Trauma Free Relationship

In this episode we discuss the avoidant attachment style. This style is characterized by low anxiety and high avoidance during times of stress or conflict. Avoidant attachment is an adaptation to inconsistent, rejection, or unavailable caretakers during childhood. The avoidant values independence, is able to self-soothe, and be their own best friend. In addition, we discuss the following areas of...

In this episode we discuss the anxious attachment style and what it means for you and your relationship. Anxious attachment is defined by high anxiety and low avoidance. Meaning that a person with anxious attachment tends to ruminate or be preoccupied about the relationship and whether or not the partner can provide the closeness they desire. We also discuss the five areas of a relationship which...

In this episode I discuss the importance of empathic attunement and how it builds trust and resilience within the relationship and between partners. Empathic attunement is the ability to feel your way into your partners life so that they "feel felt", and to understand things from their perspective. We discuss the elements that make up empathic attunement and why it is so important in the...

In this video Tom discusses the importance of recognizing your trauma triggers so you can anticipate them and process them. This also allows you to communicate your triggers with your partner, so they can respond with compassion. Tom Philp is a licensed professional counselor in Oklahoma who specializes in couples therapy. To hear more from Tom and engage in the next steps towards a trauma-free re...

In this video Tom discusses trauma cycles and how they present in relationship. He shares three tools to help couples identify and interrupt their cycle to reach repairs. Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships: traumafreerelationship.com Tom Philp is a licensed professional counselor in Oklahoma who specializes in couples therapy. To hear more from...

In this video Tom Philp addresses the common questions he hears from couples during counseling sessions. Can our relationship be saved? How can I forgive my partner for the past? How can we improve our communication? Will my partner ever change? Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships: traumafreerelationship.com Tom Philp is a licensed professional...

In this video, Tom explains four traumatic growth tools including: empathy, self-reflection, practicing gratitude, and meaningful connections with others. Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships: traumafreerelationship.com Tom Philp is a licensed professional counselor in Oklahoma who specializes in couples therapy. To hear more from Tom and engage...

In this episode, Tom explains attachment trauma and how it looks in relationships. Tom discusses safe havens, secure bases, and attachment injuries. Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships: traumafreerelationship.com Tom Philp is a licensed professional counselor in Oklahoma who specializes in couples therapy. To hear more from Tom and engage in the...

In this video, Tom explains anger and influence it can have on your relationship. Anger can serve a protest or a protective function. Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships: traumafreerelationship.com Tom Philp is a licensed professional counselor in Oklahoma who specializes in couples therapy. To hear more from Tom and engage in the next steps tow...

In this video, Tom explains four ways to ruin your relationship, even if you don't mean to. Defensiveness, criticism, contempt, and stonewalling all can harm your relationship. Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships: traumafreerelationship.com Tom Philp is a licensed professional counselor in Oklahoma who specializes in couples therapy. To hear...

In this episode Tom Philp explains an equation that can help couples connect and attune to each other. If couples are vulnerable with each other and remove their self protections, they can feel an increased sense of connection. Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships: traumafreerelationship.com Tom Philp is a licensed professional counselor in Oklah...

In this episode Tom Philp explains six signs of unresolved trauma and the ways they may present in relationships. The six signs include hypervigilance, lack of trust, physical symptoms, triggers, disassociation and shame. Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships: traumafreerelationship.com Tom Philp is a licensed professional counselor in Oklahoma wh...

In this episode Tom Philp explains attachment theory and the way that early experiences can impact your relationship. Additionally, major contributions of theorists in the field are featured and evaluated. Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships: traumafreerelationship.com Tom Philp is a licensed professional counselor in Oklahoma who specializes in...

In this episode we explore the history and research of trauma as it pertains to relationships. Prominent figures and leaders in the field are mentioned to describe their contribution to trauma research. Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships:  traumafreerelationship.com Tom Philp is a licensed professional counselor in Oklahoma who specializes in c...

In this episode we provide a definition of trauma as it relates to our overall goal of helping couples learning and work through their traumatic relationship with one another. We also detail the different types of trauma including, complex, chronic, and acute, and we talk about the differences between PTSD and post-traumatic reactions. Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is im...

Trauma can impact your relationships in five major ways: trust, closeness, sexuality, emotion regulation and communication. Understanding how trauma influences these areas of your life together can help you learn ways to improve your relationship.  Take the Trauma-Free Relationship Quiz to see how trauma is impacting your relationships: traumafreerelationship.com Tom Philp is a licensed profession...

In this episode I walk you through a progressive relaxation technique to help you learn to relax and to learn where you hold stress in your body. This is a good tool when working through past or current trauma that reduces the fight or flight triggers and connects your mind and body better.