Thrive with Kira Sabin: A Positive Psychology Podcast

I am celebrating my two year anniversary soon and as a recovering fixer and super independent, this is a big deal for me. But there was a moment in the beginning that I know can see was a turning point for me.  If I wouldn't have been able to speak up and get past it, we probably wouldn't be here today. I am going to share that story today and if you want to learn how to ask for what you need in a...

Confession time...did you know I am a recovering fixer? Yup.  It used to be a major problem. But not only did it not get me to the relationship I wanted, it ultimately made me an asshole. Let me break down for you why it's important to not date for potential and why you need to change it. Plus, work on changing it in the next Owner's Manual Class with me.   Check it out here.

Hey there Hot Pantses! Today I am talking about one of my favorite topics when it comes to dating and relationships.  Making decisions out of love or fear. So many things we say in the name of love are not actually love at all. I will be breaking down the difference today and give you something to think about. Don't forget to check out our trips at LOAS Travel !

Oh Hot Pants... I am channeling some Pat Benatar today and am All Fired UP! Let's talk about this scary word "settling" and what it REALLY means.   Trust me, I have some big thoughts that are going to change the way you think of settling.  Who's excited! Don't forget there are a couple of spots left to my Costa Rica retreat in Feb, 2017.  Check it out here.

If you are single, you have a job to do.  Maybe you didn't know that...but I am here to tell you the truth! Your job, as I break it down on the podcast today, is to know understand what your true goal is in love. Is it crazy chemistry? A long-term relationship? The whole kit and kaboodle? That's great!  Then are you living a life and making choices to get there? I am laying it down today.  Join me...

GHOSTING!!!! I pretty much think it is the bane of our existence in dating.   Dramatic, maybe.  Untrue?  Nope. Ghosting is pretty much crap for lots of reasons...I wrote the article about that here. But today I break down the REAL reason that ghosting is a problem for everyone! Check it out!

We have apologies, announcements, haikus, jedi mind tricks, everything all over this episode. But if there is one thing it is....it is real. Because it is my goal to start doing more podcasts and just sharing my knowledge.  Even if it sounds awkward... You're welcome. Check out the new singles travel site and join me in Costa Rica! http://loastravel.com/

I have been known to buy a ticket on the crazy train once or twice:) Listen up as I breakdown the difference about truths vs stories in our heads and how they can affect our new relationships.   Oh, and I share a "Kira being ridiculous" story to help you learn.  My pain, your gain. You're welcome...:) Want to join me in Greece ?  Otherwise, find out info about the Owner's Manual Class here  or wor...

Shit just got real. I think when we are dating and all things seem lovely and everyone is on their best behavior, we forget about the shit. The bad days. The rough times. The days we are just not fucking winning at life. This is a story about those times:)

No, I am not trying to be a super downer.   I am a life coach for God's sake.  I think we know I am am mostly rainbows, unicorns with a side of sugar cookies.  The good kind. With sprinkles. But we are not fucking around here, people.  Love is too amazing to be messed with. Today I am going to shake shit up by letting you know why you immediately need to stop looking for love and what you need to...

Why are all so fucking hard on ourselves?  Seriously, that shit is killing us! Today, I breakdown why that feeling not only sucks but is pretty much the biggest (love) sabotage ever. I also give you three ways to start getting past all of that.

Seriously....stop doing that shit. Today I am going to break down the two reasons people have relationships and which one is killing you (Hint: it's the "complete me" reason)...cause I am good like that.

Bringing it down for a minute today... Listen up as I share my very first theory about love and it just might change your life.  Seriously!  Would I lie to you? Your adventure for today:  Journal the shit out of these questions. When was the last time you just showed up as completely you and made someone feel really, really special?  Leaving the worries behind. When have you approached someone wit...

OH SHIT. It is gettin' real today.  Real good, that is. Today is a big ass reality check about no matter how much you bitch about it over wine, are you actually ready for love? Listen up as I break down my thoughts on how to detect about whether or not you are even ready for love if someone great shows up.

Oh shit. It is gettin' real today.  Real good, that is. Today is a big ass reality check about (complicated) dating over 35 and what we need to do about it. Listen up as I break down my thoughts on settling, divorce and dating with kids.  It's smart, but a doozy.

Want a psychic?  Hire one. Want a relationship?  You effin' create. Men aren't mindreaders. Listen up as I break down how we need to stop believing that people love us more if they can read our minds. That is looney tunes and kicking your ass...

I have a friend and she wrote a book.   It is all kinds of genius. I have her on today as my first ever guest, Andrea Owen, talking about everything you need to know about closure, effed-up relationships and how to get over them. You want to listen.....immediately. Find Andrea's free chapters and bonus items  here  and make sure to get on over to amazon and  pick up your copy  today!

Don't you wish you had a crystal ball to see in the future if your new relationship will all work out? Well you can't so get over that shit now.  However, there are very tell tale signs of people who aren't really ready for a healthy relationship right now. Listen up as I break down  five different personalities that you you should run (not walk) away from.....immediately!  

Can men and women be friends? It is one more in the Kira Chronicles where I am sharing my own mistakes and heartaches for your learnin'.  You're welcome. Listen up as I talk today about my own personal story of thinking I knew what love was and being absolutely and completely wrong.

Sometimes we like to pretend, don't we? Pretend that we have all of our shit together and have everything all figured out.  You and I both know that is bullshit, right? Listen up as I talk today about my own personal story of being too awesome and it biting me in the ass.

So I spent a lot of my life waiting for love to find me.... It took me a long time to realize that I was the one pushing it away by just not asking for it! Listen up as I talk today about a personal story that left me with a huge a-ha moment and changed the way I look at love and relationships.

I can not lie, we believe a lot of crap when it comes to love. Ideas that keep us super duper safe and making excuses of why love is not working for us. Listen up as I talk today about dating myths that even the smartest of smarties are buying into and is kicking your ass.  It's a good one.

Sometimes we blame lots of the bad stuff on love. True story. We allow shitty behavior to happen and call it love although it has NOTHING to do with it. Listen up as I talk today about why that isn't love and what you can do about it. Your Adventure for Today: WHEN YOU ARE IN THAT "SICK TO YOUR STOMACH" UNHAPPY FEELING (IN ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP), I WANT YOU TO ASK YOURSELF IF YOU ARE STICKING A...

Dating can be complicated...... However, there are small mindsets that can make it all quite a bit easier and the dating jedi or ninja you secretly know you are. So grab your light saber or black belt and listen in as they are laid out in this 10 minutes of genius I made just for you. Cause I sure think you are awesome.

Rejection sucks. But what if that last rejection was actually not about you?  Or really any of them for that matter.... Here are my pretty darn smart thoughts on the way we love and why we can't really take a break-up so stinkin' seriously. Plus, you are going to get to here about a somewhat-ridiculous, personal kamikaze mission I did myself.  Listen up, Chachi!  Your Adventure for Today: When you...