ThriveologyPodcast – Thriveology

You DON'T Have A Choice In What Life Sends Your Way. . . . If there is one thing clearly evident:  we do not have a choice in what life sends our way.  Sometimes, things happen.  Good things, bad things, in-between things.  “Stuff” happens. Sometimes, we have zero control over what happens.  Sometimes, we have some influence on what happens.  Sometimes, we have control.  But what about...

Immutable Laws of Life Series. When I look around, it seems that everything has a design, a purpose.  Trees have a design of making leaves and fruit.  When the design fails, the tree fails and dies. I believe humans have a design built in.  We are designed for making an impact.  The impact can be helpful or harmful.  We can […]

Immutable Laws of Living Series. Have you ever wondered whether your brain controlled your mind or your mind controlled your brain?  Here is the answer: YES. Your brain certainly affects your thinking. But your thinking affects your brain. . . and you can CHOOSE where your thoughts dwell. Brain chemistry is much more complicated.  And we know very little about […]

Immutable Laws of Living Series. How do you spend your time?  What an interesting phrase.  You are, whether you realize it or not, spending a commodity.  In fact, the most valuable commodity.  Because you can’t get it back.  You spend an hour on something.  That hour is gone.  Spend some money on an outfit, and you can make more money. […]

Immutable Laws of Living Series. Do you ever find yourself “lost in thought?”  I am willing to bet your thoughts are pulling to the past, the future, or an alternate past.  In other words, you are thinking about what happened (or you wish had happened) or about what might happen. But life is flying by right NOW.  And being lost […]

Immutable Laws of Living Series. Here’s a concept that trips up many people:  Forgiveness. Oh, sure, you know you should forgive.  But you just don’t know if that is the best idea.  Maybe you believe you just can’t forget what happened (myth:  “forgive and forget”).  Or maybe you don’t think that person deserves to be “let off the hook” (also [&#8230...

Immutable Laws of Living Series. Control.  We all want it.  We all try to have it. And yet, we usually try to control things we cannot control (like, say, other people).  At the same time, we often fail to control the things we can (like, say, ourselves!). Which tends to pretty much keep us spinning around.  Frustration and desperation come […]

Immutable Law of Living Series. Ever notice how much time and energy we spend (waste) struggling with “what is?” We want things to be different than they are.  We want things to have happened differently than they did. Yet here we are, and those things DID happen. And we still spend time and energy thinking about how things “should” be […]

Immutable Laws of Living Series. 100% All you. Your life is 100% your responsibility.  (Notice I did NOT say 100% your fault.  HUGE difference between fault and responsibility.) Your life and how it goes is YOUR responsibility.  That would be your “Ability to Respond.”  You get a choice in that. Many times, we like to pretend we don’t have choices, […]

Immutable Law Of Living Series. Fear is wired into our brain.  And there isn’t any way to unwire it! Which is probably for the best.  Sometimes, fear keeps you from doing something foolish.  It helps to keep you alive. But it can also keep you stuck. In many coaching sessions, I ask, “Why didn’t you do that very important thing […]

Immutable Laws of Living Series. Other than a few people who were being self-critical and a bit harsh with themselves, I have yet to have someone say, “You know, I am just not trying.  I am kinda sliding by, not really doing what I think I should.” Almost everyone (other than those few who were really just sharing their personal […]

Immutable Laws of Living Series. There is one constant in life:  Change.  It doesn’t matter if you hate change (most people) or love change (a few people — but usually, only when the change is going their way!).  The change happens. Watch the seasons of the year go by.  Summer just blew through.  Fall is, inescapably (at least north of […]

Immutable Laws of Living Series. You’ve probably heard the story about the group of blind men describing an elephant, all touching a different part of the elephant.  Not surprisingly, they all have a different view of what an elephant is. . . because they have a limited perspective. We ALL have a limited perspective.  We ALL only partly see reality […]

Immutable Laws Of Living Series. Pretty much all day, you are thinking.  That is built into our design.  We think, ponder, consider, worry over, dream about, and pretty much run everything through our thoughts. That isn’t really a problem.  Except when we forget we are thinking. When we forget we are thinking, we confuse those thoughts with reality.  And we […]

Immutable Laws of Living Series. OK, before you kick me to the curb and tell me you want to be happy, hear me out.  I don’t want you to be miserable.  But I also don’t think life is simply about being happy. In fact, that assumption is often what leads people to some pretty bad places of addiction, consumption, debt, […]

Immutable Law of Living Series. Last week, I discussed the fact that life isn’t fair.  That is the first immutable law of living.  Because when you struggle against it, trying to make life fair, you lose.  When you accept life isn’t fair, you shift.  Life isn’t about fairness. In fact, one of the reasons we believe life isn’t fair is […]

Immutable Laws of Living. If you follow my marriage podcast, you know I am in the midst of a series on the “Immutable Laws of Marriage.”  These “laws” are violated at the expense of the relationship.  There are also Immutable Laws of Living.  And this week, we start looking at those laws. No, you won’t be in legal trouble […]

Your Thriving Body Series. There is one reason I shared the Thriving Body Series:  so you can build a thriving body.  I have noticed that we live in a culture of body-shaming or body-ignoring.  We live in a world focused on “what you look like,” compared to some ideal created by media.  So, many people feel inadequate — leading […]

Your Thriving Body Series. “I’m so stressed out,” has become a very common refrain.  But what does that mean?  Have you paused for a moment to wonder, what is behind that idea? We all have moments of feeling a bit overwhelmed and frazzled.  We all have times when we react to some event.  Our body comes along for the […]

Your Thriving Body Series. Do you get the rest you (and your body) need?  Most people don’t. Research on sleep reveals that almost 50% of people say they do not get enough sleep. And your body takes a toll for this.  Slower healing, chronic disease, fuzzy thinking, physical decline, and even weight gain, all have been tied to a […]

Your Thriving Body Series. Two podcasts ago, I covered fueling your thriving body (how to eat to thrive). That raised some questions.  So this week, I answer your questions. Let’s talk some more about the best sources for energy when you are fueling that thriving body. And I can tell you some more of the reasons I have chosen […]

Your Thriving Body Series. We addressed how to fuel your thriving body (how to eat) last week.  That is a fundamental building block of a thriving body. But what about building that thriving body?  That is all about exercise. I look for the M.E.D. (Minimally Effective Dosage) of exercise.  What is the minimum you need to do, in order […]

Your Thriving Body Series. Last week, we started a new series, Your Thriving Body.  My focus is on how we build a thriving body.  Not a “beach body,” not a six-pack.  Not any particular body shape.  But a thriving body. We all have limits and limitations.  But how can we best live a thriving life, physically? This became important […]

Intro To The New Series. Somehow I missed it.  I was cruising through life, doing my thing, working hard, and trying to move forward. What did I miss? That my body was what took me through life. And it was quite a rude awakening.  Like a doctor telling you and your wife that you were headed for total disability — […]

Final Installment in the Get Unstuck Series. People get stuck for several reasons: The Past The Future Your Energy None of the 3 have to keep you stuck.  First, you have to identify the source of “Stuck,” and then decide how to move through it. Unstuck becomes a choice — but only after understanding the Stuck.  Stare at the Cost-Benefit and decide if […]