Tough Discussions

The volume of philosophies, modalities, and general advice from gurus, influencers, academics and self-proclaimed philosophers out there is enough to drive anyone insane. If you're struggling to save your sanity while focusing on your mental health, this episode is for you. Understand the difference between understanding versus coping, or intervention versus growth. Understand what fuels your emot...

When we become defined by the experiences that overwhelmed us, we become defined as victims. And victims make the worst oppressors. It is the victim that imposes obligations on one who had nothing to do with their past experiences. Victims need others to create space, be sensitive, tip toe around their triggers, reassure repeatedly, and so on without realising how onerous that becomes for those ar...

The first hurdle you will face in rising above this is succumbing to the belief that you’re suffering from it. The moment you frame it as something that you’re suffering from, it becomes an external ‘attack’ that you believe you need to fend off. That puts you in defence mode, rather than claiming your agency in dealing with it. There are no negative emotions. And these three emotional experiences...

As with all problems in life, solutions only become visible or reachable when we understand the problem well enough. Unfortunately, mainstream wisdom drives us to seek tools and methods, instead of understanding when it comes to our emotional duress, or our life goals. Understand what drives your aversion to getting started on that dream goal, or why it is that you are restrained in a space that y...

The way to overcome a traumatic experience is not to learn coping mechanisms, adopt new tools, or to simply try to create a life worth living. Overcoming trauma is more likely to be achieved if we understand what we took from the experience. What we believed to be true about ourselves and how we think life worked beyond that experience. These take-aways define our approach to life, love, and relat...

Confusing confidence with self-worth or self-esteem can be disastrous. If you're choosing a life partner, or you're parenting a troubled teen, understanding the difference improves your chances of creating a life of joy and fulfilment, instead of a life of struggle. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit coachzaidis...

At which point did you lose your innocence in life? No, not your physical or sexual innocence, your innocence of intent or purpose. When did life first become complicated? It's got nothing to do with reparenting or healing your inner child and more to do with how your current sense of self is how you perceived some defining moments in your childhood, or even later in life. It’s the defining moment...

Episode 001 of my new podcast series questions the mainstream narrative that we have grown to accept as the answer to understanding human nature. If mainstream mental health offered a beneficial understanding of the human experience, why are we experiencing a worsening mental health crisis globally? Why is every second person deemed narcissistic or toxic? Why are so many prone to playing victim wh...