To All the Men I've Tolerated Before

Unemployment Broke my Brain: Natalie has her friend Trina Ross come on and talk about their experiences with unemployment. While their unemployment came in different ways, Natalie due to a pandemic and Trina due to unfair supervisors, the result was very similar. The two women have no interest working 9-5’s with the same values and lack of boundaries they experienced before they were unemployed. N...

Natalie had the pleasure of talking to Isabel Firecracker about her choice to be childfree. Isabel is the founder of Uprising Spark which allows Isabel to coach women into being proud, shamefree, and guiltless about the choice to be childfree. Natalie went completely honest about the recent revelation of how she has chosen to remain childfree and why that is the right choice for her. Isabele durin...

This week, Natalie is joined by one of her fairly new friends, Sarah Kate. The women will discuss how their ideals on relationships have changed since the COVID-19 Pandemic. For Sarah Kate, she found an assertiveness to her personality and now has a “this is how it is, I don’t care what you think it is” mindset. For Natalie, she needed to verbally process how odd it is to go back into a society an...

Women and Wrestling: Natalie is getting to explore the world of women’s wrestling with guest Darcie Darko on this week’s episode of To All the Men I’ve Tolerated Before! Darcie will get you pumped up about the pageantry and flair that comes with being a woman wrestler. Then, the two women will get into how Darcie was made to feel uncomfortable for wanting to be a wrestler and how it eventually led...

Natalie is joined by Mireya Lopez, host of Mothering Anxiety. The two women are going to get real about their musings of the movie Encanto and how it forced them to confront their generational trauma. Each character of Encanto represented a different behavior they exhibited, an identity projected onto them, or a strong emotion they still carry. The result is a beautiful conversation of how generat...

This week, Natalie has her good friend, Mimi Duncan, on the podcast to talk about writing her first romance novel! Mimi delves into what she learned about the writing process and bringing attention to female sexuality by writing Jailbait. Her and Natalie discuss what leads to romance not being a respected genre and how everyone can benefit from some smutty reading. They also talk working in a sex...

This week, Natalie and Dina are joined by Lisa Pearson. She walks the hosts through her story about how one intense breakup led her to writing her first book, A Victim's X Survivor's Diary Book of Poetry. Lisa was brave enough to turn her experiences with PTSD, childhood trauma, and tolerating men into an entire work of poetry. The women discuss creativity as a means to heal and what it means to w...

You’ll recognize the guests joining Natalie and Dina this week! Amber was the guest for Running a Small Business and a Household and Stephanie was the guest for Mothering During a Pandemic. What do they have in common? They’re moms and they are doing it all but still feel like they’re doing it wrong. Listen to Amber and Stephanie educate Natalie and Dina on why moms are in this constant mindset of...

This week Natalie and Dina are joined by host and producer of The Slut Show, Ellen Moore! Ellen will be helping them walk through all the ways we can break down barriers when it comes to our partners and our sex toys. All three women will share their experiences of using toys in the bedroom with partners and why it can be such an awesome or stressful experience. Why is there such a stigma against...

This week, Natalie and Dina are exploring a new way to love their bodies, making them art! They are joined by Chicagoland artist Annie Sieg. Natalie met Annie through TikTok when she fell in love with the creaminess and lushness she paints plus sized bodies in the nude. The three women talk about everything from body positivity, posing in the nude, and how to make friends on TikTok. Natalie even s...

Natalie and Dina are joined this week by Liz and Brittany, hosts of The Mother Cluckers. Your city girl hosts get some information on why Liz and Brittany have chosen to learn more about homesteading and the strength it takes to do a little farm living. They also dive into the guests’ military backgrounds and discuss how women are treated while serving our country. From goats and bees to sexual ha...

This week, Natalie and Dina trade romantic comedy tropes they wish would happen to them in their real lives. Are they into an enemy to lovers subplot? A thrown together under unlikely circumstances? For Natalie, this was a chance for her to connect with her inner dreamer again and approach life as a place where fantasies can happen. Dina connects with some comedies with interesting premises! What...

