Trigger Proof Transmissions

"I didn't have anything really bad happen to me.  I don't really know why I'm depressed.  I've been told it's a chemical imbalance." I just had a member of this community reach out to me in a state of sadness and despair because she said she's done so much "work" and read so many books but can't seem to let go of this constant feeling of depression.  Relationships in this space become challenging...

This will make you uncomfortable for more than one reason. 1) If you are a child with unresolved emotional wounding, notice what comes up for you in this transmission 2) If you are a parent who's holding onto guilt, notice what comes up for you. This conversation makes people wince and run.  It triggers people.  For good reason. This conversation isn't about blame or shame. It's about breaking cyc...

6 Signs you're finally healing.. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month) Dissolve your current relationship resentme...

In times of Crisis, how we show up (which version of us that is) will determine the outcome of our health, relationships and our business. This community is dedicated to the conversation of Nervous System Regulation. Simply by understanding how the NS functions under stress and in a state of balance, we can predict behaviour. Since crisis brings a state of threat, it challenges us to choose which...

You can't go 10 minutes without someone talking about Self Love. What the hell is it? Why is it so hard? On today's transmission I give you 11 reasons why it's so hard to love yourself, and the mountain to climb if you want to heal your chronic pains, build strong relationships and feel inspired in your career. Not addressing this will be missing the root cause and will end up creating health chal...

Rich in Business, Poor in Relationships Powerful at work, Insecure at home Just got off a training with a group of successful men and women with the same problem: Even though they look great on paper, and they "work on themselves" they were wondering why it was that they couldn't seem to find a solid home base with relationships? On today's transmission I share with you what a secure relationship...

If you are finding yourself stuck in the same pattern in your relationship... Waiting to be chosen, Constantly wondering why they don't feel available to you, Co-dependent and needy... Feeling they keep pulling away, Not committing.... and you end up feeling lonely, even when you're in a relationship, AGAIN AND AGAIN... The reason why might surprise you. It's likely not because you're "attracting"...

Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month) Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds,...

In today's transmission I respond to some of the common criticisms I hear of this type of healing work. Please note-- this conversation is only about 1 THING:  Healing-- and the things we unconsciously do to BLOCK healing. Getting this right changes your health and well being into the positive direction.  Relationships can only flourish when we understand THIS. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY...

No matter what your attachment style is, there's a deep core wound that unconsciously drives your behavior and causes you to show up needy, or pushing intimacy away. In today's transmission will unravel some blind spots when it comes to relationship conflict dynamics you must learn about if you want to create a secure relationship. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every mont...

When I asked a new member of the Triggerproof Community what she wanted help with, she said: "I want to know how to break my pattern of attracting abusive men." At first, I didn't want to do this video. After all, we talk about relationships a lot in this community.  And most people in their 30's and 40's will have a list of toxic relationship stories they're still haunted by and not even aware. ...

"Why can't I let go of these thoughts?" "Why can't I ask for what I need in a relationship?  Why do I keep pleasing?" "Why can't I let go of Toxic Patterns?" "How can I love a daughter who's a Narcissist behaving in horrible ways?" I asked you to share some questions in this community--- I am going to sum all of this up on todays TriggerProof Transmission. By not owning this--we end up feeling lik...

No one needs to tell you what needs to be done. Your Rational mind "knows": - That person is no good for you - You have to make a decision sometime - You need to "let go" of something. But there's something stopping you that you are unaware of. Without crossing this one specific barrier, we are forever repeating our stuck patterns in our relationships. Our triggers run our lives and stop us from c...

WHY THERE ARE SO MANY NARCISSISTS The answer might trigger you. On today's transmission I take the time to answer some of your concerns from a recent fb thread: - let go of blame and resentment - How to handle a partner who can’t communicate and who shuts down - Why Narcissism occurs - Why you can’t find a meaningful relationship - Coping with being Raised by a Narcissist - Fear of abandonment - A...

Meet Dominic. He taught me something profound. It will make a difference for you too. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Eve...

Can't get your ex off your mind? You might KNOW they weren't good for you, but if you haven't resolved the open loops in that previous relationship, it makes a healthy relationship in the "now" virtually impossible. On today's transmission, I share what it is you need to do to actually move on so you can create the foundation for a new solid connection. Without these 2 steps, a new healthy attachm...

Just had a question from someone in the Triggerproof Facebook group that was so good I had to make a video. Please remember all you need to do is ask me a question and you might just get a video response. I'm here for you! -------- "Nima--- I have watched your video on having a critical mother, which I was raised with. A screamer. Very subjective. Extremely volatile. I’m now seeing these patterns...

Most of the time we hear about toxic and co-dependent relationships and the horror stories surrounding them. It’s not often you hear about what a Secure Attachment feels like. How can we create it if we don't know what that actually feels like and have had zero guidance on this? In today’s transmission, I share what we can aim for as we climb up the mountain towards creating and maintaining secure...

In today's Triggerproof Transmission I answer some specific questions from community members:- -How do I reconnect with my pregnant fiance? We are disconnected. - What can I do when I've triggered someone and brought up past wounds? - When is a relationship worth saving? - How Can I stop feeling guilty? Prepare for some tough love here with these questions, apologies in advance- - I'm not in the m...

Question from A member in this community: "In the eagerness to fix-help other people with their issues, does this cause one to absorb their stuff? I know probably unworthiness, guilt, perfectionist, abandonment- Emptiness leads to try to help others, I maybe wrong. I just wonder an an empath fits into this?" In today's transmission I will trigger the F*** out of you if you're an empath and share s...

Is my relationship "salvageable?" or should I leave this? So many people come to me with this question.  I lived it for 4 years.  The indecision was maddening.  I then figured out the answer. It seems controversial, but I'd love to explain how to solve this riddle if you're divorced, or separated, considering separation... There are some considerations before leaving. Not doing what I'm about to s...

Just had a question from a member of this community who is caring for a mother with dementia who needs her for care, but at the same time cuts her off if the conversation gets too heated. Here's what she wrote: "One of my triggers I need to work on is not feeling like a 12-year-old child when my mom‘s tone of voice changes. I am her only caregiver as she has Dementia. When her paranoia sets in and...

Endings can be painful... So can having a mother who is constantly on your case about something.  And family drama (sister in law conflict causing dissociation of brother from the family) On today's transmission I answer these 3 questions from the community: "I am experiencing symptoms of broken heart syndrome" "I am constantly disappointing my mother." Also "My brother has disconnected from the f...

Just posted a question "How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?" and the answers didn't surprise me, but something else actually did. It's a blind spot for most. Without solving this-- we keep attracting similar relationship patterns, and perpetuating the cycles of trauma, and we unconsciously pass it along to our children. When you get this right-- all relationships can become n...

Everyone wants to feel safe in their relationships and connected to their confidence and mojo. Life is scary alone-- and much more enjoyable when we are surrounded by love and acceptance. But chances are, your stories aren't helping you achieve that. In fact, I don't mean to be rude, but... Nobody cares much for your stories. From what I've observed in my own life and in helping others--- our stor...