Thriving After Trauma

The biggest reason trauma survivors don’t go after their big dreams is because of the fear of “What if it doesn’t work?”  But it’s deeper than that, because what if it doesn’t work has so many more layers. Tune in to this weeks episode to learn more.  Here’s the practice to move through your fear of “What if it doesn’t work?” In what ways am I comfortable in life right now?  What is my big vision?...

I’ve shared my personal journey, my trauma, my wobbly moments and everything in between.  But as I was sitting on the plane coming home from my Bali wedding - I want to say honeymoon, but let’s be real - a honeymoon to me does not involve children haha - when I realised, I’ve never really shared my journey to becoming a coach, or why I chose to.  It wasn’t an overnight decision.  It wasn’t an over...

Coming in with another Q&A this week, where I was asked a series of questions about dealing with narcissistic parents and family members, while also navigating parenthood at the same time.  These are deep and complex questions, and while I am not an expert, have shared my thoughts the best I can.  I know this episode will be helpful in some way.  Connect with me:  Download the Autopilot as a T...

Recently I was asked these 3 questions. They were so good that I wanted to create a separate episode for them, so here it is.  The questions were:  ~ Any tips for those who don't quite feel aligned in life, happy but perhaps missing a sense of purpose?  ~ Is it common to not feel like you have reached your final destination, like there is so much more to life, yet to find, to explore and enga...

200 episodes! I / we did it.  This week, my incredible friend Tahryn Bolt took over the mic and interviewed me to ask me questions about my podcast, business, life and so much more.  We share my evolution over the last 5 years.  We share tears.. A number of times.  But most of all, we sit down and reflect on how incredibly meaningful this podcast is to me, what I have learnt, how I’ve grown and wh...

I turned 40 on the weekend - not sure how that happened..  But as a way of celebrating me and my time on earth, I sat down and recorded 40 lessons I’ve learned in 40 years.  They’re in no particular order, but to get an insight into me, this is certainly a great ep to listen to. Connect with me:  Download the Autopilot as a Trauma Response Guide Register for my Free Masterclass: Stop Living on Aut...

In this incredible episode I am interviewing the incredible Pania Langley.  Pania joined me to share her story of how her upbringing shaped her earlier life and decisions, how she became addicted to drugs - but created a story to feel ‘better than others’ - and what the turning moment for her was that led to her changing her life.  Pania Langley is a life coach, energetic healer, and the founder o...

Whether it’s who you are now, or who you want to be… if you’re still living and showing up as your old version of yourself, you’re fucking yourself up and making life so much harder.  Tune in to this episode as I breakdown what I mean and how to upgrade your identity.  ACTIVITY:  Grab a sheet of paper and make 4 columns. Who am I now? What identity am I living through? Where is the misalignment? W...

What happens to our sense of worth when we experience trauma? Particularly trauma that attacks who we are as a person…  Bullying DV SA Stalking Being told we aren’t good enough as a child In this episode I explain what it looks like to: Downplaying your worth and knowledge Downplaying your lived experiences Journal Prompts:  Where are you downplaying your worth and your experience?  Where are you...

Fitting in is a trauma response.  Becoming a chameleon, people pleaser, the grey man… It’s all a normal response to experiencing trauma, because it keeps you safe.  The challenge comes when you start healing, have a different vision and want to do more with your life and you fitting in becomes uncomfortable, annoying and frustrating.  Then what do you do?  In this episode I break down why fitting...

Parenting is such an incredible experience, and it can also be bloody hard, and with social media experts telling and promoting what is ‘right’ and ‘wrong’, it’s not surprising that some of us, me included, sometimes feel shame when we don’t do things perfectly or how we would like.  There is great power in being able to have open, honest and vulnerable conversations in a safe, non-judgemental env...

Anyone who has experienced trauma, or anyone who is human, will have periods of overwhelm, stress and burnout. Parenting adds another dimension to that.  Something else that we all experience in life is conflict. With ourselves, with partners, kids and friends. While there are a bunch of things you can do to help minimise it, there is one thing that I believe to be the most powerful tool.  This ep...

