Thrive with Kira Sabin: A Positive Psychology Podcast

Stupid fear. Sometimes we are pretty darn good at convincing ourselves that our excuses are the real reason we don't have a relationship. "We just didn't have instant chemistry." "I am not going to settle!" Those look like you are taking care of yourself but really....they are fear.  Here are my thoughts on it.   Your Adventure for Today: Journal on these questions. Do you want love?   Do you want...

Occasionally, life hits us over the head with an idea over and over again until we figure it out. That is what this podcast was for me. Listen in on how this mind-blowing idea will change the way you date.  I am serious....it is that good. YOUR ADVENTURE OF THE DAY: What could you begin doing differently when meeting new people to start things the way you want them to end? BONUS: I am going to sha...

They may not even know they are doing it, but people love attention. However, it is your job to make sure you are not just giving it away and getting nothing in return.  Left angry, frustrated and confused. Listen in on how to tell if something is using you for attention and what the hell to do about it!  YOUR ADVENTURE OF THE DAY: How are you teaching people to treat you when you first meet them?...

Seriously, it might be a problem. No you dirty birdies, I am not talking about orgasms!  Get your head out of the gutter.  What would your mother think?! I am talking about how I get up every day and fake most parts of my life.  Definitely this business, but plenty of other stuff too. Listen in on how and why I fake it every day and how it can work for you too.  Especially when it comes to love.  ...

Seriously, stop doing it. It is so beneath you. What do I mean? Here is what I mean. I regularly get to talk to really smart and amazing singles. However, sometimes we start to talk about a past situation they are stuck on or a mediocre situation that is still hanging around in the air like a bad cheese smell and the smart and amazing gets thrown out the window. They all of a sudden get that whine...

Truly, it is easy peasy. I believe that if there is one thing I have learned in this awesomesauce journey of being a life coach for singles, it is that we make many parts of meeting people and starting relationships WAY MORE COMPLICATED than we have to. We are all so stinkin' scared of getting hurt that we are creating weird ass lists, rules and games to pretty much guarantee no one is getting clo...

True Story. I realize that I am cotton candy and rainbows most of the time, but this podcast is about hard-core truths! Quit your whining...there is some really good stuff here today! Listen in as Kira drops some knowledge on the difference between love and relationships and which one you should be looking for. Also, a mindset that will help you move into better relationships when you find them. I...

WARNING!!!  I may have been a little salty on this podcast and pretty....let's use the word frustrated, shall we? It is just such an important topic and one that we all need to hear and talk about.  So please ignore my feistiness if it offends, but hear the message behind it.  It is a doozy. Listen below to this feisty, frustrated, saltiness that is all meant with love:)   Your Adventure of the Da...

We all have had the moments when we are out there dating and all of a sudden are asking ourselves... WTF?! I mean really...why do guys do that? Listen to my latest podcast that lays down some truth bombs about what to do when we get stuck in that WTF place. Your Adventure of the Day: Journal on these questions and feel free to share your answers below. Create a list of all of the WTF's in your lif...

Well shit! I blogged about this a while ago, but it needed to be said.  Out loud.  To the masses.   Yes, I am being dramatic. I can't even try to tell you how many times I hear the stories.  "We had a couple of dates, I was interested and then I never heard from them again!"   I mean, what? What about dating nowadays says that you don't need to let someone know you are interested? That letting the...

Oh, the heart. It plays such an important role in love.... It leads you towards love and even breaks a little when it is over. OR DOES IT??? Listen to my latest podcast that lays down some truth bombs about the heart and all of it's wily ways.   Today's hard core truth:  We can't always help who we are attracted to, but we DO get to choose if they stay in our life. Your Adventure of the Day: Journ...

So you say you want a relationship.   Ok, why?   When was the last time you sat down and really asked yourself that question? It is something I ask every potential client and many of them don't have the answer.  It is just assumed as the next step in so many people's lives.  But if you have no idea what you are looking for how will you know when you have found it?   Today, I am going to break down...

Fucking trust. It comes up a lot with my clients. And why wouldn't it?  Let's be honest, there are a lot of shit relationships out there and if you have been dating for awhile there is a pretty good chance you have been in at least one. You probably have even caught yourself saying  "I feel like I can't trust anyone."   But today I break down that is not about them, Sugarpants.  That shit is all a...

One day, I woke up and didn't want to date unavailable men anymore and I had to have a tough moment where I needed to fess up to myself that it was ME choosing them.  Again and again. I was the one buying the ticket to the crazy train and that shit was on me. Today, I break down what I have learned about why I was dating unavailable men and how I changed it. Learn from my mistakes,  grasshopper .

It is 2014.  Things are different than ever before And you have to be ready. Today, I breakdown one thing we are forgetting about love and relationships nowadays and is the most important thing.  Let me know if you agree. Here is the original  Psychology Today article.