I always dreamed of being a Chiropractor (despite my parents initial reaction of discouragement), after 10 years in practice I found myself feeling uninspired in treating physical symptoms of stress and trauma related problems in my patients. I craved and hunge...

Now that all the ‘Rona talk has died down, It’s time to expose a silent epidemic/pandemic that destroys health, relationships, and self worth. That’s Childhood Attachment Traumas. Without getting to the root cause of them, we fall into the same toxic relationship patterns, tolerate abusive behavior, still wounded by affairs and betrayal running in the background, feel anxious and depressed all the...

I bet you hadn’t considered this blind spot in your relationships before. Try this on: If you notice the same arguments in relationships or you’re single and finding yourself in the same relationship dynamics over and over again, you might have had the same problem: A LACK OF INDIVIDUATION. Let me explain:  Growing up, in order to emerge as a fully functional adult with secure attachments, it’s im...

Nobody wants to feel like a Shitty Parent. When our children struggle with anxiety and depression, we want to help them so bad, that sometimes we forget to look in the most obvious places. On todays fb live/clubhouse chat we will discuss 3 uncommon solutions parents in our #CycleBreakers community have adopted to get results that aren’t available by medicating or sending the kid to a therapist. Pl...

I used to hate setting goals. I couldn’t figure out if I was being realistic or not with them. I mean, who doesn’t want to have the best relationship connection while cruising on private jets together to exotic resorts and adventure destinations? I wouldn’t say no to a life where those experiences are possible. But how do I know if it’s a legit goal vs a pipe dream? When you set your goals for you...

If you feel frustrated in a relationship that's not working, you're not alone.  Everyone wants to feel safe in a container of a healthy functional relationship where you both grow and evolve together.  Without working on meeting these requirements I share in this training, we are bound to keep going around the hamster wheel, weeping, wailing and gnashing our teeth wishing the world will change to...

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BECOME "TRIGGER PROOF?" Trigger proof does NOT mean Trigger LESS.  (read that again). We teach what we most needed to learn. And you can't learn how to regulate your nervous system in a therapist's office. The work of expanding the space between stimulus and response is NOT easy, and no one ELSE can do it for you. It's the work of breaking Cycles of Inter generational Trauma t...

WHY MEN "HATE" DOING THE WORK | CLIENT TESTIMONIAL I used to think that “men don’t do work” on healing their emotions. This is the messaging many of us unconsciously receive growing up. Ask yourself this: Did you experience your father expressing HIS emotions in a healthy way? Did you experience your father validating YOUR emotions in a healthy way growing up? What was your experience like? Only 3...

If you’re frustrated with the progress of your healing journey, you’re not alone. If you’ve struggled with anxiety, addictions, relationship disconnection, chronic health issues, and fatigue, you’ve likely tried the psycho-pharmaceutical route, based on receiving a diagnosis for a condition that is likely routed in Childhood Trauma. And if you’re practicing “mindfulness,” yoga, breathing technique...

There’s a lie they don’t tell you about in the “positive psychology” “Good vibes only” “feel good" circles.  It’s not because they’re deliberately lying to you. I don’t even think it’s conscious. Please understand, I’m not bagging on happiness. It’s a blind spot.  I’m saying that if you put an expectation on yourself to feel a certain way (happy/positive) then there is a good chance you’re setting...

THE HIDDEN REASON BEHIND WHY YOU DON’T HAVE A SECURE RELATIONSHIP Are your relationships volatile, frustrating and causing you anxiety? Let’s just say, I can relate. If you there to witness the ridiculous toxic mess that was my last relationship, you would have watched it all unfold and then asked me why the heck I chose to be in a dynamic like that. It was a complete shit show in every sense of t...

RESOLVING THE "TOXIC" RELATIONSHIP PATTERN I often hear in our facebook community from people who have been in toxic relationships wanting to diagnose and label their partners as jerks, narcissists, stone-waller… you name it. We get to hear it all. “What if you’ve been married to a Narcissist for 20 years?” “What if you’re partner is a jerk?” I know that can be challenging. Relationships, even at...

Just had this question come in my DM’s: “What do healthy boundaries look like and how do I let go of guilt while setting boundaries?” This is a tough one. Most of us grew up in environments where boundaries didn’t exist. I definitely know the feeling.  Saying “no,” or having a request or preference was often met with anger, resentment, or shame. The message our younger selves get: “Setting boundar...

Let’s face it. Social Media is mostly used to numb or sedate ourselves from our emotions. It’s an addiction like any other, used to avoid pain. Even though that might be true, I still think if you are following the right people, it can be used to help you wake up. To wake up to the fact that we are facing a global crisis To wake up to the fact that this crisis was going on long before the pandemic...

Question in my DM: “When I get told to shut up, I LOSE MY SHIT.  I can’t seem to control my emotions and I become highly reactive.  No matter how much I tell myself too cool down, and not take it personally, when I hear those words, I’m not able to cope. HELP!” Whenever there is reactivity, there is a wound. Talking about it with a Therapist might be helpful, but it doesn’t address what’s under th...

OUTCOMES OF DOING "HEALING WORK" If ONLY watching Facebook and YouTube videos and reading books were bough to help us heal, Our planet wouldn’t be in the mess it’s in right now. We are seeing mental health declines and relationships blowing up more than ever before. What’s the common denominator that will determine how we do on the other side of this global crisis? Answer:  The Resilience we have...

Healing is about LEARNING.  It’s time to stop pretending that a doctor will solve your problems for you. The best doctor is the doctor within.  In my 25 years in the field of health and mind/body healing, I’ve discovered the exact steps that in all the years I’ve seen patients, clients, and now students, the ones that heal and get great results for chronic conditions like anxiety, chronic pain, di...

INTERPERSONAL TRAUMA IS THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE ROOT CAUSE I’ve been in the process of re-inventing myself. If you’ve ever considered making a big change in your life, or you have ACTUALLY already had the courage and have taken the leap and gone through the terrifying and exhilarating experience of re-inventing who you are being in the world, let me just tell you — I don’t just see you. I FEEL you....

I’m about to say something that might offend you (depending on where you’re at in your healing journey). Ready?? Here it is: PTSD is NOT a Disorder.  I invite you to think of it this way: Imagine you’re walking on the sidewalk and you get attacked by someone coming after your wallet. You go through an event that is too much, too soon, too fast for your Nervous System to adapt. BOOOOM.   A cascade...

Many feel they can heal from attachment wounds and trauma alone, by reading a book or listening to podcasts, even with talk therapy alone. While these things might be helpful, in order for true healing to take place on a Nervous System level, we are called to activate our Social Engagement System which helps us get back into connection and safety. We aren’t meant to heal alone. When feeling discon...