Trigger Proof Transmissions

(And 2 Excuses I made that kept me in an unhealthy dynamic) Even though we SAY we want healthy and secure relationships, the truth is part of us doesn't.  If healing is going to happen and a change is going to take place, then we have to be willing to get uncomfortable, starting with a conversation.  In Todays' transmission I share the path to breaking the cycle so that you don't end up turning yo...

(And the Excuses we make that keeps us in these unhealthy dynamics) There's a blind spot in relationship dynamics that's seldom talked about: Trauma Bonds. When we are unconsciously at the effect of our Trauma Bonds, we choose partners that reflect something incomplete we are trying to resolve. If we don't heal the root cause, we'll find ourselves stuck in these dynamics, waiting for someone to re...

hink of your current conflict in a relationship you're in. Could be an ex or it could be anything going on in your life RIGHT NOW. If you've got the courage to even look, you'll be playing one of these roles. Let's face it, we just want to blame others. When we take our participants through this exercise, it's astounding how much resistance people face when looking. The trick to this exercise is a...

This controversial discussion shares how we can create an identity from victimhood which paralyzes us from healing and creating secure relationships, and why it can be so difficult to overcome. __________________________________________________________ Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments,...

This recording of a Clubhouse Chat with Dr. Russell Kennedy helps bridge the gap between unresolved emotions like anger and Anxiety, and what we can do about it. ___________________________________________ Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to...

When you understand the language of the Nervous System, you will do away with the notion that there's something wrong with you OR you're broken. You were born into a system that has been pathologizing your feelings and emotions (or lack of them). This experience, most commonly described as hopelessness, stuckness, even clinical depression, is NOT a disorder. It means your Nervous System is working...

WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR MAKING YOU FEEL SAFE? Many of us create vision boards and set goals but very few put in a "healthy & regulated nervous system" on our list of goals. It's too bad because what good are achieving all those goals and intentions without a healthy & regulated nervous system? In order for us to feel fulfilled, present, calm, and connected within relationships, we MUST FIRS...

TRIGGER WARNING. If you're stuck in a Narcissistic/Co-dependent Cycle and you identify with one (or both) of these "roles" And you are tired of playing the victim And you're ready to finally heal To take Responsibility To own your part in the dance To transform your relationship and to FINALLY GET the relationship that is your BIRTHRIGHT... Secure Attachments... I show you how in my 90 minute trai...

SELF ABANDONMENT 101 Co-dependency, Toxic Relationships, and Trauma bonds... This is all unconscious patterning. We've been conditioned from a very young age to feel that our being-ness only is worthy of love so long as we fulfill certain criteria and achievement. While on one hand, this is done with all the right intentions, and helps drive us to succeed. On the other hand it creates a feeling of...

Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month) Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step.

If we're not careful, we will unconsciously fall into one or more of these 5 Roles in our relationships. When we don't do our Inner Healing, relationships fall into old patterns, with volatile push/pull dynamics that are a repetition of childhood dynamics that cause life to turn into hell. When you finally figure this out, own your role, and then change the story-- you'll no longer tolerate breadc...

"Hi Nima, I'm at 56:00, and I'm absolutely floored so far! (I'm yellow/orange)... you've said more that made perfect sense, and is of more use to me than all of my different therapies combined! I've made a ton of notes, and look forward to watching the rest of the call tomorrow I'm so greatful to be here! lol, thanks... I'm seriously exhausted, been living this way for 50 years... I'VE been persui...

DANCING WITH YOUR DARK PASSENGER As a fan of the series “Dexter,” I was intrigued by how the protagonist was also the villain. As I delve deeper in understanding human behavior, I realize how much we are all very similar. We crave confidence, feeling safe and secure in our bodies, and in our relationships, but there is this “Dark Passenger” we seem to work so hard to get rid of, suppress, or extin...

