Three Things I Didn't Learn By Not... By Jay Cafferata

When we want to find the next goal or desire of our heart - where do we start? Envy is considered a negative emotion - but what if it's not? What if it's our best tool to discover what we want next? This podcast discusses the use of an emotion like envy.

This podcast reflects on the lessons learned in the Garden of Eden - the snake (a plot device), a woman (seeking wisdom), and a man (eating). It's up to you to decide the lesson of original sin - what do you think the original sin was anyway?

Consent is something that we give - only we can give it.  Looking at consent and how it plays out in cultural competency is the topic of today's podcast!

This episode reflects on how our expectations have shifted over time - we now expect things to arrive instantaneously - like a text message or an email.  But writing a letter has different expectations.  Manifesting a Desired Outcome is all about the expectations.

This episode is about change - is it really hard?  or are we just making it "hard"?  Just asking for a friend . . . 

The Emperor's New Clothes is a tale about deception? About clothing choices? Representation? Or what?  This podcast looks at some of the things we can learn from revisiting the tale of the Emperor's New Clothes!

This episode explores the skills that actors use - that we could all use - in managing our emotions.

Fox Hunters enjoy the sport of hunting foxes - there are many skills that we can learn from Fox Hunters!  There are many elements to fox hunting - I don't cover them all - just three.  

Being picked is an important part of our childhood - this episode examines some of the things I didn't learn by Not being picked.

In this episode, I look at the ways we unpack concepts and ideas.  What we do before we unpack - is to pack.  There are limitations to what we pack when we go on vacation. This podcast is all about packing!

This episode explores the autopilot assumptions we accept as part of our own intersectionality.  The three things I didn't learn about being an Auto Pilot American are about being Normal, My Behavior, and Expectations for Me. 

This episode talks about how we use associations to create expectations to create experiences that become our Truth even though that Truth is not the TRUTH - that is implicit Bias in action - and how we don't consider how a person's accent colors our impression of them.  Is a French Accent exotic?  Is a Russian accent indicative of your job? This episode looks at how accents and implicit...

This episode explores boundaries as a visual exercise.  Teaching our children about boundaries is important - but we have to think about how we set our boundaries first!

In this episode, I explore the idea that oftentimes we see diversity as about the color or pigmentation of our skin and yet we know there are more types of diversity than just that. And Vampires - they cannot see themselves in the mirror - you will have to hear what I have to say about that!

A Moment of Clarity is when you have that moment when the truth or reality of a situation hits you.  When you realize that this could be good, bad, or indifferent.  What you do next is up to you!

This episode is about the saying "A Bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" as a way of exploring the message or the lessons that are the underlying meaning of this saying.  Don't dare to dream, you aren't good enough to be better and there are guarantees in life you can absolutely count on - all of which are suspect!  

This episode continues the theme of Three Things I didn't Learn.  Examining how women are treated in the border areas between the USA and Mexico reveals a life that is unseen and invisible - a life barely lived.  These powerful lessons help to demonstrate how women are used - not for themselves as sentient beings - but as messages to others.

It's that time of the year when folks join a gym, resolve to eat more healthily, take a walk every day, be more kind - all those things that we hope happen as we make our New Year Resolutions.  This episode talks about why affirmations might be a better way to get what you want rather than the goal-setting exercise doomed to failure called New Year's Resolutions.  

This episode examines how the words privilege and leverage can be used to take apart white skin privilege.

What does it mean when we allow others' perceptions of our body to impact our health?  Just thinking about why we make some of the choices we do about what we wear can help us to unlink the fear of others' perceptions and our own self-worth.

This podcast is about using the metaphor of stock certificates to see the value of your life.  When we use "shares" we are increasing our value or worth and increasing the value or worth in others.  This topic discusses how the currency of gratitude is the coin of our investment that creates the expected dividend or the manifestations of our best life. 

What do professional athletes have that we don't have besides, a great body, money, and status?  Well, not much - and we can learn the same lessons that catapult them into professional athlete lives without the concussions, wear and tear on the body, or as a life in the spotlight!  We can use these three things to change our lives for the better - will we get that million-dollar shoe con...

This episode tells the story of my 10 year old son and his experience playing a video game where he ultimately realized he was "working for the Bad Guy" and not doing the good in the world he thought he was.  How do we change when we discover we are wrong?

This episode examines how we use the words deserve and worthy and how they relate to our vision of ourselves and our dreams.  If you cannot say you are worthy of your dreams coming true - are you deserving of your dreams coming true????

Why do we choose some failures as part of our identity - "I'm a failure" and some we reject out of hand?  This episode looks at failure and even a little bit about success!