Trigger Proof Transmissions

Everyone wants to feel safe in their relationships and connected to their confidence and mojo. Life is scary alone-- and much more enjoyable when we are surrounded by love and acceptance. But chances are, your stories aren't helping you achieve that. In fact, I don't mean to be rude, but... Nobody cares much for your stories. From what I've observed in my own life and in helping others--- our stor...

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month) Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds,...

How does a person deal with new traumas that occur after they have healed their abandonment and attachment wounds? Is there, in your opinion, a specific way to help ourselves and others we love process grief and trauma that occur in adulthood due to outside influences like accidents, murders, and other unfair context that are experienced? How does a person actively seek justice for these types of...

To respond to the question asked by a community member, along with a controversial thread--I posted this video to help explain how to show compassion towards others when they're being rude to you. Without getting this right we walk around having inauthentic relationships and no boundaries. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive...

In today's transmission I share what I feel to be the real epidemic going on on this planet and the responsibility I took on that completely changed my life and had me take on the work of creating a secure attachment. I'm going to break down what that is so you know what a healthy relationship will feel like. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in l...

Yup. It's this topic again. We can't get enough of this word. It's plastered all over social media. I'm going to give you an unpopular opinion that might challenge you. If you're open to feeling a bit triggered you might learn something. The goal here is your freedom. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns,...

"I feel like I'm drifting." "I feel numb. What's the point?" "I don't know where I belong." "I see people doing things they are passionate about and doubt whether I have it in me." "I have no fire." "There is no meaning in what I do." "I don't know who I am." "I hear all of that often." I figured out the 7 reasons why we can't find our purpose and 3 action steps you can make to solve this riddle s...

This won't be an easy pill to swallow if you are a parent and you're estranged from your kids. But if you want to have any say in how your relationships go with your children in the future you'd be wise to pay attention, and suspend your instinct to defend yourself and fire back with an attack--and..... LISTEN. I'm truly wanting to help you here. (Trigger warning) Watch the video to learn more. Up...

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month) Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds,...

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month) Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds,...

Sexual boundaries, Time boundaries, Space boundaries.... You might not know what your boundaries are, but you can definitely feel when they are violated. You hear a lot about boundaries when we're talking about Trauma. What you don't hear is why boundaries might be difficult for you. On today's transmission I discuss what healthy boundaries look like and how to solve this dilemma... When you get t...

I've just discovered that the way we are approaching Anti-Racism is incomplete. If you're reading this, chances are you're a covert racist and you don't even know it. Today's discussion will definitely trigger you. Pay attention to how you feel inside when you're listening to this message. Focus here is HEALING (which involves discomfort). Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Ev...

When You Get Attacked Socially (or on Social Media....)  What to remember to "Triggerproof" yourself before Responding... Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships Upcoming Ov...

Tensions are high. People are stressed. It seems everywhere you look there's a fight going on. In this transmission I will share with you the ONE THING to consider as TOP priority as you're considering the battle. Not getting this straight with yourself will impact your health and safety. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive r...

In today's transmission I share a problem one of our clients reached out to me to help solve-- it's about a situation where she is faced with a constraint-- a behavior in someone she cares about that she has no control over but triggers her. I wanted to share the response with you so that if you find yourself in a situation where you can't change, you will know exactly what to do. Without masterin...

On this transmission -- the last of this series-- I share a MAJOR sign you're acting unconsciously from a wound: Emotional Addictions. I explain what they are.... how to spot if you are in one, what to do about it. Also-- Chronic Illness is involved. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, a...

This is the most common complaint I get (mainly from women) which the solution has the most controversy.  Sign #6 that you're unconsciously acting from a wound: ATTRACTING NARCISSISTIC PARTNERS WHO TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT. When you play the victim card on this one, you miss out on the opportunity to heal, grow, and create a partnership based on mutuality. Bear with me here-- and allow me to explain. U...

(Trigger Warning) On this transmission I share something that will definitely bring up some challenging feelings. You might want to throw up, or run away and hide. You might want to yell and scream at me. If you are able to work past some of your triggers and listen, I'll share 2 more signs you're unconsciously acting from a wound. THIS IS NOT ABOUT BLAMING THE VICTIM. This is conversation has onl...

Any time you're REACTIVE, you're acting out of a wound.  And you likely are unaware of it. In today's transmission I continue part 4 of the conversation and share 2 more ways you unconsciously sabotage your relationships, break down your Nervous system, and worst of all-- pass down the unconscious behavior to your children.  When you finally get this right, you wake up one day and your relationshi...

In today's Transmission, I go over 2 unconscious patterns common in those who are operating from a wounded place. Hint: It can show up at WORK or at HOME, and it impacts the kids. Without shining the light on it, no relationship can ever be healthy as your behavior is driven from a place of "protection and fear" rather than authentic love, healthy interdependence, and a place of secure attachment....

Whether you're aware of it or not, the outer world you're seeing is a reflection of what's inside. Your Nervous System gets triggered and this activation causes behavior you're not even aware of. It happens automatically. On this 2nd post about this topic, I share with you exactly how you can tell you're acting unconsciously from a wound. Without realizing, this is causing repeated patterns and to...

(from someone who has no business giving parenting advice) - How to help your kids during this time. Also-- More about Secure attachments... ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same a...

Time and time again we see patterns of what happens when you are raised with specific certain attachment wounds. Without addressing some of these unconscious behaviors coming from having a mother who is critical, we then pass it along to the children. And no amount of will power stops what's already in your body... On today's Live I share 5 behavioral impacts of having a critical mother. See if yo...

On today's transmission I share something that MIGHT offend you if you've been dealing with a Chronic Illness. Often I speak publicly about this --someone gets upset and thinks I'm blaming them. Without looking behind this hidden spot, you're missing out on an opportunity to heal (If that's TRULY what you're seeking). This might offend some-- and if you wish to leave this group after, I'm OK with...

Immutable LAWS and Fundamentals to your healing: How do I know where I'm at with it? Where do I begin? "I've done so much work-- why am I still stuck?" Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create se...