WHAT'S HIDING UNDERNEATH IT ALL Imagine what it would be like to be a child, who every time he/she has big emotions, or challenges in life— and in response, their mother/father gets triggered, upset, and reactive, covering up loads of mom/dad guilt they are unable to regulate, and then as a result, suppress, judge, shame, or invalidate that child… What do you think the result is? The child doesn’t...

In case you’ve noticed, we’ve become at the effect of a cultural war. Families have been torn apart. Relationships are struggling. The term we can use with the current state of our society is called “Atomized”. That means we are separated into little cubicles and have been distancing from each other, locked behind our devices. Since the pandemic our collective nervous systems that are hard-wired t...

In the Baha’i Faith, marriage is described as a “Fortress for Well-Being.” Unfortunately, this is far from what we see in reality today. Most relationships are based on repeating unconscious patterns from childhood, and MOST people who haven’t looked or studied their role in relationship dynamics feel betrayed, abandoned, unseen, unheard, and quite alone— even in relationship. People don’t underst...

WHICH ONE OF THESE ARE YOU CHOOSING If you’ve ever found yourself lost in a maze, looking for outside approval, you’re in good company. I noticed a common thread in everyone’s story who has ever reached out looking for help with their challenging relationship patterns. Listening to their stories of relationship distress, the “upstream” root cause was (mostly) all the same. I even found a correlati...

YOUR MESS IS YOUR MESSAGE It wasn’t until my first year practicing Chiropractic that I realized that I had a problem with anxiety.  The littlest things would set it off. Not only did I not feel safe in my body, but it spilled over into my relationships as well. I would show up rushed with my patients in practice. I would show up easily distracted in my personal relationships. Being around me didn’...

DON'T AIM AT SUCCESS I used to be obsessed with “Success.” Then I realized that chasing success is like chasing the Horizon. Whatever goal you try to achieve, once the "Dopamine hit” wears off, you’re back into the next chase. It never ends. When I read this quote by Viktor Frankl in the book “Man’s Search for Meaning” It deeply resonated with me. So from there, my aim shifted from seeking “happin...

I love my parents. And they had no clue about what it means to be “trauma informed”. Without having an education on the insidious nature of trauma, and the way the Nervous System responds to - time outs - the “Cry it out” method - having your preferences, ideas, and reality invalidated - physical violence - verbal abuse, insults, and devaluation parents are simply not given the tools to ensure the...

In case you haven’t noticed, there are a lot of keyboard warriors out there criticizing how things are being run. Throughout the pandemic, I found myself in that same boat for a hot minute. And lo and behold:  It got me nowhere. I wasn’t any happier complaining endlessly— and nothing was changing. I realized there was only one place I could go to make a difference…. The one place that very few peo...

FIGHTING THE TEARS Your relationship with your tears is very telling. Do you stuff them down? Do you have problems even accessing them? Or perhaps you feel that you’re “too much” with them. If we want to get to the root of this riddle with our emotions— there are some deeper questions to ponder. From my observation, this block of emotions is most commonly seen in men, but many women also have the...

Do you know why your parents had you? Sounds like a weird question, but the answer to that question actually makes a profound difference in how your life plays out. Most parents who haven’t resolved their traumas will have children to suit THEIR needs. Without getting clarity on this foundational intention, children often experience the trauma of “not belonging” and are conditioned to abandon thei...

THE PRICE OF CHANGE I’m going to risk sounding rude here and come out and say it: NO ONE IS COMING TO RESCUE YOU. No one is going to push you to wake up and claim what you deserve: A healthy mind, a healthy body, and relationships that work. Yes, you deserve all of that. But unfortunately, not everyone will achieve it. Many of us are finding ourselves completely disempowered, in relationships that...

When I learned about the word “enmeshment” everything began to make sense. Why my relationships never worked out. Why I had fear and anxiety around so many people. Why we are so afraid of what people think of us. Why we have “the disease to please”. without understanding this fundamental concept, we endlessly go around searching for love and approval, living in fantasy world where others can final...