Through My Looking Glass

We have to love ourselves and know that if anyone say they love you, that is a second or third. It should now make or break us. We do not have to say now we are loved because we already love ourselves.

Some of the things we must remember is,     1. We are somebody 2.    We are important 3.    We are not defined by the negative ways other define us

Is the holiday stress we are putting on ourselves worth it? How is it worth it? Most important, will we recover.  

As we go through live some people get joy in telling other things like, You too black. You are fat. You do not dress right You not good enough. You will never turn out to be anything. No one will ever love someone like you. You are not the right type. You do not know how to do that.

We all have two things in common. We are born and we die. Somewhere between birth and death we all feel pain. Some of us feel more pain than other. Some of our closest family and friends can cause us more physical and psychological pain than they should. Pain hurts no matter what kind. We need to give ourself some self-love. Giving ourself self-love can help us to see the warning sings. See thing...

Loving yourself is important in everyday life. it makes us heather. We learn to have less expectation of others. What are some of your reasons for loving yourself?.

The first step to a good mental health is to be honest with ourselves about what we are feeling and what you are looking to change. Every day, we will likely face something that is out of your control. Our well-being shapes how we engage with it and how well we come out on the other side.  Take it day by day and we should always give ourselfsoe self love.

Weather we are an abuser, a victim, or a survivor, we all need self-love, and we all need support.

According to the CDC, 124 people die from gun violence every day and even more sustain non-fatal injuries. From my experiences it is that invisible monster that exist in all of us. From a young age. If we do not learn to control it, it will control us. The sad thing is this monster are born  when we are at our weakest point.  I believe it exist in all of us

According to the CDC: Over 1 in 10 youth in the U.S. are experiencing depression that is severely impairing their ability to function at school or work, at home, with family, or in  their social life. 16.39% of youth (age 12-17) report suffering from at least one major depressive episode (MDE) in the past year. 11.5% of youth (over 2.7 million youth) are experiencing severe major depression.

Blach History Month is a time to take a deeper look into ourselves. what are we and what can we do to make this world a better place for the next generation.  why is it that we treat each other better than other race treats us. we are all one. we need to love each other.

Self-love should be our most import responsibility.  It is through self love will we see the things around us that is holding us down. Are we doing too much for other and not taking care of ourself.  Is our mental help suffering?

People no matter how close you are to them will disappoint you. It is for us to be prepare that it happens. It is part of life, but it should not be. We need to be responsible for ourselves. We are in control of ourselves. 

This upcoming holiday. It is one of the most dangerous times of the year for victim and survivors. Over 97,700 died from overdose mostly accidently. Opioids are a factor in 7 out of every 10 or 72% of those overdose deaths. Many commits suicide this time of the year than any other time.  By making positive choices, we will make it through the rest of the holiday and after. We should congratul...

So lets think, if we have family, mother, father, sister, brother, children, etc.  All they need is to know we love them and will spend time with them. Love and time is worth more than gold. I recall the old days when we would give handmade gifts. Calling a person who is lonely once a week is worth more than trying to fine money to give that person a onetime twenty-dollar gift. This is a time...

Surviving the holiday can be a challenge.  we need to figure out what to do  to keep ourself in a positive mode. Lets enjoy the holiday by first give ourselves some self-love.  pay attention to the tings and people that can cause a trigger.  Is it not going to parties? Is it not being around certain people or going to certain places  Is it not eating certain food Do you kn...

This week part four is based on doing a self-evaluation using The Work Preference Inventory. It is taken from the Journal of Personality and Social psychology.  In doing this evaluation I found myself looking at myself in ways I have not before. I am making better choices. I found things I need to work on and things I am very proud of myself about.  Please join me in taking this. You wil...

Come join me for in doing part three of a self-evaluation. This week I took thirteen questions from the Desirability of Control scale. It was developed to measure individual differences in the level of motivation to control the event in one life. It is always good to evaluate ourself. In doing this self evaluation we need to think about ourself only.  As victims and survivors we sometime forg...

 Doing this self-evaluation has helped me to be more positive about me. I have finding things i need to work on for me and things to let go.  Being a survivor, domestic violence is always something i raise my voice about. October is domestic violence awareness month lets all raise our voices and support.  According to the NNEDV "Domestic violence thrives when we are silent. 1 in 7 w...

As Victims and survivors, we often think the worst of ourselves. Over the next four weeks, I will ask you to join me in doing a self-Evaluation.  This week I will do the "Fear of Negative Evaluation Scale. (This was taken from the Journal of Consulting Clinical Psychology)  Come join me next week. I will be doing the "Need Assessment Questionnaire"  It contain statements that may de...

According to the 2019 NSDUH, 14.5 million (nearly 15 million) people ages 12 and older7 (5.3 percent of this age group8) had AUD. This number includes 9.0 million men7 (6.8 percent of men in this age group8) and 5.5 million women7 (3.9 percent of women in this age group8  Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD) affect millions of people. We have to question how and why it gets to the point where the Alcoh...

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is now: 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline 988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code that will route callers to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. While some areas may be currently able to connect to the Lifeline by dialing 988, this dialing code will be available to everyone across the United States starting on July 16, 2022. LEARN MO...

As victims and survivors, we want to be safe and healthy. How many times have we said, "if I could do that again I would do it differently". That is reflection.  Lets use our reflection to make better choices. what would you change. 

There is good in that person that smiles and says hello to you when the last fifty people passed you and look down on you. The person that listens to you when you need to just talk. As victim and survivors, we need all the positivity we can get. All the choices we make no matter how small can make or break us. We also can make positive choices that will change someone's life. Be that person.

We are all sure of two things. one is birth and the other is death. Whatever comes between we are all in some way leave our mark in life. August 24 was my son Omarie's Birthday. He left his mark. Lots of people took time out to say happy birthday to him. The crazy thing is it was my birthday as well. we have shared a birthday for forty-two years. This would have been forth three. Happy birthday my...