This week, Natalie and Dina are joined by JD and Ghost from the podcast Goin’ Hollywood! JD and Ghost will share their movie crushes and talk about how the media affected their viewpoints on relationships and women. One of the biggest takeaways from this episode is that it takes conversations in a safe environment about how all genders are treated by society to really influence change. How did the...

After an intense deep dive of the work environments they’ve been working in, Nat and Dina decide to celebrate the men who have acted as support systems within those systems. For Natalie, she reflects on how important it was for her to have people within her work environment who could validate her experiences and help her see through the gaslighting. Dina discusses the one man who gave her hope in...

Natalie and Dina are tackling behaviors they’ve had to tolerate in the workplace! They will each share about a boss that has affected their careers and describe instances where their office environment was unhealthy. The two friends can agree that current work cultures need to go by the wayside and that women need to be heard more in the workplace. For Natalie, she reflects on a job where she had...

This week, Natalie and Dina are discussing horror movies with Caitlin Grant, host of Plug It Up. Plug It Up is a podcast where Caitlin explores feminine representation in horror with a focus on monstrous menstruation and monstrous motherhood. The trio discusses representation in horror, gatekeeping, and the strength behind these tropes.. Go on a deep dive on the scary, the feminist, and the disapp...

This week, Natalie and Dina are sharing their behaviors they know were ploys for attention. Natalie reflects on the double edged sword of wanting attention but not feeling like you’re deserving of it. She also comes to terms with how her shame centering around positive attention created some boundary and communication issues. Dina recalls her online relationships where she looked for a dopamine ru...

This week, Natalie and Dina are delving into interesting ways they’ve met men through the internet before dating apps. Natalie shares some of the shadier ways she interacted with men through online forums. She now believes that AIM and other platforms have given her a foundation to crave true connection in the real world and to stop fantasizing about how someone presents themself online. Dina reca...

This week on To All the Men I’ve Tolerated Before, Natalie and Dina give the Tolerators some insight on their body image and what influenced their relationships with their bodies. For Natalie, she reflects on toeing the line between body positivity, maybe just not giving a shit anymore, and masking the insecurities she might still have with her body. At the end of the day, she’s trying to take the...

This week on a very special episode of TATMITB, Nat and Dina are joined by Amber Mendenhall, historical costumer and co-host of Costumoms! Amber is a dear friend of the pod and she will be discussing all the ins and outs of juggling motherhood, a husband. costuming, and running a business. Amber urges the men in the world to help carry the load for women so they can live up to their potential and...

This week, Natalie and Dina are getting hyped talking about the best dates they’ve ever been on! You’ll even end up with a few tips on what makes a great date in their expert opinions. Natalie talks about a date that had great chemistry and how proud she is of herself when she allows herself to be authentic and spontaneous. Dina talks about her frolic at a Japanese market and what makes a great da...

This week, Natalie and Dina remember the dates that almost had them giving up on romance. Natalie shares about a date that went from awkward to strange all within 30 minutes. Her biggest lesson being that she can be honest and upfront about when things aren’t going well and get the hell out of a situation! Dina talks about a date where her boundaries were challenged and violated. Join the friends...

Natalie and Dina are trying to relate to men who love sports this week. They’ll discuss the ways they can and cannot get on board with while cheering over a sports team. Natalie delves into a time when sports were prioritized over her emotional health. But she also comes to the realization that it might be okay to fake it a little bit when someone is jazzed about a game. Dina finds a sports dude w...

Natalie and Dina trade off the bloopers they experienced after entering a sexual relationship with a man. They’ll chat about the hilarious and sometimes very awkward behaviors they’ve experienced inside the bedroom. Natalie’s biggest lesson from her funniest, sexy times is that she enjoys a good spectacle in bed but really gets her kicks when she’s allowed to be bratty and in a battle of wills wit...

Natalie and Dina are getting down to the bottom of what it means to be in the “friendzone”. For Natalie, she reflects on being in the friendzone for six years before a chance at romance arose. Now, she’s looking for relationships rooted in good friendship and chemistry. Dina relives her 2020 casual nightmare. Do you still feel the sting from the first time you were friendzoned? Or should you have...