Parenting is a ride! Parenting with trauma… that’s next level.  With the amount of scrutiny, experts and keyboard warriors out there, it’s no wonder we question ourselves and whether we’re doing it ‘right’.  In this episode I’m sharing my experiences with parenting, and some vulnerable truths…  A few weeks ago I had a very clear download come in… “Create a space for parents with trauma. To talk, c...

This week I had the privilege of sitting down with Bec Sands where she openly and for the first time, shares her story and experience with medical trauma, anxiety and how she had to come to terms with life being different than she imagined.  TW: We discuss conception challenges and medical trauma, so please listen with care.  Bec Sands is a PR Consultant and Visibility Coach who works with change...

We won an award!!! This podcast just won Podcast of the Year at the annual Beautiful You Coaching Academy awards.  In this episode I’m celebrating what that means, reflecting on how this podcast started and what I have learnt along the way.  Thank you for being here.  Thank you for listening.  Please keep sharing these episodes so we can connect with more people!  Connect with me:  Download the Au...

This week I sat down with one of my long term clients Elie, who is also in the current round of Visionaries, to chat about what her life looked like before we started working together, what shifted and changed throughout our journey and where she’s at now.  In her words “I have more progress working with you, and listening to your podcast, than I did in the prior 15 years of work I’d done. There’s...

I’ve been talking about Visionaries for a while now - and I thought, rather than me telling you about it, what better way for you to see if it’s the right space for you than to take you behind the scenes of why I created it, what happens inside, who it’s for and what to expect.  So come on over for some laughs and some tears - because this program and this work means the world to me!  Apply for VI...

Once upon a time I thought being ‘healed’ meant that I was thriving.  Then I got to a place where I felt healed, but I certainly didn’t feel like I’m thriving.  In this episode I expand on the differences between healing and thriving, so you can understand where you might be holding yourself back, and what you need to move forward.  I am also SUPER excited to share that I am now inviting people in...

In this incredible episode I had the honour of sitting down with one of my long term clients Kate.  Kate and I connected after she was about to unsubscribe to my emails, only to join one of my free masterclasses, and go on to work with me for over 3 years.  In this episode we chat about how Kate wasn’t actually looking for coaching, but how trauma coaching has supported her through the hardest sea...

In this episode I’m breaking down 5 ways you might be avoiding yourself, your needs and what’s actually going on beneath the surface, but staying on autopilot.  They are powerful realisations and might give you a few ‘aha’ moments!  Download your FREE ‘Autopilot as a Trauma Response’ guide:  https://jacirogash.kit.com/autopilot Register for my Free Masterclass: jacirogash.com/autopilot-masterclass...

Trauma responses sometimes get a bad wrap. Sometimes we judge ourselves for having them, downplay why we have them or simply put our heads in the sand to ignore them.  In this episode I’m breaking down different types of trauma responses and showing you how 5 people could experience the same situation and respond differently.  I also get really vulnerable about one of my trauma responses.  Downloa...

We fixate on what’s not right because our brains love to fix problems.  It can also be a trauma response.  In this episode I chat through why you fixate on problems and what I used to do.  Here are some things you can do to ensure you don’t spiral…  Focus on what’s in your control. As I said. You might write a list of what you’re going to do. Have a plan - and if it’s anything outside of that, do...

I used to think I was resilient. I mean, I’d survived a lot of trauma… but I was detached.  Often we think of resilience as being strong, dependable, reliable, unemotional… and I used to think the same, until I realised what resilience actually is.  Tune in here to see if you’re building resilience or creating avoidance and detachment.  If you’re ready to embrace, claim and go after your vision wh...

There’s a trend I’m seeing that if I’m honest - is frustrating me - actually, it kind of makes me angry.  Organisations and bosses are frothing it.  You’re feeling exhausted from it.  You may not even know it’s happening…  But I can tell you - your relationships, your joy, your fulfillment, your self-care, your self ownership - your health - is being negatively impacted by it.  We have come full c...

Welcome to Season 4 of Thriving After Trauma and the first episode for this year.  I’m kicking it off with an inside peak into my word for the year and why I’ve really been fighting against it.  I’d love to know if you have a word or intention for the year.  Connect with me:  Download the Autopilot as a Trauma Response Guide Register for my Free Masterclass: Stop Living on Autopilot & Start Li...